Obviously no two romantic situations are exactly the same, but
I can at least relate the following story:
When my fiance and I started going out, for the first two dates
there was absolutely no physical stuff--we seemed very much to
click as far as all the other stuff went, though. Apparently,
as we were saying goodbye on the second date, there was a moment
very much like the one you describe, at least from his point of
view. I had no clue that he wanted to kiss me goodnight, and
so apparently (from his point of view) sort of brushed him off
at the end of what had been a very interesting and wonderful
evening. The next time we got together, he happened to be
sitting in a chair typing (we were composing a joint post to
some newsgroup) in front of me...timidly (I was rather shy back
then) I reached out and sort of half-massaged his back. Things
picked up from there, on the next few dates.
The point is that when he thought I was brushing him off at the
end of date #2, he began to strongly believe I was only
interested in him platonically, and (as I later found out)
resolved that if I didn't show any visible interest on the next
date, he was going to stop trying. Which would have been a
horrible mistake...
I guess the lesson, at least in our case, was that we both
should have been more assertive about how we felt. I don't
know if it applies to you and your friend, but perhaps it is
at least something to think about.
Hope it helps...
-Stephanie Wukovitz
st...@math.cornell.edu
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I should be so lucky,
Kev.
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