20 April 1996 updated 14 June 1997 RI-541i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part I' from Ambassador for Mankind Message # RI-541i for Internet "NEVER NEVER NEVER do a Confessional that defines 'non-survival act or omission' on the basis of morals, rules, laws, agreements, professional ethics, shameful acts, etc." 'Ambassador for Mankind' SHOW this whole Bulletin (and the next ones up to Part IV) to the person who wants to confess, and let him study it till he is really happy with it. This does (and should) diminish your "authority" over him. The only role you have is that of a friend who is willing to help him because he asks for your help. (see also RI-857i 'Telepathy - Telepathic Auditor Training Course' of 29 May 97 http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-857i.htm - the section on "Co-Audit") Step 1. "WHICH NON-SURVIVAL ACT OF YOURS WOULD YOU LIKE TO CONFESS, NOW?" (For simplicity we consider a non-survival omission-to-act also a 'non-survival act', like the act of not interfering, of not speaking up, of not informing, etc.) You accept anything from "winning one million dollars", or "having sex with my spouse" to "avoiding a fine for driving too fast". (These examples are just to give you the idea that you must NEVER reject answers which are, at first glance to you, not answering the question of what is non-survival. You work this out on step two below.) Step 2. "TELL ME ABOUT THAT ACT OF YOURS TILL YOU YOURSELF ARE SATISFIED WITH DESCRIBING IT TO ME AS A NON-SURVIVAL ACT." Repeat step two. If NO satisfaction can be achieved by repeating step two, then say that it would be better to work together on finding another non-survival act to confess to. Go back to step one. CONFESSIONALS VERSUS SECRETS, LAWS AND MORALS NEVER NEVER NEVER do a Confessional that defines 'non-survival act or omission' on the basis of morals, rules, laws, agreements, professional ethics, shameful acts, etc. It is fine if someone tells you such things, as these things are usually secrets he keeps from others. But SECRETS IS NOT-NOT-NOT THE SUBJECT OF CONFESSIONALS. A non-survival act someone committed may be a secret, or it may be public knowledge. A secret does NOT AT ALL also make a non-survival act. The password for your computer is a secret. It is NOT a non-survival act to keep it secret from people. Someone may have been correctly convicted and imprisoned for taking and promoting and selling harmful drugs. That this is public knowledge now, does NOT stop it from being a non-survival act on himself and on others. That someone legally ruined another person's business, does not make it less of a non-survival act against another or others, just because it was done without violating the law, and just because it was done within certain professional ethics and within certain morals. A person might be relieved to tell you some shameful act, but after he told you, he might conclude that it was NOT a non-survival act or omission, or he might conclude that only NOT TELLING IT to his spouse, or to his boss, was a non-survival act of omission. MORALS RUIN CONFESSIONALS NEVER NEVER NEVER do a Confessional that defines 'non-survival act or omission' on the basis of morals, rules, laws, agreements, professional ethics, shameful acts, etc. This is because it RUINS the results and gains of any and all Confessionals, and has ruined the gains and results of it since time immemorial. Let's say that seventy percent of morals, laws, rules, agreements, professional ethics, definitions of shameful acts, etc. are correct, and are used correctly. Maybe more, maybe less, depending on culture and civilization. But the point here is that ALL these agreements are ALSO used OCCASIONALLY to make people cave themselves in, or to force them to do non-survival acts, "because the group demands it", or because a particularly nasty person demands it. It is ESPECIALLY those non-survival acts that are done WITH the support of morals or laws, and because of, or sanctioned by group-agreements, that are the most worthwhile to confess fully, because the environment, the group, or the family, does NOT frown upon them. These, when fully confessed with the correct Confessional procedure as given here and in Part II and III and IV, cause the biggest resurgence and gains of a person, when he is allowed to confess to these AS NON-SURVIVAL ACTS. And it is ESPECIALLY the REFUSAL to let someone confess to those fully, which is extremely harmful to the individual confessing. I can't stress this enough. DON'T go into morals etc. If it is ALSO a non-survival act - meaning HARMING THE SURVIVAL OF SELF OR HARMING THE SURVIVAL OF OTHERS AND SO INDIRECTLY OF SELF - then it IS a non-survival act or omission and must be handled with the full Confessional procedure, of course. AWARENESS OF NON-SURVIVAL ACTS Now be aware that you can't have a black and white situation here. Contrary to what certain philosophies and political practices preach, PEOPLE ARE VERY DIFFERENT FROM EACH OTHER. The purpose of any Confessional is to help someone to become more responsible for the well-being of himself AND for the well-being of others. So, from person to person, you get wildly different answers to a. What non-survival acts they want to confess. b. What they consider non-survival acts or omissions. Responsibility of a person increases as more and more non-survival acts are handled with all the steps of fully confessing to a non-survival act. A person who is only aware