Any White Guys with Asian Girlfriends?
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It's nice to hear that you're supportive of your son. Would you
regard him as an asian american? Or more importantly, how does he see
himself? And how would racial or racist issues be handled for him?
You say that your son didn't seem bothered by such racist incidents.
But from my experience as a full asian male, growing up here, I try
not to let racists get their satisfaction. So often I tried not to
react when I was a kid, or else it would be a never ending series of
fights and detention, and perhaps expulsion from school(especially
after I learned martial arts and could seriously kick ass).
Therefore, I would be reluctant to physcially fight back because it
would be a lose-lose situation.
It's good that your son let his anger out by shouting back, and that
he didn't get into a fight, especially if there wasn't any other
adults around.
It's easy not to be bothered by it at first, but if it happens enough
then the memories might gnaw at oneself. No outward sign might show
up but inside there might be alot of repressed feelings or I also see
some asians merely become insensitive & socially unaware as a coping
mechanism.
Well this post of yours was good, but anyway do you realize how
racialist and ignorant some of your other posts are?
Is your kid a half asian and half white with "totally different racial
characteristics mixed in from both",
or more realistically, is he just a whole person? with the heritage
and social baggage of both?
Anyway it's nice to see an insufferable "asiaphile" continually on the
obsessive cruise for "exotic" asian chicks & dissing asian male
competition....
start the transformation into the enlightened "asiaphile"
questioning his old, initial & simplisitic preconceptions of asians
...
and laudibly rise to the intellectual and maturational
challenge of extra (although with positive aspects also) complexities,
racial issues, and responsibilities of interracial relationships, when
they have children.
On Fri, 13 Feb 1998 21:25:54 -0800, "william smyth"
<westsid...@msn.com> wrote:
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>I've been married to a Korean for 16 years. We have three boys. I always
>thought they were the best looking kids I'd ever saw. But I wondered if
>it was a Daddy's bias. However other people comment on how good
>looking they are. So if you're thinking of marrying an Asian woman, go
>ahead. Not only will the kids come out good looking and smart, but I
>think you will have a happy family life.
>I've only encountered two incidents of prejudice. Once I took my seven
>year
>old to a posh beach club for a birthday party. This really old white lady
>( a
>colonial dame or something like that) was giving me and my son real looks
>of hate. You know the scrunched up old prune face. I was surprised that
>it
>didn't bother me one bit. Another time at a kids baseball game a kid was
>making this slant eyed gesture from accross the field at my 14 year old
>son.
>The kids Dad was sort of laughing too. I felt I would have to do something
>
>and possibly start a fight with the Dad. But just then my son yelled, "Do
>you
>want me to run across the field an knock your teeth out?" The kid shut up
>real fast. Later I could see that the incident didn't bother my son. I
>had worried
>when I first married an Asian if my kids would be upset by prejudice. But
>it
>hasn't been a problem. One thing you might find surprising will be that
>some
>Asians will call you an Asiaphile. And even though that term means, "lover
>of
>Asians" they will mean it in a derogatory way. William Smyth