How to stop overthinking every text before sending it?

[Tara Doridy]

I spend ten minutes rewriting a simple "how was your day?" message. Then I worry if I sound boring or too eager. How do I just text like a normal person?

[Iren May]

Here is a rule that changed everything for me: write it once, wait ten seconds, hit send. No rereading, no editing. Your first version is usually the most natural one. Overthinking happens when you try to control how someone will react, which you can't. Also, remember that people are mostly thinking about themselves, not analyzing your word choice. Keep texts short, add one emoji if you want, and put the phone down. For more practical tips on calming dating anxiety, https://wisedate.org/ has solid advice. You are fine. Just send the message and go do something else.