of his own well-being, will start to become aware of the well-being of others, and of how the well-being of others will increase his own well-being in turn. A person of high responsibility who is mainly concerned with the well-being of others, will start to realize that his own well-being is very important to his desire to help the well-being of others. GETTING THE NON-SURVIVAL ACT So, step two is, (repeated till satisfaction is achieved) "Tell me about that act of yours till you yourself are satisfied with describing it to me as a non-survival act." While doing step two, you may hear things by which you will understand better how the answer to the question of step one. states, or points out, a non-survival act. At the end of step two, often by repeating the question several times, you get a full and satisfying statement of the non-survival act. It might not always be fully satisfying to you who hears the confession - that's tough luck for you. You still have step three and step four to go, (these are described in RI-542i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part II' RI-545i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part III' RI-568i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part IV') and at the end of that you SHOULD be satisfied. (If NOT, you and the person confessing have wildly opposing ideas of what is non-survival, in which case either he is a heavy criminal, or your are, or both of you are, or you, hearing the confession, have committed similar non-survival acts which you yourself have not yet confessed to with full Confessional procedure. In any such case, you don't continue, but seek other partners for doing a Confessional, or you first receive a Confessional yourself on the subject.) UNDERSTANDING THE NON-SURVIVAL ACT But by now, at step two, describing the non-survival act, you should have some idea and understanding what the confessant (person who confesses) is talking about, and what he considers IS his non-survival act or non-survival omission. You, the confessor (person guiding and listening to the confession), should have some agreement by now with the confessant, how it could be a non-survival act from the viewpoint of the confessant. The better you understand the confessant, the higher his gains will be. (Don't think you can get along with pretending to understand another. It does not work, and in most cases it is harmful to - if not an outright heavy betrayal of - the person who wants to be helped. Keep any 'pretending to understand' entirely out of it. If you don't understand something, ask, and get understanding.) DOMINATE AND ESCAPE And we are not going to play any domination game like 'you, hearing the confession, are always right and the confessant must change or continue till YOU, the confessor, are satisfied'. And we are not going to play any escape-control game, like 'the confessant is always right and - no matter what the confessant says or does - you, the confessor, must accept and respect anything and all as "an expression of the other's viewpoint".' Both of these extremes VIOLATE the intention of you, the confessor, to help the confessant, and they VIOLATE the intention of the confessant to want to be helped. (see RI-263i 'Two Responses to Being Helped' of 20 Aug 1995 http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-263i.htm) There is an age-old game of wanting to dominate another, and wanting to be dominated by another, and of wanting to escape domination, and refusing to control another. Try to keep this age-old stuff out of Confessionals, both when you are hearing the confession of someone, and when you are confessing to someone: DON'T DOMINATE, and also DON'T ESCAPE CONTROL. The domination violates the intention of the confessant to want to be helped. You see, you don't want to be DOMINATED when you want to confess. Quite the contrary - you want to become free again from having to repeat non-survival acts. On the other hand, letting the confessant escape answering the question, refusing to exert correct and pleasant control, violates or corrupts the intention of you, the confessor, to help. You want to help someone. You want to help the confessant to regain freedom to act and think. So you are part of this, by your intention. INTENTION TO HELP It is YOUR intention to help life in general that is at work here. Don't let it be corrupted or invalidated. So if someone comes up with "My non-survival act is that I stole sugar from my mother's sugarpot", then you better get to find out whether this was a real thing that really is bothering the confessant, or whether he is intentionally wasting your time (and anyone else's time as well, of course). You have a right as confessor to help others, and you have a right to ensure that your efforts are not wasted. As a confessant, you also have a right to BE helped, and you must ensure - when you want to confess - that your intention to be helped is not misused and invalidated by the confessor, or by anyone else of course too. (The above are important points. Continuous and even enforced and sanctioned violation of these points have almost completely destroyed the "Church" of Scientology, by destroying the desire of its members to be helped, and by destroying the desire of its members to help others.) AGREEMENT BETWEEN CONFESSANT AND CONFESSOR So, if, by the END of step two, (2. "Tell me about that act of yours till you yourself are satisfied with describing it to me as a non-survival act.") there