On Tuesday, October 19, 2021 at 11:17:57 AM UTC-5, Raj Kumar wrote:
> > Irfan sahib, do you know that Gurbani preaches the five things we should try to give up are: 'kaam, krodh, lobh, moh, ahankaar'. I think about this occasionally, and believe that out of these five, 'moh' would be the hardest one for me to give up. Oh well, at least I could live without the other four, not bad! :-)
> ***ZS, is meN ko'ii shak nahiiN k "moh" se chhuTkaaraa paanaa bahut kaThin hai. Shrimad Bhagvad Gita ke anusaar, hameN "involvement without attachment" ka usuul apnaanaa chaahiye magar aisa ho nahiiN paataa. is liye, agar aap is jaal se nahiiN nikal sakteeN to ko'ii Hairat ki baat nahiiN hai MAGAR --------- yeh kyaa k "Oh well, at least I can live without the other four". Can you? At least I don't think so.
Raj uncle,
OMG! As I was typing the post you quoted from, I somehow had a feeling that you might respond to my assertion. You know me so well! Perhaps I should not have made a categorical statement and instead said "I can try to live without the other four". Would you buy that? :)
Seriously though, I sometimes actually rank these five vices in my head, and think which ones would be relatively easier to give up.
With perfect honesty, my list with increasing order of difficulty would read :
kaam, lobh, krodh, ahankaar, moh. As expected, 'moh' ranks last, almost impossible to give up.
> 1. kaam --- ZS, agar is lafz ka matlab 'work' hai to aap is musiibat ke baGhair yaqeenan rah sakti haiN. albatta, agar is ka matlab "inordinate desire" hai to yeh 'illat moh-maayaa ke jaal se kam nahiiN hai. aur aap Khud maanti haiN k aap aise jaal se mukt nahiiN ho sakteeN!
I guess I could give up 'work', but all play and no work would get so boring after a while! Then you'll again find me wanting to grade papers, cook, even do laundry or dishes. I may actually start missing all that. :)
And regarding "moh-maaya", that would be fairly easy for me to give up, provided we take 'moh' out of the equation.
> 2. krodh --- ZS, jitna krodh aap ko aata hai, kisi aur ko kam hi aata hoga. yaqeen jaaniye --- yeh baat maiN nahiiN kah rahaa, yeh baat
> Khud aap ke pati-dev ne mujh se kahii hai! :-)
Oh dear. But of course!! My anger is selective Raj uncle, 90% of the time it is directed towards your source of information, and justifiably so!
Here is a JE she'r:
uThhaa kar kyuN na pheNkeN saarii chiizeN?
faqat kamroN meN Tehlaa kyuN kareN ham??
Don't get me started on that!! :-)
The remaining 10% of my krodh is brought on by a breed of politicians and their sheeple followers. Some of them make me so mad, I want to punch them. Can you imagine, a totally non-violent, gentle me having such intense emotions? :)
Seriously Raj uncle, I still remember the exact moment I felt real anger for the first time, I even remember the name of the street I was driving on. I was in my mid twenties. It was a brand new emotion for me, I had never felt it prior to that. So, I am not a naturally angry person. I can conquer it, but it feels good sometimes. I get tired of being the nice guy all the time. :)
> 3. lobh --- ZS, yeh lobh nahiiN to aur kyaa hai -------
> "aap ne mujhe 5 meN se 4.5 marks diye haiN, please change it to 4.6
> OR
> aap ne mujhe 4.9 points diye haiN, please change it to 4.95, etc."!
> aap yeh nahiiN samajhtiiN k jitne marks aap ko diye jaate haiN, un meN pahle hi se izaafa kiyaa hota hai kyuuN-k ham laakh koshish kareN to bhi apni "personal feelings" ko nazar-aNdaaz nahiiN kar paate. goyaa, ham bhi to "attachment" ke jaal meN phaNse huye haiN naa? :-)
Oh 'lobh' in that sense, I see.
I was actually thinking of being greedy in a different sense. I generally have no greed towards material things, money has never really impressed me.
I could try to work on other types of 'lobh'. I guess I could live with an occasional 'B'. :)
> 4. ahankaar --- ZS, yeh ahankaar nahiiN hai to aur kyaa hai -------
> "your best student ever,
> aap ki zahiin-tareen shaagirda,
> the senior-most student of Irfan sahib (senior-most in an army of 2), :-)
> jo she'r maiN aek baar sun leti huuN , voh hamesha ke liye mujhe yaad ho jaata hai (matlab us ka chaahe aaye na aaye), :-)
> mujh ko har mauq'e ke she'r muNh zabaanii yaad haiN ( baHr aur vazn meN chaahe na hoN). Khair, yeh aek "judii" baat hai. :-)
I knew this was coming! voh kyaa hai naa:
"............................................. magar kuchh kuchh
baRhaa bhi dete haiN ham zeb-e-daastaaN ke liye!" :-))
You see, I already listed 'ahankaar' harder to give up than kaam, krodh and lobh.
Raj uncle, you know I never put others down to raise my self esteem. But yes, I admit I could try to be more modest. But then it wouldn't be me! My best friend G thinks that is a distinct part of my charm! :)
> A lot more after hearing your "far-fetched defenses"!
See, no defenses, just honest answers. The other four vices can possibly be dealt with, but what is the use, I am so doomed by 'moh'.
> chaliye, jaane se pahle aek she'r hi sunte jaaiye -----
>
> Qais ki baateN sunte jaao, in meN ma'ani mat DhuuNDo
> is paagal ko hosh gaNvaaye aek zamaana beet gayaa! :-)
> aap ka shubh-chintak, Raj uncle
I actually found your comments quite meaningful. :)
In any case, would we really want that reformed Zoya, devoid of most worldly vices????
That'll spell the end of this thread for sure, she won't be requesting any more Bollywood songs or quoting any relevant asha'ar. Sounds kind of boring. :-))
_________Zoya