周六全过程安排(初步)

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James Ma

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一超父亲的情绪问题不必太在意,我周四见他的时候会和他谈。下面是我对周六全过程的一个安排提议,大家看看是否可行。

1. 后勤组
负责人:马健
到达时间:9:00
任务:布置会场,以及开始公祭后的一切后勤打杂
备注:马健会带3个人左右,开两辆车,把一超家属带到会场。然后和大和尚及家属一起布置会场。

2. 内卫组
负责人:曹丹
到达时间:9:30
任务:劝慰家属
备注:现已确定的参加人员还有Zhu Qin。希望到时候还有Zhang Jun(或Qin
Sujie),于春满,和谭教授。请曹丹和他们几位确认。希望Jun或Sujie可以控制玉莹;于春满和谭教授可以控制一超父亲(注意:谭教授很重要!);曹丹和Qin可以控制一超母亲和岳母。

3. 外卫组
负责人:余小蒙
到达时间:10:30
任务:外围秩序
备注:小蒙带至少5人,在11点后维持秩序,管理会场。如果小蒙人手有问题,请提前和我说,我给你提供人手。

4. 财务
负责人:八戒或LKen
到达时间:10:30
任务:收取随喜礼金,如果有的话。注意做好记录。

5. 指挥
负责人:马健
到达时间:9:00
任务:负责接应各个方面。因为我不想被一超父亲缠住,所以谭教授必须来!请曹丹务必和谭教授沟通好!


现在还需做的事:
1. 上述人员,尤其是内卫组人员的到位情况,请曹丹确认。
2. 所缺物品的制作(比如白花),将会在周四晚,我和一超父亲shopping完之后发布。
3. Service当中的发言人的确定。我初步的想法是,一超父亲,谭老师,Stanford代表,志愿者代表(曹丹或小蒙?),CMAIN代表(八戒或LKen?)。


大家看看还有什么。不论如何,一旦计划确定,务必请人员不要迟到!!谢谢!

马健


2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>:
> 昨天晚上我跟一超父亲谈,有一种很不好的感觉。他现在非常愤怒,甚至提到恨不得自己找司机算帐。我想说的是这种情绪可以理解,但是对事情无事于补,相反至少对他身体很不好,人都已经走了,他们应该尽快从悲伤中恢复起来,该干嘛干嘛去,官司的事交给律师就行了,很简单的一个官司。他妻子还很年轻,还有很长的路可以走。父母也不算年纪大,还可以自己过着很充实的生活,把全部希望寄托在小孩身上本来就不妥。这个是个“事故”,人人都有可能遇到的,不是谋杀,没有谁是故意的,而且双方都有责任。事情既然发生了就发生了,应该赶快让它过去,而不是把事情越闹越大,这一套在这边吃不通的,交通事故的司法也不会因为舆论而偏向谁。我感觉有人在煽风点火,起着一些不好的作用。希望我们陪伴组的以及其他和他家属走的近的多多开导。闹大了对谁都没有好处,本来就是冤冤相报和时了。一个已经死了,还要气死逼死雷死更多的人不成?我们应该多想办法开导他们,让他们的生活重新找到其他希望,而不是在这件事上耗费更多的情绪。我昨天看见他爸充妈妈岳母妻子吼,心里挺不舒服的,也许是我们女人天生就不喜欢惹事吧。他们既然到这个岁数了,又是信佛的,很多事情应该能讲得通的。我们应该尽全力的是抢救一超,现在一超走了,很多事情做起来我个人觉得真是没有意义。我实话实说。
> 就是我个人的一些想法而已。大家批评指正。
>
> Dan Cao, Ph.D.
> Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
> Stanford University School of Medicine
> Stanford, CA 94305-4205
> 650-815-5732
>

Dan Cao

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for 2, Sujie just had her eye operation, I guess we'd better not to ask her for help. Jackie, can you help on that? Also, I DONOT want to give a speech, please don't give me a hard time.
Below is the email from his advisor Tang, I'm not sure he has purchased his ticket or not. But I will forward this email to him.

