Wapama is much lighter than Oryx. It is consolidated and streamlines the backend to ensure it can be used with other services, for example a JSR repository like Drools started with. The metamodel can also be served programmatically - an improvement over the Oryx metamodels that were static json files.
Oryx tries to support a number of plugins. They were removed in Wapama - for example, the BPEL plugins - as they were not good enough or not tested well, or just didn't cut it.
There is also the community aspect. Wapama was meant to be an open source project with proper releases.
The project is not actively maintained anymore, but in the tradition of github, there are several forks out there that have much more activity. You should investigate and see what is going on.
Wapama like Oryx still has a dependency over extJS v2.0.2. You might also want to investigate the legal implications of using the software with that dependency, or spend the time necessary to get rid of it for something like jQuery.
I hope that helps!
Antoine