[史蒂芬.柯維博士] 發現了 90/10 的定律
twhsi
發現了 90/10 的定律
作者 : Stephen Covey
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
它將改變你的一生（最低限度，它將改變你對不同情況的反應）。
90/10 的定律就是--生命的 10% 是由你的際遇所組成，餘下的 90% 則由你的反應而決定。
這意味著什麼？我們無法掌握 10% 的際遇。
我們無法控制汽車壞掉、航班誤點，延誤行程，甚或因為一個魯莽的駕駛造成的交通事故。
我們無法控制那 10% 的際遇，但餘下的 90% 則不然。你可以決定餘下的 90% 。
如何做到呢？ ... 憑你的反應。
你不能改變一個紅燈，但你能夠控制你的反應。別讓他人操控你的情緒，你能夠控制你的反應。
讓我們舉個例子。
你與你的家人吃早餐，你的女兒不小心把咖啡潑倒在你的襯衫上，這件事你無可奈何。
但接下來發生的事情卻是由由你的反應而定。
你開始責罵。
你狠狠地臭罵女兒一頓，她開始哭了起來。然後你又把怨氣發洩在太太身上，責難她把咖啡放在桌邊。接踵而來的是一場夫妻爭辯。你生氣地上樓更換你的襯
衫。
你下樓時，發現你的女兒正一面哭著吃早餐，一面整理上學的書包，結果，她錯過了上學的巴士。
太太趕著上班，你匆忙開車把女兒送回學校。因為已經遲到了，你以時速四十英里在一條限速三十英里上的路奔馳。
由於被警察延誤，並付了六十元罰款，你到達女兒學校時，已經遲到十五分鐘。你的女兒沒有跟你道別，便急急忙忙跑入學校。
而你到達公司，已是九時二十分了，這時你竟然發現──你忘了帶公事包。
這是非常糟糕的一天，而你感到你的運氣每況越下，你開始渴望回家。
可是當你下班回家，你感到你與太太及女兒的關係上出現微小裂痕..........
為什麼？ ... 一切皆由你早上的反應而起。
為何你會有如此糟糕的一天？（選擇題來了）
Ａ）是咖啡所造成的嗎？
Ｂ）是你的女兒所造成的嗎？
Ｃ）是警察所造成的嗎？
Ｄ）是你所造成的嗎？
正確答案是Ｄ。
你無法控制女兒打翻咖啡一事，但你在緊接那五秒內的反應，讓一整天的壞事開始發生。
接下來是由於你不同的反應，造成所有的事情有所不同的故事........
咖啡翻倒在你身上，你的女兒幾乎要哭了，但你溫柔地說：「親愛的，這並不算什麼，但你下次得小心一點了。」
你拿起毛巾便上樓去。在你更衣完畢並拿起你的公事包後，你走下樓去，
望出窗外，你看到你的孩子正在上巴士。她回頭並向你揮手。你早了五分鐘回到公司，並親切地與你的同事打招呼。
你的上司亦對你新的一天給予正面的評價。
看到兩者的分別嗎？
由同一個開端所引起的兩個情境，但結局完全兩樣。
為什麼？
皆因你的不同的反應而起。
你或許真的無法掌控 10% 的際遇，但剩下的 90% 則可以由你的反應而定。
**以下有一些實踐 90/10 定律的方法。
如有人說起你的是非，千萬別當一塊「海綿」，讓那些攻擊性的說話像擋風玻璃上的雨水般的流走。別讓那些負面評價纏繞著你！
對際遇適當的回應能夠使你的生活不受破壞。一個錯誤的反應能夠使你失去朋友、過度生氣、甚或讓壓力壓得喘不過氣來。
如果車子拋錨了，你會如何感想？你會生氣嗎？你會否猛擊車上的方向盤？
我的一個朋友就把方向盤打得掉下來！
你會怒罵嗎？你的血壓是否急速上升？你會否嘗試去打車子？
誰都不會在意你上班遲到了十秒？何必讓一輛拋錨的車破壞你的心情？
記著 90/10 的定律，別在意。
你被通知說你被辭退了。你為何失眠與憤怒 ?
