thanks, but that is not the problem.
i think there is a bug with xp and some versions of the agent.
the manager versione is 3.12
So, with agent version 3.12 and 4.1 is all ok..unfortunately that agents on xp are not stable and after some days (or hours) the agent goes down without a visible reason.
I had this stability problem also with server 2003, but in this case the 3.7 agent version goes up and it's very reliable.
With Xp (tried on more pc) with the versions 3.7, 3.8, 3.9 the agent register on the manager, so the communication on the port 1515 is ok, but it can't connect through the 1514 port, so we start again with my original problem.