Let's set things straight, right here, right now! I wanted to be quiet and let things be, but now I am seeing too many people getting involved over things that really have gotten blown out of proportion.
Facts: We have been a team for over two years now and things have gotten sticky, especially over emails. The truth is we all have differing personalities and have either made it work or moved on. There has been a revolving door of players due to injuries, attitudes or whatever other reasons over the past two years. The truth is that people have been whining since the team started for one reason or another, it has just gotten worse since early summer. Some people are always going to not be happy with the state of things. When I started to "pseudo-manage" this team, I decided to listen to the majority of what the team wanted. In doing so, it was not popluar with certain players, I listened to them and realized they were right as well about certain issues but not all things. When I see this calling out and name calling, especially from people not participating and only getting one side of the whole picture, its time to step in and end it.
As I stated before in an email as well is in person: "you can't please everyone". And those of you who don't like me or my personality or attitude agreed with me in person and stated that. I will be the first to say that I am the first person to admit guilt on being a bit competitive, smart-alecky, and sometimes frustrated at other players teamwork. That being said, we all have been there. Character is how to react, apologize, and move on.
Sometimes things just don't work out, sometimes you can't apologize enough to people who are not gracious enough to accept it and realize their own shortcomings. Sometimes we get an overdeveloped sense of justice and think our view is the only right one. Thats when things got worse.
I know that these awful emails are intended to not only raise eyebrows, but create division. If that is your goal, look inside and really dig deep about your character. (yes, this sounds ridiculous, but do it).
Another fact: No one has kicked anyone off the team! This is directed straight at you Rogan and Jocelyn. I have been in and out of town and when I got that first email, I was as puzzled as you and did not have the time (like I do now) to correct it. To set it straight, I talked to Val, who has tried to correct this and make it right. Rogan, you went public on email to get sympathy and it backfired. The reason she pulled the names was because you had listed yourself as not playing for the rest of the season. Why would you do that? You have your reasons I guess. Actually I know that answer.... you have made statements that you were done to other players, you said you weren't interested in the next season either, even though it was offered to you directly by me!
What many people don't see in these emails are the conversations in person, on the phone or private emails I had with you regarding all these issues, starting over three to four months ago. It seems that when I told you what others felt about problems that revolved around you, that you did not care or simply dismissed them. So when you get mad and have others back you up in public emails, don't pick parts and pieces of conversations that suit your needs. We don't need to do a bunch of lawyering to gain sympathy on either side.
Luke, you can have your team name back. You deserve it and by all rights, please keep it, we will come up with another. But please stay out of this, you are getting pieces and parts of this and really seem to be manipulating a situation that has nothing to do with you. I am going to keep this soft, because you know I know more than meets the eye with you. And you are right, Jason is very competitive and "critique-like". But you don't know him, he is a good guy, that just wants to play and keep the team morale together. So let's just end all of this and go away with a smile and know we are all going to try to be better people that have differences.
Jocelyn, Im sorry that you are caught in the middle of this, it is completely unfair to you and you didn't deserve to be upset by this. regardless of where your feelings and standings are, I wouldn't blame you for sticking by your guy. I hope this email truly finds you to believe that no one has ill will towards you regardless of your last email. Just know that you also were not privy to first-hand conversations about other issues and previous players we all as a team had issues with. It sucks to even have to send this email out to any one, but it needs to end here.
Again, I am holding back because I know there has been alot of manipulation, but its not worth fighting over anymore. Let's all be gracious and just stop all this nonsense right now. No one will win, no one will feel vindicated, no one will look like the good or bad guy. Just end it.....
PLEASE DO NOT RESPOND TO THIS. JUST END THIS HERE. IF WE MEET AGAIN, BE PLEASANT. IT'S OVER.......
Michael Anthony
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Date: Wed, 22 Oct 2008 21:06:20 -0700