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GpsFan

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Feb 23, 2010, 5:39:13 PM2/23/10
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Hi team,

just sent Cashier check to Yichao's father, here are some updates:

1, SU extended their stay at current motel, till 3/14/2010, so no
problem on that any more.

2, They found a spot to place Yichao temporarily in Harbin, so no need
to have those limitation on "must arrive Harbin in the early morning".

3, Dan said the air ticket should be paid by SU, Dan Please confirm
that, since the air ticket price is kinda high before 3,6,2010.

4, Yichao's father said, if necessary, they can leave after 3,7,2010.
(for the concern of the ticket price and lawyer hunting)

5, Yichao's wife's VISA will be expired after 3,18,2010, FYI

6, they visited Tai Gu Jing She today, Qing, Please update their
schedule if possible.

7 Please update the Bin Yi Guan info, anyone working on that?

8, Has Yichao's body got returned?

Gpsfan

singletondev singletondev

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i looked up my old 华商年鉴.

here are a list that might be useful:

1. Garden Chapel: 471 E. Santa Clara St, San Jose, CA, 95112 (408)-998-2226

    Campbell Memorial Chapel: 231 E. Campbell Ave. Campbell, CA, 95008 (408)-379-5010

2. Mission Memorial Foothills: 30 Kirk Avenue, San Jose, 95127 , 408-347-0985

3. Fremont Chapel of the rose: 1940 Peralta Blvd, Fremont, 94536 510-797-1900

4. Alameda Family Funeral & Cremation Inc. 12341 Saratoga-Sunnyvale Rd. Saratoga, 95070 408-257-6262

5. Chapel of the Hills: 615 No. Santa Cruz Ave. Los Gatos, 95030, 408-354-7740

6. Chapel of Angels: 40842 Fremont Blvd, Fremont, CA, 94538 510-656-1226

7. Casket Outlet: 1386 N. Winchester Blvd, San Jose, 95128, 408-261-8856

8 Chapel of Flowers Funeral Home , 900 S 2nd St. San Jose 95112 408-294-9663

9 kenos Funeral Home 27 Winsor St., Milpitas, 95035 408-946-8776

10 Roller & hapgood & Tinney: 980 Middlefield, Palo Alto, 94301 650-328-1360

11 Wyang & Smith Funeral Home, 174 N. Sunnyvale Ave, sunnyvale, 94086, 408-736-6294

Dan Cao

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Feb 24, 2010, 12:50:40 AM2/24/10
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funeral time and location is already decided. We'll announce later tonight or tomorrow.

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205


Qing Lucich

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Here is the latest update after today's trips to Chung Tai Zen Center and the Spangler Mortuary Mountain View site over 799 Castro Street (http://www.spanglermortuary.com/funeral-home-mountain-view.html)

1. There will be no lunch over Chung Tai Zen Center after the funeral service since the place doesn't open to public on weekend.

2. Signed the agreement to have the funeral service over Spangler. Public service is 11am--12noon. The cremation will be right after. And the family will go over to have a cremation ceremony on site.

3. Suggest the family to cancel the after-lunch.

4. The monks will come over the funeral service place at 9am to setup. 10-11am will be family with monks. Anybody is a buddhist can join.

5. Body will be picked up by funeral home tomorrow from corner (somewhere in Sunnyvale). Tomorrow afternoon at 1pm need Xiaomeng arrange to send cloth over to funeral home. Death certificate working copies (2) can be picked up at that time.

6. Speakers can be arranged during 11-12noon time frame. We need enlarge picture and frame it and bring it over Sat. at 9am. Also a whole set of vegetable dishes/fruit/flowers/candles are required. Yichao father has detail picture and list of the required items. If anyone wants one, I will scan and send to you. No white paper flowers from funeral home. We need get it. And also the guest sign-in book can be bought from Michaels.

Let me know anything else I missed.

