experiences

[angelic]

Dear Family,

I need some guidance to a question that is puzzelling me.

Last night, I learnt that my hubby's car was more important than I
was, this is how I have interpreted it.
The main feeling behind this is that I 'm doing some filming work
again over two days next week in Liverpool so instead of doing a
return journey I'd save petrol by staying over night in our caravan.
I asked if we could swap cars just for the two days as hubby's car has
a tow bar on it where mine doesn't. I could tow the caravan to use as
an over night stopper. My son thought this to be a good idea as I did.
Hubby had other ideas.

Hubby's car is a lot more powerful than mine. I've driven it before,
but not with caravan on the back, he's got the next version of mondeo
up from the last one, I've owned a mondeo before and towed the
caravan with it but I've down graded my car to a Focus.

Hubby's feelings were, if I had an accident in his car, what would he
drive to work in? He prepared to use my car. My feelings were if I
had an accident, what about me? He wasn't worried at all about me just
the car and not being able to work.

I was so shocked that there was no trust or confidense in me with his
car. I decided there an then I wouldn't his car unless he was either
very tired or had a drink, in my hubby's case it would be tiredness as
he hardly drinks.

I asked the angels last night what experience I was to learn from
this, the answer seemd to be don't take any one for granted, respect
his views. But I have to admit, this one was a hard one to swallow,
respect his views that the car is more important than I am. To me a
car is a car and gets you from A-B Hubby said that I was putting my
own interpretation on it, but what else could I read into what he
said? I actually said he's got his priorities in the wrong place he
disagreed.

I'm learning not to label things, so I call them experiences as we
learn answers out of experiences, so I'm thinking this is a test of
some kind, My question is, have I got to earn his respect first
before he respects me? He did suggest I find a bed and breakfast in
Liverpool instead of taking the caravan or stay at my friend Maggie's
who I haven't seen for a long time, that's if she's able to see me as
I know her mums not well.

I'm a little confused with this one. I let him vent his feelings to
get a clearer picture and to learn from it. Ironically it, there was
no shouting just a debate. Then it ended as fast as it began.

I'm not looking for who's right and who's wrong, I'm trying to find
the reasoning for the experience. I'm more than willing to learn to
understand.

Any guidance would be apreciated, not about the car, but the meaning.

love to all.

Deborah.
xxx