CRY FOR HELP- pregnant friend.

[Heather Thalwitzer]

HELP! My friend is being diagnosed with Intra-Uterine Growth
Retardation by Dr. Enyart in Altamonte and he wants her induced
tomorrow at 5am. She called me JUST NOW on her way home from the
doctor. Way to give her 12 hours to decide, no chance at a second
opinion, and why not prescribe bedrest first?

This is a total cry for help, on your page! Please help- any Ican
people or anyone who knows about this. Her doctor wants to induce her
TOMORROW! I'm going to cry. Her fetus is measuring 4 lbs 6 oz and she
is not quite sure when she conceived, but the original due-date
guestimate is about a month from now. She said something about an 8.35
bdp but I have no idea what that means or if it means anything. Also,
small babies run in her family.

[Ashley Curran]

Will she consider getting a second opinion before undergoing induction a month or more early?

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A caterpillar thinks the world is coming to an end...and then she becomes a butterfly. <3

[Allison Vaughn]

That's horrible! I am not even sure what to say/do. Can she contact Dr. Almet with Fetal Diagnostics?

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Allison

On Tue, Feb 8, 2011 at 5:44 PM, Heather Thalwitzer <heathert...@gmail.com> wrote:

[Katie Martinez]

Contact ICAN.

On Tue, Feb 8, 2011 at 5:44 PM, Heather Thalwitzer <heathert...@gmail.com> wrote:

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Katie Martinez
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LLLofM...@gmail.com
Breastmilk is BESTmilk!
http://www.lllusa.org/web/DesMoinesIA

[Sarah Boye]

I did for her already.

[Heather Thalwitzer]

I'm trying to get her to get a 2nd opinion- she is on Medicaid or
whatever it is, so I'm not sure if she has the funds to just go seek
medical help :( Stinks- that's the way it is.

[Sarah Boye]

Kelli Johnson might see her. She does a free consult...she would probably need to have her medical records with her though. I don't know about any specialists.

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Thanks, guys. I don't know why I was so upset over this- something I
obviously can't control. *deep breath.* She is very reserved, and she
says she wants a natural birth- so I just don't want her to have any
regrets or pain. Clearly I care too much here. She basically asked me
to be there for her at 5am... I was all ready to go... and now she is
like "I think I'm going to hold off." So hopefully she's getting that
second opinion!

[Allison Vaughn]

Is it possible she can just "forget" to go to her scheduled induction? Maybe be "sick" or something? :-/ If it's any consolation, my doctors thought I had IUGR as well (undiagnosed) with my first pregnancy because at almost 38 weeks Carli was 5lbs4oz (which is very small for that gestational age). When I was pregnant with Katelyn, I had to see a fetal diagnostics.. Katelyn measured also very small for her gestational age but was continually growing. Dr. Sweet said, "Well, you just make small babies!" I think the weight you said, at how pregnant she is sounds just fine. Carli was 4lb9oz when we left the hospital..

I definitely recommend your friend getting a second opinion, especially if she has a history of small babies.

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Allison

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Unfortunately she just texted me that she is hooked to the IV- no
drugs yet. The IV was prob the only part of labor I would skip next
time. Maybe she has to have it to be induced? Maybe she decided on an
epidural b/c she's scared of the pain. I'm very concerned about her...
but with modern medicine, as awful as it can be at times, it's also a
blessing b/c even when things aren't done "the way nature intended"
they can make everything mostly okay in the end. =::( my heart is
breaking for her! i hope it all goes well!

[Sarah Boye]

What hospital is she at again?

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Sarah
=^..^=

[Allison Vaughn]

*sigh*

Will you keep us updated? Sending her all the good thoughts that I can!

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Allison

On Wed, Feb 9, 2011 at 7:50 AM, Heather Thalwitzer <heathert...@gmail.com> wrote:

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Pretty sure she said Altamonte. Didn't even realize they had a
maternity center there.

[Sarah Boye]

I've heard that they're a lot better about not separating moms from their babies in normal circumstances. Hopefully the nurses are nicer than the ones I had at Winnie.

On Wed, Feb 9, 2011 at 8:07 AM, Heather Thalwitzer <heathert...@gmail.com> wrote:

Pretty sure she said Altamonte. Didn't even realize they had a
maternity center there.