Dear Cao Dan
 
I am Yichao’s PhD advisor in Singapore.  I have learnt from Yichao’s family that you have given them a tremendous help.  Thank you a lot for all the help you have offered.
 
I was trying to call you several times at your cell phone (650-815-5732), but could not get to you.  I hope to find out the details of Yichao’s funeral – whether that has already been arranged and where is it going to be held.  I called Yichao’s family earlier this week.  At that time, the funeral has not bee fixed yet.  Could you provide some details, or point me to some contacts?  The chair of my department and I plan to attend the funeral, and are trying to see what we can help.
 
On a separate issue, I know that you have been incremental for the CMAIN fund raising for the family.  From Nanyang Technological University in Singapore, we are also trying to help as much as possible to lessen the family’s financial stress, such as the coverage of the funeral expenses, air tickets, accommodation from Feb 25 onwards (Stanford CEE department is covering the accommodation before that).  However, our university needs original receipts in order to claim the above.  I understand that CMAIN may also require some original receipts.  It will be better if we can figure out  how to benefit the family to the most.
 
In case you need to contact me, my office number is + 65 6790-5267, and cell phone number is + 65 9118-1660.  Singapore is 16 hours ahead of SF time. 

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



Xing Xie

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I will contact Prof. Tang.

Xing


On 2/24/2010 12:09 PM, Dan Cao wrote:
for 2, Sujie just had her eye operation, I guess we'd better not to ask her for help. Jackie, can you help on that? Also, I DONOT want to give a speech, please don't give me a hard time.
Below is the email from his advisor Tang, I'm not sure he has purchased his ticket or not. But I will forward this email to him.

Dear Cao Dan
 
I am Yichao��s PhD advisor in Singapore.  I have learnt from Yichao��s family that you have given them a tremendous help.  Thank you a lot for all the help you have offered.
 
I was trying to call you several times at your cell phone (650-815-5732), but could not get to you.  I hope to find out the details of Yichao��s funeral �C whether that has already been arranged and where is it going to be held.  I called Yichao��s family earlier this week.  At that time, the funeral has not bee fixed yet.  Could you provide some details, or point me to some contacts?  The chair of my department and I plan to attend the funeral, and are trying to see what we can help.
 
On a separate issue, I know that you have been incremental for the CMAIN fund raising for the family.  From Nanyang Technological University in Singapore, we are also trying to help as much as possible to lessen the family��s financial stress, such as the coverage of the funeral expenses, air tickets, accommodation from Feb 25 onwards (Stanford CEE department is covering the accommodation before that).  However, our university needs original receipts in order to claim the above.  I understand that CMAIN may also require some original receipts.  It will be better if we can figure out  how to benefit the family to the most.
 
In case you need to contact me, my office number is + 65 6790-5267, and cell phone number is + 65 9118-1660.  Singapore is 16 hours ahead of SF time. 

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



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2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>:
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Xiaomeng Milton Yu

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1. I still think Dan should give a speech since she has been most involved during the whole process. If not, I can give the speech, on behalf of the volunteers, or Stanford, or whatever.
 
2. Five people should be fine, but I will let you know if I am short on hands, Jian.
 
Xiaomeng Milton Yu
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Stanford, CA, 94305

Dan Cao

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Xiaomeng,

My role in this whole process was more like an advocate. Most specific things were not handled by me. So it would be great if you can give the speech on behalf of all volunteering organizations and individuals. Please acknowledge their help during the whole process, to show a good image for our whole chinese community (I'll see if I can get KQED channel 9 come or not) on helping each other and team work spirit.  The organizations I'm aware of are CLIPSS, CMAIN, ACSSS, 校联会(zhu qing),长生会(jackie),unaffiliated  individuals including a lot of people I don't even remember the name, especially like Ma Jian. For organizations I didn't mention (my memory is always bad) and should get credited for, please let Xiaomeng know. 

I guess we should bring our own camera person as well, just like we did for 4/9 candlelight vigil.

Thank you!

Dan



Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



Qing Lucich

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Hi Dan and everyone,

Please put Chunman Yu as UCAA representative. I have to make it clear. I don't represent anybody in the whole process just myself.

