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"The Todal" <
deadm...@beeb.co.uk> wrote
>The dating tips are worth looking at just to see if they match one's own
>experience. But there is probably a double standard at work. There is a
>brilliant series of articles in the Guardian by a divorced woman who talks
>about the dishonesty and bullshit that she encounters from men trying to
>pick up women. It's well worth reading all of the articles (some of which
>are hilarious) - at least you then know how the other half lives.
>
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http://www.theguardian.com/profile/stella-grey
I have read much of her page.
Completely unsurprising she has these problems!
Firstly, she is doing all the stuff I warned men about in my writeup.
Putting reliance in a lot of emails before meeting up is stupid,
because it sets you up for a date with a person totally different to
what you very firmly expected. The way you react to somebody you meet
from the internet is exactly the same as if you met them
conventionally. The only difference is that the "playing hard to get;
pretending you aren't interested" female behaviour (typical in the UK,
anyway) is missing. The bloke knows why you are there.
Doing blind dates just sets you up for conmen and assorted perverts -
exactly as doing blind dates with women sets you up with chronic
depressives with a low self esteem (approx 99% of the time). NEVER DO
BLIND DATES!
Half my partner's female friends are on internet dating, mostly
unsuccessfully - because they are doing all this stuff.
Women don't like internet dating (except those who want it for sex -
perhaps 10-20%) so they try to make it more palatable by extensive
email and phone contact, pre-date, to keep it in their familiar
territory until the last moment.
The right approach for both sexes is to sort out basic details
(height, religion, etc), exchange photos (have to be decent photos,
not one of somebody standing in front of the Eiffel tower and showing
the whole tower... yes I have had that!) and then meet up for a walk
down the beach. If somebody sends you a crappy tiny photo, tell them
to f-uck off. They are taking the piss. It's an obvious conm, so why
fall for it. Well, women like to believe......
A dinner right away is not good because you are stuck opposite each
other and cannot escape. Also a lot of people don't actually live like
that - wining and dining - so they are out of their depth. Whereas
anybody normal will be happy doing a walk in a relatively public
place.
If somebody won't do a walk, he or she is probably with somebody! Or,
in the case of a woman especially, she has led somebody up the garden
path in a big way and is being stalked.
The Guardian woman makes good reading but she is wasting her time.
The Guardian is a comic book.