On 13/02/2023 12:41, 1st Century Apostolic Traditionalist wrote:
> On Monday, 13 February 2023 at 08:14:48 UTC, Timreason wrote:
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>> As you know, I advocate that their relationship should be celibate.
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> Well, Tim how many in all seriousness actually remarry to remain 'celibate' all their married life?
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They may not keep to celibacy. But as they get older they may get to the
point where celibacy is what the Lord leads them to. They can repent of
what's gone before.
There are two approaches to this: (1) Assume there IS sin, even though
there may not be (even allowing that this is perhaps unlikely), or (2)
Assume there is NO sin (IOW, accord them 'The benefit of the doubt').
I run with the second option, rather akin to our legal system, which has
the principle that a person is presumed innocent, rather than guilty,
even when their guilt appears almost certain.
You see, whatever line is taken, in such a generally private matter
their compliance with teaching remains unknown to the congregation or
its leaders, so it has to be a matter of their conscience before God.
The main thing is not to exclude them from fellowship because they
*might* be sinning, if there's no hard evidence that they actually are.
If we start excluding sinners, or even people who *might* be sinners,
then EVERYONE would be excluded! We are ALL sinners, as we know from
scripture, and ALL therefore have fallen short.
> And those who remarry, often marry unbelievers, increasing their already continuing iniquity for the life of the forbidden marriage.
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I have known examples where the unbeliever later comes to the Lord, so
that possibility should be borne in mind.
>> But
>> I don't advocate that people should be lonely.
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> Maybe that is what what God requires for that person, certainly not them overriding Christ's instruction that marriage is not for sundering but only at the death of the first spouse.
The 'Maybe' there is the key word. They *could* be called to a lonely
life, but we are (as CS Lewis pointed out) not to be concerned with the
stories of others. Everyone's walk with God is personal and individual
and tailored to them, and therefore different.
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>> No-one can police it to
>> see if they are complying, of course, but God will know.
>> Tim.
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> Well, as the person is now Living in the sin of Adultery, the Church must excommunicate such wicked persons or become contaminated and a sharer in their sin along with them.
Well, only if it is KNOWN that they are not celibate. Even if there's a
string of kids, sometimes falling to temptation does not mean they are
not working towards celibacy and repentance!
Tim.