Regards,

Qing

jackie zhou

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1. I can come at 10:30, to keep company with Yuying on Saturday. 
2. "Chang Shen Xue" volunteers are going to visit Yichao's family on Thursday for lunch, and give them adjustment to comfort them. They are all very nice people, and the same age as Yichao's parents. 
3. I am wandering if "Chang Shen Xue" can send a 花圈 (hua quan) to Yi Chao's funeral. Any requirements on color or type?
4. We are not going to do the lunch buffet after the service. Should we take Yi Chao's family to a vegetarian restaurant for lunch, maybe just the volunteers who is able to come, 20 people also. It is kind of custom to have a banquet after the funeral.
 
Best,
 
JJ

--- On Wed, 2/24/10, Xiaomeng Milton Yu <suo...@stanford.edu> wrote:
昨天晚上我跟一超父亲谈,有一种很不好的感觉。他现在非常愤怒,甚至提到恨不得自己找司机算帐。我想说的是这种情绪可以理解,但是对事情无事于补,相反至少对他身体很不好,人都已经走了,他们应该尽快从悲伤中恢复起来,该干嘛干嘛去,官司的事交给律师就行了,很简单的一个官司。他妻子还很年轻,还有很长的路可以走。父母也不算年纪大,还可以自己过着很充实的生活,把全部希望寄托在小孩身上本来就不妥。这个是个“事故”,人人都有可能遇到的,不是谋杀,没有谁是故意的,而且双方都有责任。事情既然发生了就发生了,应该赶快让它过去,而不是把事情越闹越大,这一套在这边吃不通的,交通事故的司法也不会因为舆论而偏向谁。我感觉有人在煽风点火,起着一些不好的作用。希望我们 陪伴组的以及其他和他家属走的近的多多开导。闹大了对谁都没有好处,本来就是冤冤相报和时了。一个已经死了,还要气死逼死雷死更多的人不成?我们应该多想办法开导他们,让他们的生活重新找到其他希望,而不是在这件事上耗费更多的情绪。我昨天看见他爸充妈妈岳母妻子吼,心里挺不舒服的,也许是我们女人天生就不喜欢惹事吧。他们既然到这个岁数了,又是信佛的,很多事情应该能讲得通的。我们应该尽全力的是抢救一超,现在一超走了,很多事情做起来我个人觉得真是没有意义。我实话实说。

Jun Zhang

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Zhang Jun confirmed to arrive 9:30am Saturday. I am very glad to help.

Take care everybody and see you Saturday.

Jun

2010/2/24 James Ma <jma....@gmail.com>



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Dan Cao

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Hi Qing, You've done a lot of work as an individual!  I remembered you spent lunar new year's eve with the family and left your family and kids behind. so Xiaomeng if you want to acknowledge individuals in your speech on behalf of all volunteers I think Ma jian and Zhu Qing are two great examples.  Of course, I think everybody else is welcomed to give a speech as well as long as time allows. 

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



Dan Cao

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Hi Jackie, you mean 9:30 or 10:30? Thanks, Dan


Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



James Ma

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大家的反应都很快嘛!

我的两点建议。

1. 有关发言人。志愿者发言人还是小萌为好,因为毕竟带有一个组织的背景。如果是媒体采访的发言,曹丹可能要多做协调,因为你和他们比较熟。

2. 关于内卫组,请一定一定要做好家属的保护工作。你们一旦分好看护对象,请一定要保证时刻不离身,包括上厕所。咱们最不想看到的事就是在仪式中有人犯病昏厥,自残甚至自杀。希望不会,但我们不能不做最坏的设想。如果曹丹不得不分身去协调媒体,我建议Zhu
Qin来负责内卫组。总之一定要和家属寸步不离。现在确定内卫组的人是:9:30到的有曹丹,Zhu Qin,Zhang
Jun。10:30到的有Jackie。在11点前,我的重点可以放在内卫组,尤其是一超父亲身上。

Xie Xing:请尽快和谭教授取得联系,看他能否9:30到,以及是否能发言。谢谢!

