found it ! the conflict
the problem comes from nggallery.php
if ( defined('DOING_AJAX') )
require_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/admin/ajax.php');
else {
require_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/lib/meta.php'); // 131.856
require_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/lib/tags.php'); // 117.136
require_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/lib/media-rss.php'); // 82.768
require_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/widgets/widgets.php'); // 298.792
require_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/lib/rewrite.php'); // 71.936
include_once (dirname (__FILE__) . '/admin/tinymce/tinymce.php'); // 22.408
the ngg requested call back is in lib/media-rss.php
a workaround could be to delete the line 'DOING_AJAX'
in mailpress/mp-includes/action.php
but the fix must be done on nggallery ..