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"Laurie Kurs" <bu...@usa.com> May 31 05:53AM +0200
Decipering the "Why" someone would choose cremation can be a crucial part of this scenario. IF the reason is solely economics....one could investigate local prices of cremation and compare to basic funeral fees. I just did, and in my neighborhood the costs are about the same. IF the reason is trying to be "GREEN", one could investigate how cremation actually impacts our air. If the "why" can be uncovered, then educated decisions will likely follow.I No judgments...just factual details.
laurie
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No argument that education is important. But in the recent case in question (requesting tahara followed by cremation) I'm not impressed that the person lacks education, but rather the person has a thought out personal preference. If someone truly knows what tahara is, it's hard to imagine they don't also know the differences and implications between burial and cremation.
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Dear Folks,
These are tough issues, and I think it important to understand that different areas of North America have different Jewish communities. Here on the West Coast, San Francisco in particular, I think, it is quite a struggle to maintain traditions. In situations like this, I think we need to take every opportunity we can to EDUCATE…that, in part, is what Gamliel is training us for. Many people simply don't know there is another way… and to many, the compared prices of cremation and burial make a difference.
I offered a 4 part series in my congregation about caring for the sick, taharah, burial, and the first year of mourning. It was very well received, and there has been follow up interest. So, I'm jus' saying, to mix in with our discouragement a good dollop of education…a way to be part of the solution. But I do believe it's much greater than we can fix. I also believe, if burial was cheaper than cremation, we would have a different situation on our hands.
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Taharah prior to cremation?
"Laurie Kurs" <bu...@usa.com> May 26 07:02AM +0200
I seem to recall that the question posed was about TAHARA....just Tahara
Therefore...all the responses reflected that inquiry. But, I do have a sense that the answers given so far probably also reflect how the answers would be regarding shmira....
Nowadays...with some people expressing untraditioanl views ... including the view of doing what one feels like, regardless of, in spite of, and contrary to what has been the traditions - is what opened this discussion in the first place.
Another meaningful, helpful and sensible tradition is hitting the dust. Nowadays it is becoming almost commonplace for people to sit shalosh......if at all.
Have we Jews really evolved to such a degree that we mourn less, grieve faster and 'bounce back" that even shalosh is often considered too inconvenient aka not necessary?
For those chevre's - like mine - that hold to traditional values, minchag and halacha..... our responses to "go with the flow" will always be, a resounding, "no". It is just not for us.
If our chevre is unwilling to do a tahara...we know the FD is free to call upon a different group - thererefore, we are relieved of doing what we think is inappropriate...
We understand that chevres all over are free to do as their policies guide them. And for that reason, we can expect quite a divergence of opinion here. Answers across the whole spectrum!!!
laurie
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Subject: Re: [jewish-funerals] Taharah prior to cremation?
I have struggled with this question for several years. As a member of a chevra kadisha, it broke my heart when my father-in-law died and the family decision was to honor his wishes and have his body cremated. I was grateful for the beautiful service he was given (in our home) and that eased my pain.
I haven't completely resolved my feelings, since I see the merits in both sides as they have been presented. However, I find it curious that the discussion seems to involve an all-or-nothing proposition that focuses exclusively on tahara with no mention of shmira. I can understand why a hevra, or some individual members, might not want to do a tahara prior to cremation, but what about at least providing comfort to the soul through shmira?
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I am part of a long-standing community Chevra (in Portland, ME). Recently we have received two requests for Taharah prior to cremation. Our policy subcommittee is wondering what other Chevras (those who would accept this request) do in this situation. Thanks for any input. Jean Berman (formerly Martens)
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Kerry Swartz <kerry....@gmail.com> May 26 05:56AM -0700
We are a community Chevra Kadisha that serves anyone along the Hewish
spectrum of beliefs. We are also the Jewish funeral provider with a
hearse and everything. The local Shuls run their own cemeteries but we
provide the services and and in some cases, manpower, to complete a
Minyan, fill a grave, prepare Shiva prayers, etc. When the question of
cremation comes up, we simply don't do it or assist in the preparations
for it. We can't serve our entire community (from Lubavitch to
unaffiliated/secular) if we did. Interfaith burial isn't even on the table.
But the pressure is there and the challenge to traditional approaches
will inevitably cause some sort of change, whether it's a new group or
people go elsewhere for the more liberal options being discussed. We're
just simply guided by Halacha and tradition which makes these sorts of
discussions easy for us, likely not so for those requesting it.
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Rabbi Joe Blair <rabb...@hotmail.com> May 31 11:57PM -0400
I have to say that this is not a settled question where I live. One Chevrah
will not do it, the other will. Since these two Chevrai are all there is,
and they cover different geographic areas, it is unclear what the norm in
the larger community might be.... (Makes me think of the concept of two
circuit courts that hold oppositely, but there is no supreme court to serve
as arbiter!)
While I am writing, I also have to echo what Dan Fendel said about Gamliel
courses. I have now taken four of the courses, and some of them more than
once. They are outstanding and look squarely at some of these really tough
questions, providing information to help each Chevrah decide what to do for
good reasons. As strongly as people feel, there is just not one right
answer that fits all. So much of the work of the CK is Minhag that has come
to be viewed as Halachah....
And speaking of the Gamliel courses the next one scheduled is on Nechama,
Comforting. It will start on July 15th (with a logistics session on July
8th for those who have not taken a course using the online system). This
course was very good before, and is likely to be even better this time
around. The instructors engaged for it are first rate, the material is
right on target for those in the CK and all who deal with comforting those
at the end of life and mourners. The information taught is both practical
and theoretical, explaining in an understandable way the background and
theory, and also giving valuable hands-on how-to advice and tools.
If you can, I strongly suggest you consider taking this course. You can
find the information and register on the jewish-funerals.org website.
Shalom,
Joe Blair
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Thank you for challenging my knee-jerk reaction to cremation. As important as I feel it is to educate in this area, on an individual level, it would be far more appropriate to start with your simple question: "why cremate?" which recognizes that their views on, and desire for, cremation may be as deeply held and complex as my opposition to it. Which is not to say that further dialogue might not follow, but always, we should start from a position of respect. So, thank you again for reminding me of that.And yes - this would make for an interesting research topic.