马健

2010/2/24 jackie zhou <jacki...@yahoo.com>


>
> 1. I can come at 10:30, to keep company with Yuying on Saturday.
> 2. "Chang Shen Xue" volunteers are going to visit Yichao's family on Thursday for lunch, and give them adjustment to comfort them. They are all very nice people, and the same age as Yichao's parents.
> 3. I am wandering if "Chang Shen Xue" can send a 花圈 (hua quan) to Yi Chao's funeral. Any requirements on color or type?
> 4. We are not going to do the lunch buffet after the service. Should we take Yi Chao's family to a vegetarian restaurant for lunch, maybe just the volunteers who is able to come, 20 people also. It is kind of custom to have a banquet after the funeral.
>
> Best,
>
> JJ
>

GpsFan

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I 2nd that,

I think it is better to have Xiaomeng to have a speech represent all Org, and volunteers, he will mention all org. in his speech, no need to have any other  Representatives from any org. to have a speech individually.  this is the way we can avoid all future trouble for some concern. Hope you know what I mean.


Shidong




2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>

GpsFan

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Xiaomeng,

FYI,

CMAIN will cease the donation for Yichao, think about the fund transferring will take sometime, don't want to have the fund transferring stuck their schedule. Meanwhile, CMAIN will build up a new fund, Yichao Fund , after 2,25,2010. Maybe it is better to mention this in your speech? I will confirm with Yichao's father that we have right to use this name .

CMAIN received about $45,000 donation from about 900 donors. We will transfer all these donations to Yichao family. Meanwhile, CMAIN will use our Chase Community Giving Top 100 award to build up a new fund, Yichao Fund. We will use this fund to distribute Helmet/Night light/Safety equipment and brochure in school campus to prevent  this kind of tragedy happens again.
If you'd like to donate to this fund, help our community, please visit http://www.paypal.com  send your donation to: dona...@cmain.org . You can visit our web site: http://www.cmain.org click the [DONATE] button in the middle.


The donation deadline is Feb 25, 2010.

If you'd like to donate by check,

Please mail your check to:

CMAIN
1172 Murphy Avenue, Suite 237
San Jose, CA 95131, USA
Check pay to: C.M.A.I.N.

Please write your name, email address on the check, and make a note: "for Yichao Fund", so we can issue you a tax deductible receipt later via email.




2010/2/24 GpsFan <gps...@gmail.com>

Lijian Liu

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YiChao's classmate Rui will write 一些纪念文章,现场请义工阅读。

I will bring his 文章 to 现场。

Lijian

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Dan Cao

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Here are some adjustment,
In order to give Xiaomeng more time to prepare for the speech on
behalf of us, mitbbs SF board master stronger and tearsp will be in
charge for 3. 外卫组. Also Xiaomeng, please don't forget to acknowledge
mitbbs, the whole advocacy started from there and they have been
tremendous help behind the scene.
Also, I do hope people can help me on 内卫组, as you know I'm a very
careless person. I also have to deal with media and introduce them to
families and other related people if they show up.
BTW, I just add tearsp and stronger to google group.


Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205
650-815-5732

James Ma

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Hi Jackie,

I will accompany Yichao's family on Thursday to go shopping for
anything for the funeral. Have you already set up tomorrow's lunch
appointment with Yichao's family?

Also please feel free to let me know if you are aware of any good
CHINESE store selling funeral related products.

花圈 (hua quan) is a great idea. I do not think Yichao's family has any
particular requirements on that. Just use your common sense.

Regarding the lunch after the funeral, I suggest we hold that idea for
now. That has to be determined by Yichao's family's condition during
the service. Besides it should not be too hard to arrange a lunch
after all. Thanks!


Cao Dan,

我建议Zhu Qin负责内卫组。

Jian Ma

2010/2/24 jackie zhou <jacki...@yahoo.com>

jackie zhou

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Hi, James,
 
The lunch will be at
Hunan Garden
3345 El Camino Real
Palo Alto, CA. 94306
 
Helen, (Chang Shen Xue volunteer) will pick the Wang family at 12:00, noon, the rest of us will meet at the Hunan Garden around 12:30. After lunch, we are going back to the hotel room, and do some adjustment for them, it may take about 30 minutes. We will be done around 2:30 to 3:00.  Are you able to go shopping in the morning with Yichao's father?  Or Yichao's father can go with you, and we take care of the others.  The adjustment is really good for him though, to help him calm. We can do adjustment on him first, finish around 2:00.
 
