Video from Cornelius Hamelberg
Cornelius Hamelberg
South Africa seems to be the leader when it comes to advancing sexual liberty (some of the strictly moral conservatives would say revolutionary sexual chaos and anarchy) such as the proposed legalisation of polyandry in that post-Apartheid country. It's just a matter of time before the militant feminists in other African countries also start fighting for " their rights" and then it should be expected that the main opposition to such a proposal will come from Muslims and Christians, and of course, some of the "traditionalists" and pagans.
My understanding is that even the Almighty says that he’s “a jealous God”
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Assensoh, Akwasi B.
Dear Brother Cornelius:
Discussing polyandry (for the benefit of our Sisters in South Africa) brings memories for
me in my African history classrooms, where i often discuss polyandry and, also, for men,
polygyny. Do you know what happens each semester and, in fact, as recently as just last
semester? Well, I have good news for you!
Many female students, fascinated by polyandry, are ready to pack their bag and baggage to
move to wherever the practice is prevalent, including India. Then, many young men, fascinated
by polygyny, are as well ready to move to African and several Muslim societies. It is all in the
interest of sexual equity!
In the sagacious words of VC Aluko, a great Mentor (in addition to Baba Ijebu and a few others),
I re-echo his words: And there you have it!
A.B. Assensoh.
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Cornelius Hamelberg
Wofa Akwasi,
Of what use would an old man be in a polyandry situation? Serve in the kitchen as her galley slave?
Otherwise, re - “many young men, fascinated by polygyny, are as well ready to move to African and several Muslim societies”. You got me laughing heartily. It’s not only many young men that are fascinated by the prospects offered by polygamy, many old youth and even older men are equally fascinated and I guess would like to experiment with a polygamic life style, legally, for the remainder of their days on this planet. Especially, some of those in the Diaspora West, it’s just that all of us can’t just say that we’re sick and tired of life in the West, we want to enjoy our last days on earth, so we’re going to pack up and go back to Africa tomorrow and to the traditional, pre-colonial lifestyle, polygamy, palm wine, moin-moin.
Polygamy? Take me for example, if I told my Better Half that I’m thinking of increasing our household by one more member, that is a young girl to be helping us in the kitchen, I’m sure that she would poison my coffee or my moin-moin, my weakness.
Now that the holy month of Ramadan prayer and fasting is over, I can post this item about something common to Jack Sprat and his wife and to Muslims and non-Muslims alike, namely, the dictatorship of the belly!
From there it’s easy to understand the significance of the adage, “The way to a man's heart is through his stomach” and that it’s probably also the way to a woman's heart...
Up to this day, I’m still trying to figure out what someone had in mind when I greeted her politely as “Sister”. This was at an African ladies cosmetics store run by a Sierra Leone sister in down-town Stockholm. I had gone to her food store next door to get some okra and egusi and then popped in to say hello. The place was usually packed with African women of all shapes, sizes and complexions, including complexions produced by popular skin-lightening creams and in these later days all kinds of hairstyles, big wigs, little wigs, all kinds of colours for the hair pieces, and, lo and behold, there she was (here, I’ll just call her “Lady G”). I merely smiled at her and said “Hello sister “ and what did I get in return? To the hearing of all the ladies present she replied, “My husband is equal to ten men!” or had she replied, beating her chest, “My husband has the stamina to satisfy ten women!”. Why was she telling me this? I thought, another nymphomaniac, probably in need of at least ten husbands. Whatever it is that she meant, I thought that she was was being vulgar. All I had said was an innocent “ Hello sister.”
Reminds me of Angela. The very last time I saw her, she told me, smilingly, “Cornelius, my husband just bought me a new Mercedes Benz!” The. Idiot. Her husband, the oga. Good for him, as if she didn’t know that if I were her husband, the very least she would have got from me as her birthday present would have been the latest Boeing 707.
If wishes were passenger planes then paupers would fly.
That’s the problem with some of these women, especially those unequally yoked to supermen who are either “equal to ten men” or can quench the thirst of ten women within twenty four hours. The Hausaman selling the gagai told me “By the time you are through with her, she’ll be weak on the seat; for sure she had better have a glass of water by the bedside table ...” Macho man talk. Me, I’m thinking of she’s so sweet and gentle.
I take it that you agree with the proposition that all men are polygamic by nature and that so far the wisest Solomon as the world champion?
I also take it that most of us will readily agree that to some extent, polyandry must solve the problem of demand and supply. I’m told that some of these women have such a voracious appetite (never satisfied) they would need to be married to at least ten insatiable men, simultaneously. From her point of view, diversity must be a good thing. A blessing. The more the merrier. Olympian compulsions. Set up their night-time rosters. Keep records of performance. Survival of the fittest. They get rusty and start squeaking like old fire engines, change ‘em. First and foremost, on the physical & emotional plane these are the kinds of women who would be screaming for polyandry, and of course she would have her favourite husband from the top ten among her able bodied men, thus causing some degree of jealousy among her competing husbands. For intellectual companionship of the type only professors of this and that can provide, she would be requesting nothing less than some ragamuffin Professor of Swedish Academy semiotics, some dance therapy, poetry and existential philosophy.
Sadly, for some of the patriarchs, the good old days of polygamy have been replaced by one man, one Mercedes, with the possibility of what Baba Kadiri refers to as “serial monogamy”
BTW – and as a man of the cloth in these days, how does St. Paul resonate when he says. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord” - whereas modern day polyandry probably requires that the men sign the contract that goes “Husbands, submit to your wife as to the Lord!”. I wonder what Baba Ijebu would have to say about all this