--
Sarah
=^..^=

[krysti abreu]

Just to stick my nose in.. my Dr swore up and down that my second baby was going to be under 5 lbs... she was a wopping 7.6! He was like " maaybe 5 lbs" soo do they really know? No, your body will make sure you know if somethung like that is wrong

On Feb 9, 2011 6:47 AM, "Allison Vaughn" <ale...@gmail.com> wrote:

Is it possible she can just "forget" to go to her scheduled induction? Maybe be "sick" or something? :-/ If it's any consolation, my doctors thought I had IUGR as well (undiagnosed) with my first pregnancy because at almost 38 weeks Carli was 5lbs4oz (which is very small for that gestational age). When I was pregnant with Katelyn, I had to see a fetal diagnostics.. Katelyn measured also very small for her gestational age but was continually growing. Dr. Sweet said, "Well, you just make small babies!" I think the weight you said, at how pregnant she is sounds just fine. Carli was 4lb9oz when we left the hospital..

I definitely recommend your friend getting a second opinion, especially if she has a history of small babies.

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Allison

On Tue, Feb 8, 2011 at 9:36 PM, Heather Thalwitzer <heathert...@gmail.com> wrote:
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> Than...

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Those were my thoughts... Krysti. I think I freaked out my friend. She
isn't returning my calls but she'll occasionally text me. She said
that she always appreciates my thoughts... but uhh... maybe she is
just being nice.

I have lots of questions and comments for her, but I think now she is
intentionally avoiding me, as she has decided to go ahead with her
early induction. :(

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Or I don't know, actually. I'm taking it too personally. She might
just have visitors galore and not a spare second to make a call. I am
now remembering what it's like to be the primary focus for the baby's
big BIRTHDAY!

[krysti abreu]

I am so sorry thinks are tight between you now. My oppinion is sometimes with new mommoms, they get led on by their Drs and than resolve to themselves to want the baby now. They also get worried that they will do the wrong thing and harm the baby. Probably she just wants to go with it and not have anyone tell he she is wrong, cause probably she isn't sure herelf if she is right. Self doubt is a hard thing to get over. Right now all you can do is support her. Don't act like you are sorry about her situation even if you are. Just be there for her. Support her happiness to have her baby in her arms. Sorry. It sucks when Drs get ideas in their heads and convince women to avoid their own feelings and make unnecessary decisions. ((Hugs)) let us know how things go and how mama and baby are

[Allison]

Yes! I had Kate there and I had her right away! Baby friendly and encourages skin to skin.

Allison Vaughn

"I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it."- Voltaire

[Allison Vaughn]

Any update?

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Allison

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Well, I called the hospital and she's in room 4--something and that
room can't get phone calls. :(

Last time I heard from her was a text at 3pm. She simply said, "on
pitocin---feelin okay--wish I could escape & go swimming in a pool or
biking :)

Of course, I am worrying about her obsessively. :)

[Erin Ludwig]

Any word from your friend? I hope she and her little one are doing
well.

On Feb 10, 1:18 pm, Heather Thalwitzer <heatherthalwit...@gmail.com>
wrote:

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Hey guys, sorry I forgot to update. I got a text with photos and she
was apparently born, 5 lbs 4 oz and healthy enough to hold. So not
sure on any details and not fully expecting to hear about them for a
little while.... she's got family swarming all around & you all know
how that can be. Unfortunately she's not a FB updater or even much of
an email user. She didn't even mention once online that she's
pregnant. Uhm... opposite of me! ;)

<3

[Heather Thalwitzer]

Glad I decided to call. Baby born on Thursday and they're on their way
home right now... with baby! So... guess all is well. Hopefully she'll
give me more 411 soon.

[Sarah Boye]

Yay!

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Sarah
=^..^=

[Sydney Lendian-MacDonald]

Very glad she and baby are ok! Thanks for the update. My friend gave birth this morning after being in and out of the hospital all the pregnancy, and stayed in for 3 weeks straight. Little Jonas was born about a month early, but at 5.9 pounds and healthy. Yay for healthy although small babies!

> Date: Sat, 12 Feb 2011 19:34:43 -0500
> Subject: Re: CRY FOR HELP- pregnant friend.
> From: heathert...@gmail.com
> To: thoughtful-moms-of-gr...@googlegroups.com

[Allison]

That's great news!!

Allison Vaughn

"I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it."- Voltaire