is sufficient agreement and genuine understanding between confessor and confessant on the matter, then the intentions - respectively - to be helped, and to help can be carried out, and will be carried out, in the next steps of the Confessional procedure. The intentions to help and be helped will run their course. If no agreement can be reached at the end of step two, then it is better to find another non-survival act by going back to step one and then do step two again. Or, it may be best for the confessant to look for another confessor, and it may be better for the confessor to look for another confessant. But otherwise, we assume that sufficient agreement has been established between the confessant and the confessor to let their respective intentions - to help the other and to be helped by another - run their course, to the great joy of both the confessant and the confessor, with step three and step four (steps three and four are described in RI-542i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part II' RI-545i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part III' RI-568i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part IV'). You see, it is as much fun to be a successful confessant as it is fun to be a successful confessor! There is great joy to be experienced in this action. Don't let it be taken away from you or denied to you! Continued in RI-542i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part II' 2 May 96 (http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-542i.htm) RI-545i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part III' 20 May 96 (http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-545i.htm) RI-568i 'Correct and Joyful Confessional Procedure - Part IV' 14 June 97 (http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ri-568i.htm) Koos Nolst Trenite - Ambassador for Mankind Copyright 1996, 1997 by Koos Nolst Trenite Personal Web-page: http://ArtOrg.com Personal Web-Library: http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ Library Search Engine: http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/search.html References (available at the Library "http://Art-Org.com"): (about the Telepathy Course) RI-771i 'Use of Telepathy' of 4 Jan 1997 RI-881i 'Basics of Telepathy - Vital Data about You' of 11 June 1997 RI-857i 'Telepathy - Telepathic Auditor Training Course' of 29 May 1997 RI-857i-AS 'Telepathy Course - the Processes - Summary' of 2 June 1997 (the 'Understanding Suppression Series') The 'Understanding Suppression Series': http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/usp.htm (about using and understanding the E-meter) RI-687i 'Notes on E-meter use and Solo-Auditing' of 4 Sept 96 RI-648i 'Simplicity of E-meter use, by UNDERSTANDING it' 1 Aug 96 RI-610i 'Understanding the E-meter, correctly' of 26 June 96 (about the importance and use of Confessionals) RI-823i 'Truth, Justice, Sanity and Auditing - relationship' 7 Apr 97 RI-752i 'Case Supervision, the correct basics' of 30 Nov 1996 RI-010i 'Confronting a Suppressive' of 12 Oct 1994 RI-514Ri 'Confessionals and Blackmail - VERY IMPORTANT' 16 Mar 96 RI-710i 'A Protective Shell - Anchorpoints used wrongly' of 16 Oct 1996 RI-713i 'Handling Attacks Correctly - Space and Love' of 18 Oct 1996 RI-072Ri 'Auditing Assist for former Stuttgart Mission Holder' 22 Jan 96 RI-228Ri 'Auditing of AIDS- and Other Patients IS ALLOWED' 6 July 95 RI-528i 'How a responsible Scientologist can handle a death' 30 Mar 96 (some Bulletins on different types of Confession) RI-769Ri 'Restoring Aliveness Rundown, SUPER POWER - Part I' 30 Dec 96 RI-795i 'Restoring Aliveness Rundown, SUPER POWER - Part II' 20 Feb 97 RI-553i 'Decency and Honesty - Condition of Hiding' 7 May 96 RI-702i '"Word Clearing" is Concept Clearing' of 25 Sept 1996 RI-382i 'Gradients and Low Conditions' of 2 Nov 1995 RI-407i 'Cleanup of ALL Scientologists' of 13 Dec 1995 RI-408i 'Emotional Charge about LRH - handling' of 13 Dec 95 RI-668i 'COMPLETE Scientology Data for Everyone, FOR FREE' 16 Aug 96 RI-668i-A 'COMPLETE Scientology Data FOR FREE - For AOL-users' 18 Aug 96 RI-770i '[ARCX's at Key-outs]' of 29 Nov 1996 RI-617i 'Controlling Evil Intentions, how' of 28 June 1996 RI-505i 'Running false ARCX's of Suppressive Persons' 9 Mar 96 (some Bulletins with Definitions for life) RI-024i 'Definition of 'PTS' - IMPORTANT' of 19 Nov 1994 RI-252i-A 'Definition of Reality' of 5 Aug 1995 RI-602i 'Definition of Power' of 20 June 1996 RI-629i 'Definition of "Care"' of 12 July 1996 RI-631i 'Definition of "Woman"' of 12 July 1996 RI-226i 'On Simple Definitions of Scientology Terms' of 4 July 1995 RI-710i 'A Protective Shell - Anchorpoints used wrongly' of 16 Oct 1996 RI-714i 'State of Sanity, Definition of' of 24 Oct 1996 RI-797i 'A lively definition of "money"' of 21 Feb 1997 RI-735i '"Leadership" - Definition of Third Party' of 12 Nov 1996 RI-807Si '"Operating Thetan" defined' of 24 Mar 1997 RI-395Ri '"Ivory Tower" defined' of 2 Dec 1995 The 'Understanding Suppression Series' (Definitions of 'Suppressive Person') http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/usp.htm (about RI-Bulletins) RI-380Ri 'Obtaining Truth from the RI-Bulletins' of 1 Nov 1995 RI-50RQi 'RI-xxxi series Archive - Content and Use' 28 Dec 94 Revised and Replaced on 6 March 1996 These and other RI-Bulletins can be obtained at the Library of Koos' writings on http://Art-Org.com/ri-bulletins/ or at the Archives at ftp://thetics.europa.com/outgoing/adams/RI