one of the main things i am concerned
about is teaching him money. it's confusing for him. i guess im just
wondering, will he learn on his own? i should try to integrate money/
math into things he is already doing on his own? im not sure.....
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-=- one of the main things i am concerned
about is teaching him money. it's confusing for him. i guess im just
wondering, will he learn on his own? i should try to integrate money/
math into things he is already doing on his own? im not sure.....-=-
I don't think you should "teach him money."
How is he with video game scores? How is he with "gold" within games?
Do you ever play poker with him or other games that involve money (or chips) but just for fun?
-=- i guess im just wondering, will he learn on his own? -=-
You can create an environment that makes it easier for him to learn on his own.
These might have something helpful in them, or links to something that might give you other ideas:
http://sandradodd.com/math/allowance
http://sandradodd.com/money
Sandra
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I'm a little that way, but I married someone who's good with money and knows about things like refinancing mortgages.
-=- His pay is directly deposited. His rent and bills are paid on time. A portion goes into his savings. He is given a cash allowance of an amount agreed upon, and if he wants to buy something bigger, he calls his accountant and they look over the budget. -=-
This is really wonderful.
My husband's mom used to do his taxes, because she liked to, and knew ways to save money.
He likes to do our kids' taxes, but Kirby likes to do his own. This is not (I don't think) normal human behavior, to LIKE to do taxes. :-)
Maybe, if he's fine with using the computer, you could get a debit card to share with him, and bookmark the page where the transactions and balance are shown for the debit card. He might have no interest, but if he gets that, he's pretty well set, I think. People hardly use checks or cash anymore anyway.
Sandra
If he likes school, let him go.
If he doesn't like school, don't send him tomorrow.
There's no reason to "finish the year" if you're not going to finish the diploma.
There's no reason to finish the day. If you don't see this until after he's gone to school, you could go and get him. Take him to lunch. :-) Lots of places don't even require a signature if the food is less than $25 these days. :-)
Even if you're just going to think about unschooling, he could miss a day.
You'll have regret enough. You don't have to add to that.
Sandra
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> i've been having lots of discussions with him, letting him express
> himself and tell me anything he needs to about school. mostly it seems
> he doesnt want to get up in the morning. he was in tears one morning
> (and hardly ever cries). i wouldnt think getting up early would make
> him so upset. tho i dont like getting up at 6am with him either lol.
> he's been making himself throw up too. seems like a BIG warning sign,
> right?
Warning sign? I'd say it's a communication of desperation because his lesser ways of saying he doesn't want to go are being blown off.
If you ignore that protest, what next step up might he take to get you to listen to his request?
If you said you didn't want to do something to your husband or a friend and they made you anyway, if you cried, and still they made you, if you got so upset you threw up and *still* they made you, what would your reaction be? Your child is a human being too. Why would he be expected to accept such disrespectful treatment?
Why are you making him go to school? Why are you not taking him out of school and letting him stay home?
What is he or you getting from school that's so important that you're willing to treat him in ways that you'd never treat another person whose relationship you cared about? What are the pros and what are the cons?
Those are real questions.
> i've been having lots of discussions with him, letting him express
> himself and tell me anything he needs to about school.
It's not really a discussion if he knows his main objection has no chance of being heeded.
If you said you didn't want to eat the liver at a friend's house and her response was to offer condiments to mask the taste, water to wash it down, dessert as a reward, would it feel like she cared more about you or about her agenda for you?
Please do take him out. He's powerless in the world to control what's done to him. All the power he has comes through you and you're withholding it.
Joyce
-=-If he doesn't like school, don't send him tomorrow.-=-
I think all you've written in this last post suggests he doesn't want
to go, other than to see the girl. He could still see her, if you
arrange it :-)
I'm sure Sandra will explain but if it was me, I would say that once
you've been unschooling for a time, you'll look back at your son's
experience in school and wonder what the heck took you so long to
bring him home.
Robin B.
Having a crush on a girl isn't about the girl's life.
There have been boys who had crushes on Holly over the years. I wouldn't have wanted their mothers to try to arrange for them to see her, if their circumstances changed so that they weren't with her for other purposes (school, clubs meetings, natural hanging out).
Sandra
>> I wouldn't have wanted their mothers to try to arrange for them to see her, if their circumstances changed so that they weren't with her for other purposes (school, clubs meetings, natural hanging out).<<
Sandra
Because it's not a mutual thing.
If someone has a stalker, that's not "a boy/girl thing."
Having a crush on someone isn't being a stalker, but if one has a crush and the "crushee" has no knowledge of that, or knows and isn't interested, then if the mom arranges for them to be in the same place, it kind of becomes stalking.
Sandra
Yes, and I only meant that if *both* kids wanted to see each other,
then the moms could arrange it, outside of school. Sorry I wasn't clear.
Robin B.