China town in San Francisco will have funeral things, maybe castro street in mountain view.
 
JJ


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From: James Ma <jma....@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: 周六全过程安排(初步)
To: yichao...@googlegroups.com
Cc: "Qing Lucich" <qlu...@gmail.com>, "Bellybutton" <belly...@gmail.com>, "William Wang" <got...@gmail.com>, "Betty" <tpw...@gmail.com>, "Lijian Liu" <liul...@gmail.com>, "singletondev singletondev" <single...@gmail.com>, "lint" <lint...@gmail.com>, "Sharon W" <single...@yahoo.com>, arom...@gmail.com, yichao...@gmail.com, "Karlin Wang" <lin...@gmail.com>, "happy belle xing" <isabel...@gmail.com>

Dan Cao

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Just a thought, is it possible to reschedule lunch to dinner? It's very important for the women in his family to go shopping together. my 2 cents.


Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



Xiaomeng Milton Yu

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Thanks to all for the input, I've taken note of all the points I should mention in my speech. I will discuss with you on the phone later, Dan.
 
GpsFan, the Yichao Fund idea is a beautiful idea. I personally think that something like that makes Yichao immortal because his name will cherished by all of us for a long time to come. I would certainly mention it in my speech since it provides an upbeat and touching note to conclude the speech, if I can be certain of two things:
 
1. Yichao's family is ok with setting up the fund.
2. if you read http://www.stanforddaily.com/2010/02/24/yichao-wang-remembered/ , you will find that Stanford is kind of using Yichao not wearing a helmet as an excuse for itself. My question is, do you think mentioning anything related to helmet or bicycle safety would be bad for Yichao's case? I am not sure if I am being too sensitive about this issue or there should be consideration here. I would like to hear other people's opinions.
 
Another question is, shall I announce the funeral to the non-Chinese community at Stanford? This is relevant, because I am considering whether to give an English or Chinese speech. Please let me know what you all think. Thanks!
 
Xiaomeng Milton Yu
Luo Lab, Stanford University
385 Serra Mall, Rm 152
Stanford, CA, 94305

James Ma

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周六安排 (V2.0)

1. 后勤组
负责人:马健
到达时间:9:00
任务:布置会场,以及开始公祭后的一切后勤打杂
备注:马健会带3个人左右,开两辆车,把一超家属带到会场。然后和大和尚及家属一起布置会场。

2. 内卫组
负责人:Zhu Qin


到达时间:9:30
任务:劝慰家属

备注:现已确定的参加人员有Zhu Qin,曹丹,Zhang
Jun以及10:30到的Jackie。希望到时候还有于春满和谭教授。请谢兴向谭教授确认。希望于春满和谭教授可以控制一超父亲(注意:谭教授很重要!),11点前,我的重点将是控制一超父亲。另外希望Jun可以控制玉莹;Qin可以控制一超母亲。由于曹丹还有外联任务,所以内卫组现在还缺人,呼唤吴晓萌(Singleton),吴琳枫以及我不认识的女将们站出来。

3. 外卫组
负责人:Stronger,Tearsp


到达时间:10:30
任务:外围秩序

备注:全部队伍至少6人,在11点后维持秩序,管理会场。如果人手有问题,请提前和我说。

4. 外联
负责人:曹丹,余小蒙
到达时间:9:30
任务:协调媒体

5. 财务
负责人:八戒,LKen


到达时间:10:30
任务:收取随喜礼金,如果有的话。注意做好记录。

6. 指挥


负责人:马健
到达时间:9:00

任务:负责接应各个方面。因为我不想被一超父亲缠住,所以谭教授必须早来!请谢兴务必和谭教授沟通好。


现在还需做的事:
1. 内卫组人员的到位情况,请Zhu Qin确认。


2. 所缺物品的制作(比如白花),将会在周四晚,我和一超父亲shopping完之后发布。

3. Service当中的发言人的确定。我的建议是(按以下顺序):一超父亲,谭老师(请谢兴确认),Stanford代表(请曹丹确认),志愿者代表余小萌。如果要念一超同学的稿件,建议在谭老师之后。这个顺序是为了先让一超父亲发泄,然后谭老师来扭向正轨,最后由小萌升华到湾区人民的凝聚精神。希望这样一来一超家属的心情由愤怒到冷静,最后到感激。

