Some Helpful of Managing Cold-room Challenges

Obododimma Oha

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Some Helpful Ways of Managing Cold-room Challenges by Obododimma Oha, on Facebook.

1. Don’t stay too long in your office. Don’t turn your office to your bedroom if you are a lecturer.

2. Be aware of the presence of mercenaries and beware of them. Unless you want to commit suicide.

3. If a there a room within a room, you have the right to be suspicious! Avoid it by all means!

4. If you are a hunter, you should know that you can be the hunted.

5. If you are trapped in the cold room, get ready to tell your story without protecting anyone or any interest.

6. If you must commit a cold room crime, at least try to be clever. Don’t play your ignoble role as a mumu!

7. It is always better not to fall into a trap. Once trapped, the animal is a “struggler.” When struggling, don’t undermine yourself or make things worse!

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B.A.,First Class Honours (English & Literary Studies);
M.A., Ph.D. (English Language);
M.Sc. (Legal, Criminological & Security Psychology);
Professor of Cultural Semiotics & Stylistics,
Department of English,
University of Ibadan.

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Gbemi Tijani

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Oct 17, 2019, 4:57:17 AM10/17/19

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Dear Prof Oha, longest friend.I read your interesting not so complex cold room ethical rules that are not impossible for the vulnerable libidinal captives.I don't think they aren't deeply meditated.Sure it will help neophytes

And inform culpables too.

* Though of course any level of heterosexual affinity is not useless nor libidinous ly empty -- using Obodo s cold room survival guide might be intellectual ly productive not extorting if you dwell more on the 'contents' of the strange babe than her delicate 'container.

*I have said it elsewhere tacitly repeatedly ,libido rules the world directly or indirectly,or its prominence can't be jettisoned in the schematic dynamics of politics & measurement of standards in other spheres of life.Tell me which sector of human life is exemplary or completely exonerated from this original cold room captivity?.

*However it's not impossible to be chaste nor remain exclusively monogamous.Another available least psychological & physically expensive is to learn how to practise and perfect good love act with your congruous partner.Its a mutually involved harmless creative teaching and books can also help.There should be more in the open space of authors than the one I jam into four decades ago when I was surrounded by bevies of brains and beautiful!

Have you ever wondered despite it's so private yet it's a public affair especially if the processes of intimacy are culturally odd to the community or political or academic echelons in question?Maybe individual Freedom matters.Maybe it's impossible to be cured once the libido virus enormously engulfed both parties.

What if all these societal ethics and strict rules don't bother some vulnerable folks becsuse more men than women are biologically inured in universal dispensing of their fluid either for dominance or just for undefined Perennial.Again a few men are very innocent gentle and morally compliant but are not ecologically immune from stubborn obstinate and seductive opposite gender admirers! Imagine where s discipline? What scriptures or faith knowledge is applicable here to wade off this rampart weakness of humanity? Isn't Holy Spirit always helpful? As Verwer asked in

'The Revolution of Love' Can you be holy without the Spirit?

Outside the academia see different categories of those who have fallen or to make it more paradoxically bold with impunity - they are even transacting with notably underage 'captives' internationally and tell me which continent is exempted.A times I marvel at this world of double tongue,implying one has to really encourage glossolalia CV partly or personal for Holy Spirit control and for the healing of the entire libido-ruled society , fraternity,assemblies,citadels

,congress,leagues advisories,skill assessment or regulatory boards to mention a few settings of culpability.

As Dr J.O.Abdulmalik , Consultant Psychiatrist ,UCH,Ibadan empirically illustrated and warned and admonished that you don't have to be a psychiatrist to monitor and be an accessible confidant, friend to a colleague doctor or health worker or patient or any other acquaintance suspicious of lacking zeal or absent in any of the basic or social life activities- be a warm caring brother. He actually professionally substantiated with local statistics. Could you imagine a 1990 suicide of 3703 in Nigeria alone and globally every 2 secs someone has committed suicide he presented in a lecture,Curbing The Increasing Trend of Suicide In Nigeria organised by Nigerian Medical Association,OYO STATE as part of her Physician Week held at NMA House Ibadan last Tuesday.

The erudite lecturer stressed that BECAUSE we have different level of Resilience to personal problems or other societal shocks that oddly present themselves-- doctors inclusive-- we should be tacitly vigilant if anything is going awry with colleagues or patients or our neighbors and show love manifest that the person matters previously and shouldn't be neglected whatever the issue at stake with him.He diligently reviewed the suicide factors of Resilience & Vulnerability.For instance outside his presentation , according to Premium Times online one of the victims of sex scandal at a Lagos University committed suicide prior to public disclosure of the outcome of the report regarding this misdemeanor.whereas others in the same citadel and elsewhere take it as one of those expected consequences or punitive measures that will follow such expensive cold rooms acts....

Keeping mistresses with ulterior inordinate reward - what's your thought ?A lot got away with it and myriads will never be caught despite ubiquitous portable mobile to record all delightful or discontented that happened.

Continuing peer and professional education other than and in addition to Discipline rooted in Holy Spirit guide will help to maintain hilarity but reduce outrageous or inappropriate relationship in all settings where both men and women mingle or must interact to grow and enhance their role specifics.

My dear Professor Obododinma Oha,who was also one time a guest editor of New Poetry Digest and News,an online,2 004-2014- ezine in the USA managed by contributors who have roamed all genre of the literary world --thank you for provoking 'this again & for TF more grease to the elbow of this human angle platform purposely for the good of all and for town & gown.

Gbemi Tijani MST

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Obododimma Oha

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Oct 18, 2019, 6:40:40 AM10/18/19

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Thanks, Gbemi. A long intervention, but I read it all. Also, I went to my ancestors and their cobwebbed response was that "Nkila anaghi ata okpukpu a nyabara ya n'olu!" (A dog does not eat the bone that is hung on its neck ).

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Obododimma.

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OLAYINKA AGBETUYI

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Oct 18, 2019, 10:46:08 AM10/18/19

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It is precisely because psychoanalytically academics are among those with high libidinal flow( most of which is sublimated into academic work) that they are academics and prime suspects for harassment if adequate checks are not put in place barring traditional ethical constraints. These traditional ethical constraints have been shorn off by the cosmopolitanism of university life.

This is why one is not surprised that America went through the same phase ( BBC did not focus on them at the time else the US would not have enjoyed the high rate of committed migrant African academics as it does now) until as we are told they put their house in order. So from that perspective Nigeria is not unique. It is the reasons for the increase in the rate of occurrence that needs probing and as it turns out this is part of the general societal comparative decay.

OAA

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