Hello,
1. Yes.
2. You can use the UNITE database as your reference sequences. It can be downloaded from this page:
http://qiime.org/home_static/dataFiles.html
You will need to make sure that you are pointing to the UNITE files (rep_set and taxonomy) rather than the default Greengenes to make use of them during the OTU picking and taxonomic assignment steps.
3. If you use pick_open_reference_otus.py, you can suppress the alignment and tree building with --suppress_align_and_tree
Also, you can point to the UNITE rep set with --reference_fp. To make it use the UNITE taxonomy mapping file for the assign_taxonomy.py step, you would need to use specify a parameters.txt file with the --parameter_fp option, and have a lines in it like these:
assign_taxonomy:id_to_taxonomy X
assign_taxonomy:reference_seqs_fp Y
where X is the filepath to the taxonomy/97_otu_taxonomy.txt file, and Y is the filepath to the rep_set/97_otus.fasta file from the UNITE files.
You could do the process step by step if you wanted to use that approach as well (e.g. pick_otus.py, pick_rep_set.py, assign_taxonomy.py, and make_otu_table.py).
4. Generally we use 97% on ITS as well, but there isn't necessarily an exact relationship between percent identity and species level separation (that's apart from the question of a definitive notion about what exactly a microbial "species" is).
-Tony