Qing

 

2010/2/23 GpsFan <gps...@gmail.com>

GpsFan

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More Update:

On Tue, Feb 23, 2010 at 2:39 PM, GpsFan <gps...@gmail.com> wrote:
Zhu Qing Update:  
The funeral service will be at 11:00AM on Sat. 2,27,2010
Adress:

Spangler Mortuaries Mountain View Chapel, 799 Castro St. Mountain View, CA 94041

Dan Cao

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Thanks Qing for spending a whole day to accompany the family and getting the whole things settled!
I just notified all the press. His advisor and dept chair in Sigapore will also come.

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



Dan Cao

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Another update is they decide on the time to bury him in China is March 12th. So if they can arrive Harbin by 3/11 that's the best. I suggested Yuying to contact the dept to see if they can buy the ticket for them or not.

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



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Not sure where I can help. I can make some white flowers following the directions posted on mitbbs http://www.huaren.us/dispbbs.asp?boardid=331&Id=446998

Any idea how many we would need?

If there's anything else I can do, let me know...

GpsFan

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fwd:

周六的安排是:
9点:和尚以及家属到达,开始布置。
10点:开始家祭。
11点:开始公祭。

虽然11点后才对外公开,但一超父亲今天对我说,
希望有3位30岁以上的女性能在10点前到。这几位女士是为了不让三位女性家属痛哭过度的,所以一般岁数不能太年轻,而且不能太柔弱。

我会在9点前把一超的四位家属送到殡仪馆,而且我自认为可以handle一超父亲。所以,现在的问题是,哪位女士愿意9:30到?

马健

Xiaomeng Milton Yu

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Feb 24, 2010, 4:20:37 AM2/24/10
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1. Tomorrow's car ride for Yichao family has been arranged.

2. As for white flowers, CLIPSS made a lot two years ago for Sichuan
Earthquake memorial. Zhang Jun was the one leading the team last year (Dan
was there too!) and she has offered to help again this time if needed. We
can make it on Friday evening. I think we probably should aim to provide
every visitor a flower. How many would come do you all think? 200, for
instance, should be a doable number. However, I do think the family members
themselves might want to wear better flowers than the home made one, which
can be purchased.

3. Question: when shall I announce it to Stanford? including non-Chinese
populations?

4. Nikeman: for black cloth, try Micheal's art supply. there is one across
the street from REI in mountain view. you can also purchase big black photo
frame there.

Xiaomeng Milton Yu
Luo Lab, Stanford University
385 Serra Mall, Rm 152
Stanford, CA, 94305

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Dan Cao

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昨天晚上我跟一超父亲谈,有一种很不好的感觉。他现在非常愤怒,甚至提到恨不得自己找司机算帐。我想说的是这种情绪可以理解,但是对事情无事于补,相反至少对他身体很不好,人都已经走了,他们应该尽快从悲伤中恢复起来,该干嘛干嘛去,官司的事交给律师就行了,很简单的一个官司。他妻子还很年轻,还有很长的路可以走。父母也不算年纪大,还可以自己过着很充实的生活,把全部希望寄托在小孩身上本来就不妥。这个是个“事故”,人人都有可能遇到的,不是谋杀,没有谁是故意的,而且双方都有责任。事情既然发生了就发生了,应该赶快让它过去,而不是把事情越闹越大,这一套在这边吃不通的,交通事故的司法也不会因为舆论而偏向谁。我感觉有人在煽风点火,起着一些不好的作用。希望我们陪伴组的以及其他和他家属走的近的多多开导。闹大了对谁都没有好处,本来就是冤冤相报和时了。一个已经死了,还要气死逼死雷死更多的人不成?我们应该多想办法开导他们,让他们的生活重新找到其他希望,而不是在这件事上耗费更多的情绪。我昨天看见他爸充妈妈岳母妻子吼,心里挺不舒服的,也许是我们女人天生就不喜欢惹事吧。他们既然到这个岁数了,又是信佛的,很多事情应该能讲得通的。我们应该尽全力的是抢救一超,现在一超走了,很多事情做起来我个人觉得真是没有意义。我实话实说。
就是我个人的一些想法而已。大家批评指正。

