(rev 2.1) What is Love, and Three Parts of Love - {HRI 20080428-V2.1}
Koos Nolst Trenite
28 April 2008
{HRI 20080428-V2.1}
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on 9 June 2008)
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What is Love
Love is the desire to feel the soul of others, with the desire that
those others feel your soul too.
How MUCH you desire to feel and can feel the soul of others
truly, and
how MUCH you want to let those others and how much you can let
those others truly feel your soul too,
is then, together, 'how MUCH you love others.'
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And the same applies to others, regarding others loving you,
isn't it.
Whether others love you too, is thus NOT determined by
you, but by those others themselves,
and by their spiritual condition,
how free they are to show their soul to you, for you
to feel who they truly are,
which requires someone to naturally have the
ability
meaning, NOT smothered during
childhood or adolescence, but
nurtured by a truly loving upbringing
and school time,
or else, which is then necessary, by
education about the matter, to become
again able
to see and sense and determine, to whom you
CAN show which parts of your soul or feelings,
and to whom one actually can not at all show
one's soul, meaning:
not baring those of your feelings that
you would show and give to others,
but sharing those, nevertheless very
true and constructive feelings from
your soul,
by which you would - naturally - face
and oppose Criminal Minds and their
helpers. *(2)(3)(4)
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I repeat: Whether others love you too, is thus NOT
determined by you, but by those others - and I beg you,
please not make such a mistake,
lest you 'turn into a geisha' or get caught in
endlessly pleasing a Criminal Mind, or many,
for instance when you are trapped into
pleasing one or both of your parents or a
teacher WHEN and BECAUSE these are Criminal
Minds that are 'in charge of' part of your
life,
you "solving their malice" by pleasing or
loving them, *(5)(2)(3)
"because" - so they make you feel and believe - "YOU
determine whether they love you or not, by YOUR own
behavior or love for them." *(2)(3)
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I repeat, whether others love you, is NOT
determined by you, but by those others them-
selves.
In fact, Criminal Minds - having all
in reverse - and their helpers, WILL
demand of you to "see and feel,"
that "by pleasing them sufficiently or
not, 'YOU determine' whether these do
love you or not." *(5)(2)
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It FEELS and seems indeed, in practice, that it IS you
who determines, whether others love you or not:
Most people have quite a 'loving-and-being-loved'
nature AS A QUALITY OF THEIR SOUL,
so when you truly desire to feel the soul of another
and can do so and dare to bare your own soul to
those others too, for others to feel your nature
too, then
they are likely to react very favorably, and then it
SEEMS to you, that "you make them love you."
But they were already loving you to begin with
- which is a natural condition, normal people
do love each other -
and you merely allowed them to connect to it
and to express it.
(I already gave you an example in 'Definition
of Sanity,' *(2) and you will find, that I do
often end an HRI with an example or with a
suggestion in that spirit, to the reader.)
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Three Parts of Love
Love between people
- or Love given by someone else, according to his or her nature,
to you, which we looked at, above -
can have a combination of three Parts (and so, Love can differ
considerably to the degree in which these, the following Parts,
are present):
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1. Strength (volume of feeling; thrilling, encompassing ability;
ability to blast away Bad Energies and keep these away).
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2. Quality (level of Beauty; Care; Elegance; Sensitivity; including
many perceptional abilities, a level of refined - appropriate
and appreciated - creating and giving and enjoying to receive).
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3. Durability (tenacity; longevity; true and thus faithful to all
Loved; naturally able to Love many without allowing fixation on
one; not deceived and lured away from those one genuinely Loves,
which are very many).
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These Three Parts of Love,* may ideally be of the same magnitude, in a
person, but these Parts in a Loving person
- his or her Strength of Love, his or her Quality of Love, and
the Durability of his or her Love -
in a real relationship or friendship, in real life, are not of equal
magnitude.
You tend to expect, however, that great Strength of someone's Love
for you, also does imply or suggests high Quality of Love for you,
and automatically - inevitably I would think - it gives you the
expectation of Durability.
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Rather than being 'hooked' by only one of those Parts of Love, given
to you,
be it Strength of Love, or be it Quality of Love, or be it
rather Durability of Love,
when the other two of the three qualities seem implied to you
already by ONE of the qualities being present,
expectations are of course more accurate, and thus much more likely
rewarded, true as they are,
when you look at the whole, at all Three Parts of Love.
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Koos Nolst Trenite 'Cause Trinity'
human rights philosopher and poet
'God gave Solomon wisdom
and very great insight,
and a breadth of understanding
as measureless
as the sand on the seashore.'
1 Kings 4:29
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Footnotes:
(*) This adds to 'The Promised Definition of Friendship,' and
related HRI's:
'The Promised Definition of Friendship' (PDOF)
{HRI 20050327-V3.2.1}
(27 March 2005 - Version 3.2.1 on 16 Aug 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/talk.politics.misc/msg/810f16ae89a3bf43
http://www.geocities.com/plato_world/pdf/HRI_20050327-V2.4.1_Friendship_q1-p5.pdf
See also 'The Canticle of Canticles' by King Solomon,
and
'Leonardo Da Vinci - About Aliens, Dimensions, Consciousness,
Time, And Earth's Past And Future'
{HRI 20040829-V3.5}
(29 August 2004 - Version 3.5 on 19 Oct 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/sci.military.naval/msg/a53f660dfe82afad
(1) 'Definition Of Sanity' DOS
{HRI 20040410-V2.0.1}
(10 April 2004 - Version 2.0.1 on 12 May 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/alt.politics/msg/767aa8ad19019afb
(2) 'The First Law of Human Rights' (FLOHR)
{HRI 20060601-V3.1.2}
(1 June 2006 - Version 3.1.2 on 31 Dec 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/sci.military.naval/msg/7965a2cb5b6384f4
(3) 'Obviously the Second Law Of Human Rights' (SLOHR)
{HRI 20060924-V3.2}
(24 September 2006 - Version 3.2 on 6 Aug 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/alt.military/msg/99647b2379a3baa6
(4) 'Three Anecdotes about Koos Nolst Trenite - Intending others
to be decent to each other - What is 'Zero Tolerance' actually'
{HRI 20060305-V2.3} (ZTA)
(5 March 2006 - Issued 7 Dec 2007 - Version 2.3 on 30 May 2008)
http://groups.google.com/group/sci.military.naval/msg/e60b09110e1ad5d6
(5) 'The Rights of Criminal Minds' (RCM)
{HRI 20040108-V1.2.1}
(8 January 2004 - Version 1.2.1 on 9 Aug 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/alt.military/msg/93359b640af83e20
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References:
'Love On The Bridges Of Holland'
(18 Sept 2002 - Version 2.3 on 5 July 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/nl.politiek/msg/4e3355282ca6682b
'Defining God correctly - and Heaven, and Hell - What is
Monotheism' (DGC)
{HRI 20080406-V4.6}
(6 April 2008 - Version 4.6 on 1 June 2008)
http://groups.google.com/group/sci.physics/msg/ed5d350adb56e15a
'Plato On Making Love - And Defining Loneliness'
{HRI 20041114-V2.2.1}
(14 November 2004 - Version 2.2.1 on 28 May 2007)
http://groups.google.com/group/uk.politics.misc/msg/fcb838f7c6a1e346
{HRI 20041114-V2.0-UAA}
http://groups.google.com/group/misc.education/msg/ebdd8f227dd037e2
'A Poem Of Love And Adventure'
{HRI 20020717-V4.1}
(17 July 2002 - Version 4.1 on 27 June 2008)
http://groups.google.com/group/sci.military.naval/msg/0fb3eb3116639a22
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