小萌:

我建议将消息同时向英语社区发布。但我同时建议你的发言用中文。

马健

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1, Iijian will confirm with Yichao's father on Friday, when we deliver the last check to him.

2, your concern is reasonable, so please jsut mention: CMAIN build up Yichao Fund ,focus on helping our community, provide bikers a safer environment in school campus, hopefully this kind of tragedy will not happen again.  You can add/modify the way of expression.

Thanks!

2010/2/24 Xiaomeng Milton Yu <suo...@stanford.edu>

Xing Xie

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Dan Cao

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1. Personally I don't think we should say the fund is for helmet or anything related to bike safety. It implies blame on Yichao and will make his family upset. Saying sth like provide humanitarian emergency help for sudden disaster is more appropriate. We still helped anyway even though we were not clear whether it's Yichao's fault alone or not from the beginning. 
When discuss with Yichao's family, please don't mention bike safety either. 

2. I think it's better to prepare the speech in both Chinese and English. First, non-chinese from his dept in Stanford may show up in the memorial service and even give a speech, I'm not sure about that. I don't want to request it, it's all up to themselves. but in case they show up, we don't want to make them feel they are excluded. The 2nd reason is I learned the lesson from 4/9 eathquake candlelight vigil. We didn't expect KQED showed up, luckily we have both English and chinese Zhu Chi Ren. so it doesn't hurt to get prepared. If no english media and non-chinese show up, you can just say it in Chinese. 

My 2 cents.

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



James Ma

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我可以出发时带上唐老师,请他们入住后联系我:650-898-7818。这样他们系主任可以在11点左右自己开车到殡仪馆。如果觉得这样对他们系主任不够尊重,能否11点左右请谢兴负责接一下?关于唐老师的发言,中文5-10min我觉得可以。

马健

2010/2/24 Xing Xie <xie...@stanford.edu>
刚跟唐老师通完电话

他和NTU他们系的系主任星期五上午9点左右到SFO 他们自己租车过来 所以不需要接送
他们到后会先去见见家人 下午目前还比较机动

周六上午他可以9点到场,但问题是同行的系主任是否需要一起过去。如果不一起
过去的话,需要我们安排接送。

他说可以在葬礼上做发言,但希望告知有无具体要求
我跟他说先按照中文 5-10min准备 如果大家觉得不妥再邮件通知

谢兴

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2010/2/24 James Ma <jma....@gmail.com>

周六安排 (V2.0)

1. 后勤组
负责人:马健
到达时间:9:00
任务:布置会场,以及开始公祭后的一切后勤打杂
备注:马健会带3个人左右,开两辆车,把一超家属带到会场。然后和大和尚及家属一起布置会场。

2. 内卫组
负责人:Zhu Qin
到达时间:9:30
任务:劝慰家属
备注:现已确定的参加人员有Zhu Qin,曹丹,Zhang
Jun以及10:30到的Jackie。希望到时候还有于春满和谭教授。请谢兴向谭教授确认。希望于春满和谭教授可以控制一超父亲(注意:谭教授很重要!),11点前,我的重点将是控制一超父亲。另外希望Jun可以控制玉莹;Qin可以控制一超母亲。由于曹丹还有外联任务,所以内卫组现在还缺人,呼唤吴晓萌(Singleton),吴琳枫以及我不认识的女将们站出来。

hey, nikeman, i can help at my best. I am sorry I could not follow all the arrangements these days as I am very busy to
catch the deadline, but I will do what I am assigned on weekend. :)

 

Qing Lucich

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I will try get one or two ladies to come at 9:30. Will confirm later.

