TESTED PRACTICAL TIPS ON CONTROLLING ANGER.

[ZIKPHYSICS]

Anger is as much a part of human behavior as happiness and sadness
are. However, there is a difference. While other types of displays of
emotion are not destructive, anger is a harmful phenomenon as it
brings about the worst in us and creates a sense of negativity in the
environment too.

Reasons for Anger

In order to control anger, one needs to understand the symptoms and
reasons that lead to anger. Some of them are -

- External Reasons - Unforeseen or unpleasant situations that are
beyond our control lead to anger. Also behavior of others like our
colleagues, spouse, boss, children, friends etc may lead to anger.

- Internal reasons - Most of the time it is our inner conflicts that
lead to anger. Not getting our way, frustrations of childhood, need to
control others, etc are some such reasons which may lead to anger.

Effects of Anger

More often than not, anger leads to unpleasant effects in our
relationships. It undermines our self esteem and self confidence and
most importantly, affects our health. It is thus important to harness
anger.

Ways to Control Anger

Anger management is very important since it plays up with our health
as well as social standing. Therefore, one would do well to control it
by some of the following methods.

- Recognize and avoid triggers that lead to anger.

- Be more forgiving and understanding.

- Acceptance of failures of self and others also leads to a more
harmonious situation.

- Lifestyle changes like proper diet, proper sleep, good hygiene and
good hobbies take the mind away from depressing and negative
situations thus preventing conflicting situations.

- Keep a positive outlook to life, avoiding negative thoughts and
negative feelings.

- Keeping calm and composed under all types situations

- Yoga and Meditation

Controlling anger builds bridges between people and leads to happy
relationships based on mutual respect, understanding and love.

[ZIKPHYSICS]

These days we seem to be under pressure wherever we go. The roads are
busier than ever, people we meet in the street and in stores seem to
lack courtesy, and the stress levels at work have increased greatly as
businesses strive to become more "efficient".

Everywhere we go we are bombarded with advertising messages, and the
news media seems to have become biased, often seeming to promote those
we feel are unworthy, promoting "celebrity" instead of genuine talent.
Politicians are afraid to speak the truth for fear of being
deliberately misquoted in the media, or not towing the party line.

Life sometimes just seems to be designed to wind one up, and we become
a tinderbox of raw emotion, ready to explode at the nearest motorist
who makes a genuine mistake, from the anonymity of our car.

So how do you keep your temper under control? After all, anger is a
perfectly normal emotion; it's just our personal threshold, the point
at which it is triggered that we need to control.

Tip 1. The first thing to recognise that moment when you feel you are
about to lose it, is just try and step outside yourself and look at
this person. Is he being reasonable in losing his temper? Just by
pausing gives you a few moments to reflect on your anger before it
surfaces.

Tip 2. Learn to combine this pause for reflection with the taking of
deep breaths. As you breathe you will start to relax, and the anger
you felt building inside will subside.

Tip 3. Spend some time thinking about why you get angry. Think of the
consequences of losing your temper. Yes, it may feel good at the time
as you release all that pent up tension, but how do you feel later?
Usually we feel regret and more anger, this time directed at ourselves
for making such a scene.

Tip 4. Think about how you would feel about someone acting in the same
way as you. Imagine watching yourself the last time you got angry. How
do you feel? Is that what you want people to think of you?

The bottom line is, next time you feel like losing your temper take a
"chill pill".

Losing one's temper can sometimes be as a result of low self image.
Every time you choose (because it is a choice) not to get angry, you
will feel better about yourself. Further, the more you resist the
temptation to blow up, the easier you will find it to control your
temper without thinking about it.