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- Taharah prior to cremation? [2 Updates]
"Laurie Kurs" <bu...@usa.com> May 26 07:02AM +0200
I seem to recall that the question posed was about TAHARA....just Tahara
Therefore...all the responses reflected that inquiry. But, I do have a sense that the answers given so far probably also reflect how the answers would be regarding shmira....
Nowadays...with some people expressing untraditioanl views ... including the view of doing what one feels like, regardless of, in spite of, and contrary to what has been the traditions - is what opened this discussion in the first place.
Another meaningful, helpful and sensible tradition is hitting the dust. Nowadays it is becoming almost commonplace for people to sit shalosh......if at all.
Have we Jews really evolved to such a degree that we mourn less, grieve faster and 'bounce back" that even shalosh is often considered too inconvenient aka not necessary?
For those chevre's - like mine - that hold to traditional values, minchag and halacha..... our responses to "go with the flow" will always be, a resounding, "no". It is just not for us.
If our chevre is unwilling to do a tahara...we know the FD is free to call upon a different group - thererefore, we are relieved of doing what we think is inappropriate...
We understand that chevres all over are free to do as their policies guide them. And for that reason, we can expect quite a divergence of opinion here. Answers across the whole spectrum!!!
laurie
Sent: Sunday, May 25, 2014 at 9:39 PM
From: "'Ilene Rubenstein' via jewish-funerals" <jewish-...@googlegroups.com>
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Subject: Re: [jewish-funerals] Taharah prior to cremation?
I have struggled with this question for several years. As a member of a chevra kadisha, it broke my heart when my father-in-law died and the family decision was to honor his wishes and have his body cremated. I was grateful for the beautiful service he was given (in our home) and that eased my pain.
I haven't completely resolved my feelings, since I see the merits in both sides as they have been presented. However, I find it curious that the discussion seems to involve an all-or-nothing proposition that focuses exclusively on tahara with no mention of shmira. I can understand why a hevra, or some individual members, might not want to do a tahara prior to cremation, but what about at least providing comfort to the soul through shmira?
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From: jeanbermanmartens <jeanberm...@gmail.com>
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Subject: [jewish-funerals] Taharah prior to cremation?
I am part of a long-standing community Chevra (in Portland, ME). Recently we have received two requests for Taharah prior to cremation. Our policy subcommittee is wondering what other Chevras (those who would accept this request) do in this situation. Thanks for any input. Jean Berman (formerly Martens)
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For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.Kerry Swartz <kerry....@gmail.com> May 26 05:56AM -0700
We are a community Chevra Kadisha that serves anyone along the Hewish
spectrum of beliefs. We are also the Jewish funeral provider with a
hearse and everything. The local Shuls run their own cemeteries but we
provide the services and and in some cases, manpower, to complete a
Minyan, fill a grave, prepare Shiva prayers, etc. When the question of
cremation comes up, we simply don't do it or assist in the preparations
for it. We can't serve our entire community (from Lubavitch to
unaffiliated/secular) if we did. Interfaith burial isn't even on the table.
But the pressure is there and the challenge to traditional approaches
will inevitably cause some sort of change, whether it's a new group or
people go elsewhere for the more liberal options being discussed. We're
just simply guided by Halacha and tradition which makes these sorts of
discussions easy for us, likely not so for those requesting it.--
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Laurie -
Good point. There may be other reasons for cremation, as well. For example, while I would never dream of having my body cremated, my sister likes the idea of being able to scatter the ashes, which seems more "freeing" to her than burying someone. Some people may want to keep the ashes with them in their home, and may choose cremation for that reason.
Susan