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



On Feb 24, 2010, at 1:20 AM, Xiaomeng Milton Yu wrote:

1. Tomorrow's car ride for Yichao family has been arranged.

2. As for white flowers, CLIPSS made a lot two years ago for Sichuan Earthquake memorial. Zhang Jun was the one leading the team last year  (Dan was there too!) and she has offered to help again this time if needed. We can make it on Friday evening. I think we probably should aim to provide every visitor a flower. How many would come do you all think? 200, for instance, should be a doable number. However, I do think the family members themselves might want to wear better flowers than the home made one, which can be purchased.

3. Question: when shall I announce it to Stanford? including non-Chinese populations?

4. Nikeman: for black cloth, try Micheal's art supply. there is one across the street from REI in mountain view. you can also purchase big black photo frame there.

Xiaomeng Milton Yu
Luo Lab, Stanford University
385 Serra Mall, Rm 152
Stanford, CA, 94305

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Sent: Wednesday, February 24, 2010 12:20 AM
To: <yichao...@googlegroups.com>
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Subject: Re: Re: Yichao Family update

白花的事不要着急,我们周四出去买东西时看看能不能买到。即便需要,也只要10朵左右就够了,周五做也来得及。我刚做了一朵,经验是纸不能太大,太厚,否则花太大,非常难看。最好用shopping时给的那种哗啦哗啦响的玻璃纸,那种纸比paper
towel薄,而且脆生。

还有,哪位能推荐好的中国殡葬用品店?现在主要不好买的东西一个是白花,另一个是一超相片框上镶的黑幅绸。谢了!

马健

Lijian Liu

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在美国如果邻居听见激烈的争吵,可能会报警。希望一超家人注意,
有内部讨论的时候尽量平心静气,避免大声争论,以避免根本不必要的麻烦。

Bless,

2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>

Qing Lucich

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我认为从信佛的角度,多多安慰一下会比较好。这人已去了,活着的人好好生活下去
最重要。昨天太谷精社的见协法师也说了,要大家多念“南无阿弥陀佛",要活着的
人平平静静的,死去的人灵魂才能超生转世,否则一超灵魂会不得安宁的。
而且整个仪式还不是全部,这每一天自己的修行,自己对精神力量的坚信,一定能帮
到一超的。

大家一起向这方面说,看能不能平息一些这人走了,不知去怨谁的愤怒,大家也要理
解他的感情会有个过程,慢慢地,相信这内心的修行会带他和所有亲人走出这困难
的现阶段。

Dan Cao

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我觉得这一点上,他家3位女士做的很不错,可惜一超父亲不听她们的,

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



Xing Xie

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2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>

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Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



On Feb 24, 2010, at 1:20 AM, Xiaomeng Milton Yu wrote:

1. Tomorrow's car ride for Yichao family has been arranged.

2. As for white flowers, CLIPSS made a lot two years ago for Sichuan Earthquake memorial. Zhang Jun was the one leading the team last year  (Dan was there too!) and she has offered to help again this time if needed. We can make it on Friday evening. I think we probably should aim to provide every visitor a flower. How many would come do you all think? 200, for instance, should be a doable number. However, I do think the family members themselves might want to wear better flowers than the home made one, which can be purchased.

3. Question: when shall I announce it to Stanford? including non-Chinese populations?

4. Nikeman: for black cloth, try Micheal's art supply. there is one across the street from REI in mountain view. you can also purchase big black photo frame there.

Xiaomeng Milton Yu
Luo Lab, Stanford University
385 Serra Mall, Rm 152
Stanford, CA, 94305

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Subject: Re: Re: Yichao Family update

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