Perhaps the Officer Cadre of the Services has been swayed or skewed by the idea of privileges of rank. General Cariappa the first Army Chief said that the Indian Army has one officer cadre - ranks are an administrative convenience. Perhaps our babus have imbibed this better than the Army's rank and status strapped Army. An IAS officer is proud be belong to the service i.e. IAS. That is what General Cariappa meant.
In real combat it is the Majors and Captains that will do the actual fighting not the Brigadiers and Generals. Therefore there needs to one service so that there is enough rapport between those that plan and those that execute.
Should senior officers have more privileges - absolutely. But these must stem from a genuine respect for the service rendered or leadership ability it cannot be coerced based on a vulgar display of stars and golden unauthorized embellishments on cars and umbrellas or clothing and a feudal display of unauthorized status. If there is no trust between Senior Officers and the Junior captains - the service is doomed.
Some senior officers are not recognizing the change in a modern and fast developing India. The closer they get to their officer cadre and the closer officers get to the rank and file the better it would be for all and the service.
I served for 20 years and quit. I can assure you there is no point of ostentation, unauthorized privilege if your officers spit at you behind your back. In actual hot war situation, they might do more than spit. The idea that Senior officers should have exclusive clubs, distinguishing umbrellas and accoutrements is a narrow view to divide the officer cadre. Besides clubs, golf, mess (maintain equal social status) are an insignificant part of actual combat service. How is it that these institutions meant to socially converge the officer cadres should now be used to divide it?
I see two anomalies here - one - we need to be cognizant of the modernization of the country. Its no longer a British colony and the colonial practices of the British will have to die, no matter how much we try to "keep up the tradition". Secondly - there is bureaucratization of the Army. We like to ape the Babudom, which is corrupt and inefficient. Despite the brilliance that the bureaucrats apportion to themselves, in a recent UN study our bureaucracy was ranked at the bottom of all democracies. Basically its the worst bureaucracy in the world. There are other causes also, such as a proliferation of ranks. Whereas the duties have not changed but the rank of the officer has gone up 3 fold. Perhaps to keep parity with the civil services, but it has resulted in privilege mongering among the large number of brigadiers and generals. The sheer number of generals has caused a loss in their uniqueness.
Perhaps the Generals and Captains should remember, that all things in the Service stem from Combat duty. Each institution is created to inculcate team spirit and camaraderie, clubs, messes, social functions, golf courses, houses, whatever theres is. These are not meant to create privilege but to engender espirit de corps and a sense of belonging which would come in handy in hot war. Any general or captain who thinks that these are a "privilege" does not understand the conceptual idea of recreational assets of the service and is perhaps too insecure to command officers and men.