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Hanne Rylaarsdam
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Having worked with thousands of people over the years, I have noticed an interesting phenomenon. While there are those who are extremely nervous in any speaking situation, more often than not, people tell me that they are only really nervous in certain specific situations. And those situations are usually based on two criteria: the number of people in the audience and how well the speaker knows those people.
Public speaking is a skill like any other; the more you do it, the better you will become and the more comfortable you will feel. And, getting comfortable with public speaking in one quadrant should help you feel more confident in the others. Nevertheless, to be truly confident in all four quadrants, you need to speak in all four quadrants. Below are some suggestions about ways in which to get practice in each.
Of course, there are other options in addition to those listed above. Please feel free to share your ideas in the Comments section below. The goal is to make a conscious effort to speak in those quadrants that make you the most uncomfortable. When we move toward the things that scare us in life, we experience our greatest personal growth.
I share that brutal piece of information because, over a decade later, when the #metoo movement happened, I was completely in favor of it. I was horrified at the number of stories that were shared but simultaneously thrilled that those stories were seeing the light of day as victims took their power back. A year after the movement started, I mustered the courage to share my story publicly for the first time since it happened (though I clearly did not understand how a hashtag worked at the time). For me, it transformed my experience with what happened into something that was empowering rather than something debilitating.
Undoubtedly, the impact of the #metoo movement has been a net positive, changing the way U.S. workers interact with each other in the office, the way supervisors treat their employees, and the way organizations handle sexual harassment training and allegations of misconduct. Complaints about sexual harassment increased significantly following the broader awareness of the movement, indicating that more people felt empowered to share their stories and felt more comfortable that their organization would do the right thing.
When allegations of sexual harassment are made in the workplace, organizations should take it seriously and have a duty to investigate. According to Jim Priest, President of Sage Counsel and an experienced employment lawyer, workplaces can best support women who are coming forth with allegations by using the T*I*P* approach:
We do need to keep that in mind when it comes to fear surrounding false allegations. Though research is difficult to pin down on this topic, it does tend to show that false allegations represent between 2% and 10% of all claims.
But I challenge you to consider the consequences of those false allegations for the people they are targeting: When we assume the person being accused is guilty before conducting an investigation, or even hold onto that assumption if the outcome of that investigation does not prove their guilt, it can be incredibly damaging to their careers, their reputations, their relationships, and their mental health.
And the EEOC data does not include the full breadth of reports of harassment since it does not include charges filed with state or local agencies or ones that never get reported through government channels. Potentially, the numbers could be even higher.
If a person is correctly accused of harassment or assault towards a colleague, and those allegations are proven to be valid following an investigation, then it is fair game for them to suffer the consequences for their actions that are proportional to what they did.
But we are not talking about the flip side of the equation, and the impact it can have on very real lives when the allegations are not true, but are presumed to be by organizational leaders and/or the colleagues of the accused.
I also did speak to many more men than were featured in this article about their experiences, but they were afraid to come forward and share their stories out of fear of retribution. But their sentiments echoed the stories told here.
When a woman who has been the victim of sexual harassment or assault comes forward, it is an incredibly vulnerable act. I still remember the pain, anxiety, anger and humiliation I experienced when I express what happened to me all those years ago and was met with stone-cold glares of incredulity by those who were supposed to help me. It is just as real to me today as it was back then. But we must all remember that the harm that has been inflicted on those who have experienced harassment and assault will not diminish when people who have done nothing wrong suffer the consequences of false accusations.
For a couple of months when I call my brother whose number ends in "6" I only get through to him about half of the time. The other times the phone actually enters "3" as the last number even though I clearly enter "6" and "6" actually shows up on the screen. For awhile I tried a second cordless phone and that one seemed to work OK, but lately that one also has been converting the "6" to "3." Today it messed up another number that has a 6 in it. Not sure if it always enters 3 rather than 6. What in the world is going on? Extremely frustrating.
My guess is you have an older corded phone with no polarity guard, which would make touch tones not work, if you're not hearing the tone after connecting to the LD service than that's what it is. I could go into a long drawn out reason as to why they did this back in the day, but that wouldn't help you. It's sounding more and more to me that it's the trunks being used for this service by AT&T and the fact that it isn't consistent probably means just a few of the trunks are bad or a trunk group is bad. I'm certain from what you've done and explained this is an AT&T long distance circuit problem.
Try powering down the base unit for a couple minutes, if that doesn't fix it than I'd say time for another phone. If the base has a battery backup remove them also before powering back up. I can't see two dial pads going bad at the same time, but anything is possible.
Thanks very much for this suggestion. I followed your advice and made a call to the problematic number with no problem after I powered the phone back up. I'll see how things go in the future. It seemed to work correctly about 50% of the time before I tried your suggestion. It will be so nice if this "reboot" solves the problem. Thank you for the suggestion! (P.S. Hope it's not time for new phones since the phones are only about one year old!)
The phone has started acting up again. It is registering the wrong number when I key in "6." I wonder if it could be connected to use of an AT&T pre-paid phone card? It seems to only happen when I try to use the AT&T phone card. When I called the number without using the card, the call went through fine. I am out of town now so I can't try rebooting the modem for awhile. Thanks for trying to help!
If you can be sure it's only when using the card, than it has nothing to do with your phones, however it sounded in your first post the phone was actually displaying 3 when you entered the 6 which would indicate the phone. If you have a regular known working corded phone, plug it in and see if that fixes your problem, if so you'll know it's the phones.
The "3" has never displayed. I only knew it was 3 because the answering message clicked on and gave the number I reached which ended with 3 rather than 6. While the screen showed "6" the "3" is what actually registered. I have a regular phone with a cord, but it strangely won't work at all with the AT&T prepaid cards. This is just such a strange occurrence. I have bought AT&T prepaid cards many times in the past and have never had any trouble. I will not be buying any more AT&T prepaid cards after this. Thank you for all of your help!
16 April 1963
My Dear Fellow Clergymen:
While confined here in the Birmingham city jail, I came across your recent statementcallingmy present activities "unwise and untimely." Seldom do I pause to answer criticism of mywork andideas. If I sought to answer all the criticisms that cross my desk, my secretaries wouldhave little timefor anything other than such correspondence in the course of the day, and I would have notime forconstructive work. But since I feel that you are men of genuine good will and that yourcriticisms aresincerely set forth, I want to try to answer your statement in what I hope will be patientandreasonable terms.
I think I should indicate why I am here in Birmingham, since you have been influencedby theview which argues against "outsiders coming in." I have the honor of serving as presidentof theSouthern Christian Leadership Conference, an organization operating in every southernstate, withheadquarters in Atlanta, Georgia. We have some eighty five affiliated organizations acrossthe South,and one of them is the Alabama Christian Movement for Human Rights. Frequently we sharestaff,educational and financial resources with our affiliates. Several months ago the affiliatehere inBirmingham asked us to be on call to engage in a nonviolent direct action program if suchweredeemed necessary. We readily consented, and when the hour came we lived up to our promise.So I,along with several members of my staff, am here because I was invited here. I am herebecause I haveorganizational ties here.
But more basically, I am in Birmingham because injustice is here. Just as the prophetsof theeighth century B.C. left their villages and carried their "thus saith the Lord" far beyondthe boundariesof their home towns, and just as the Apostle Paul left his village of Tarsus and carriedthe gospel ofJesus Christ to the far corners of the Greco Roman world, so am I compelled to carry thegospel offreedom beyond my own home town. Like Paul, I must constantly respond to the Macedoniancall foraid.
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