hi
i am writing this with some basic usage of VASP. not sure if it really helps you.
I am using VASP. thought i do not exactly able to answer your your question, in general for a crystal structure subjected to relaxation of geometry to get lower energy, we use a K-point grid as 33/a, 33/b, 33/c where a,b,c are lattice parameters. so for example my crystal's lattice parameters are 3.2, 3.2, 5.02 then k-mesh will be [10 10 6]. the actual k-points will be internally generated.
by the way this group is still need to grow with more people who uses these softwares, so that we can share our knowledge. please encourage all your known contacts who does such research to join this.