事情總是發生了。不如用你拿來擔心的精力及時間去找尋新工作吧！
航班延誤了，而它將影響你一整天的行程。為何將你的怒氣發洩在服務員的身上？她並不能阻止事情發生。
你大可以用延遲的時間看一些書，或認識旁邊的乘客。
不要憤怒，它將令你的一天變的更糟。
現在，你懂得了 90/10 的定律。實踐它，你將會發現它的驚人效果。嘗試實行它，你將不會有任何損失。
90/10 的定律非常神奇，而只有很少數的人懂得運用它。
你實行的結果會如何呢？
超過百萬人沈溺在痛苦、挫折、陷落在各種問題與心傷之中。我們必須理解並實踐 90/10 的定律。
它將改變你的一生。願與各位並勉！
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Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the
way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided
by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what
happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane
will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver
may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%.
The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How? By your
reaction. You cannot control a red light. but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You
have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be
determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your
daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After
scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing
the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle
follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs,
you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast
and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave
immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to
school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph
speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive
at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying
goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you
forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues,
it seems to get worse and worse.
You look forward to coming home. When you arrive home, you find small
wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why? Because
of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D". You had no control over what happened with the
coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad
day.
Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over
you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you
just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back
down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on
the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and
cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you
are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same.
Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do
not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was
determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says
something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll
off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment
affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting
stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering
wheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do
you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at
work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle,
and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It
will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another
job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the
day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at
the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle
is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials,
problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10
principle. It CAN change your life!!! Enjoy...
twhsi
我很喜歡，但覺得翻譯有點不順
我也改了一下後，和大家分享
這篇文章讓我想起了我們以前討論過的"尾舵精神"
大家共勉之
Jennifer Ling-Ling Tseng
Jennifer
twhsi
好久不見
若是有好的英文文章
也請不吝和我們分享喔
週六台中凌健老師舉辦的活動
http://groups.google.com/group/8habit/msg/cc547b5eedef313a
引-導師--吳咨杏 Jorie Wu據說也是2000年TOAST MASTER的前會長呢
真有意思
carelezz
文章以对事情反应带来不同效果的方式来指引大家，应用积极的心态来看待、处理事情。
这诚然不错，但却没有直指本心。
就拿咖啡时间分析一下。
起因：女儿不小心将咖啡泼在我的衬衫上。
结果：我需要上楼重新换一件衬衫。
我的早餐时间缩短了。
问题是我什么要生气？
别人的无心之失都可以原谅，更何况自己的女儿。换件衬衫虽然麻烦一下，但也没什么大不了的。早餐时间缩短更不值一提。
如果我生气的话，我想大概是情绪控制了自己，不能理性地思考问题。
推而广之，许多事情其实稍微静下心来花两分钟理性地思考一下，我们总会作出明智的选择。
重要的是对自己的修炼，提高修养，独立思考，增强解决问题的能力，保持良好的心态，这些应该才是本源的事情。
Jennifer Ling-Ling Tseng
沒問題......
Jorie是我的role model，當初會參加Toastmasters Club就是因為看到她在台上的丰采
Open Space是很創新的方式
去參加的人....一定有值回票價的感覺...呵呵~~~
如果聽Jorie講英文演講，那更是不得了了......
Jennifer
twhsi
>>对自己的修炼，提高修养，独立思考，增强解决问题的能力，
>>保持良好的心态，这些应该才是本源的事情。
這段話說的很好，這個故事固然讓人感動，
但並沒有說出如何培養自己如何"回應"的方法
以我自己的經驗，我覺得我在寫晨間日記的過程中收穫良多
讓我得以每日，每週，每半年檢視自己作過的事情
這是我的心得
to Jennifer
明天下午有空的話也希望能到明道去看一下Jorie
jennifer的role model，一定值得認識一下