Yichao Family

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From: happy belle xing <isabel...@gmail.com>
Date: 2010/2/24
Subject: Re: 周六全过程安排(初步)
To: Qing Lucich <qlu...@gmail.com>, zhoujj <zhh...@hotmail.com>
Cc: yichao...@googlegroups.com, Bellybutton
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yichao...@gmail.com, Karlin Wang <lin...@gmail.com>, jackie zhou
<jacki...@yahoo.com>


我可以去的 。我和mit id :apieceofyou (两个女生) 可以负责陪yichao家属。9点半 出现mv 现场


2010/2/24 happy belle xing <isabel...@gmail.com>
>
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>
> 2010/2/24 Qing Lucich <qlu...@gmail.com>

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i can bring my own camera, not a professional one too

2010/2/24 lint <lint...@gmail.com>
maybe I can help take some photos if necessary


2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>

jackie zhou

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I came to help as an individual. My friends in 长生学 (Chang Sheng Xue) came to help as individuals, too. We don't represent the organization of 长生学 (Chang Sheng Xue). Please don't use the name of 长生学 (Chang Sheng Xue) in media or in speech at the funeral. We need aproval from the organization to use the name.

Thanks,

JJ

--- On Thu, 2/25/10, singletondev singletondev <single...@gmail.com> wrote:

From: singletondev singletondev <single...@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: 周六全过程安排(初步)
2010/2/24 lint <lint...@gmail.com>


2010/2/24 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>
昨天晚上我跟一超父亲谈,有一种很不好的感觉。他现在非常愤怒,甚至提到恨不得自己找司机算帐。我想说的是这种情绪可以理解,但是对事情无事于补,相反至少对他身体很不好,人都已经走了,他们应该尽快从悲伤中恢复起来,该干嘛干嘛去,官司的事交给律师就行了,很简单的一个官司。他妻子还很年轻,还有很长的路可以走。父母也不算年纪大,还可以自己过着很充实的生活,把全部希望寄托在小孩身上本来就不妥。这个是个“事故”,人人都有可能遇到的,不是谋杀,没有谁是故意的,而且双方都有责任。事情既然发生了就发生了,应该赶快让它过去,而不是把事情越闹越大,这一套在这边吃不通的,交通事故的司法也不会因为舆论而偏向谁。我感觉有人在煽风点火,起着一些不好的作用。希望我们 陪伴组的以及其他和他家属走的近的多多开导。闹大了对谁都没有好处,本来就是冤冤相报和时了。一个已经死了,还要气死逼死雷死更多的人不成?我们应该多想办法开导他们,让他们的生活重新找到其他希望,而不是在这件事上耗费更多的情绪。我昨天看见他爸充妈妈岳母妻子吼,心里挺不舒服的,也许是我们女人天生就不喜欢惹事吧。他们既然到这个岁数了,又是信佛的,很多事情应该能讲得通的。我们应该尽全力的是抢救一超,现在一超走了,很多事情做起来我个人觉得真是没有意义。我实话实说。

Dan Cao

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Feb 25, 2010, 7:46:45 PM2/25/10
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Just got the voicemail from Ma Jian: his family wants us to help to video tape the service. so can somebody help on that? Thanks, Dan

Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



On Feb 25, 2010, at 11:04 AM, Betty wrote:

I can bring Nikon D90 if needed.  But I don't know if we need that many pictures in event like this?  But I will bring it just in case.
~Betty

2010/2/25 singletondev singletondev <single...@gmail.com>

Gao Hui

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Feb 25, 2010, 7:54:30 PM2/25/10
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I can do the video tape thing. let me check to borrow a video camera.
-Hui

2010/2/25 Dan Cao <caoda...@gmail.com>

Dan Cao

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Feb 25, 2010, 8:09:36 PM2/25/10
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Thanks for taking care of this. KTSF26 Liao Peijun just called me, they just interviewed Wang's family and they will have newscast tonight at 10-11PM news. can somebody hep recording it and put it on youtube? She say there's probably not enough time for 7PM Cantonese news but for sure will be on 10PM news.


Dan Cao, Ph.D.
Department of Pediatrics & Genetics
Stanford University School of Medicine
Stanford, CA 94305-4205



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