"Marriage need not be the end of an individual..." ...
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"Marriage need not be the end of an individual..." - T T RANGARAJAN on " WOMAN !!!
by Alma Mater an evolving consciousness on Tuesday, March 8, 2011 at 12:48pm
Question: A marriage proposal has come for me from a well educated and a well placed man from a highly reputed family. But they have one condition and that is I should not work after marriage. I have done my B.E. in Computer Science and I am doing very well in my career. I am confused.
T T RANGARAJAN(Voice of Love): Confusion comes when there is no clarity. Clarity cannot be where there is no conviction. Possibilities are that a boy or girl committed suicide a few years ago because they could get a seat in B.E. Computer Science. Possibilities are that you sat in that seat and did your engineering. Now, you are not only accountable to your own education but also to that kid who ended his or her life. Where is the conviction? Why did you do your engineering? Just to keep yourself pre-occupied for 4 years or was it to satisfy your parent’s ego or was it out of herd mentality or was it to just improve your horoscope value? Why B.E. to lock yourself within the four walls? No doubt, your education will certainly help you in the future in parenting your children with their academics and also make you socially more presentable in your husband’s world – but, what’s the point? Why come so far in life to start all over again?
Marriage, in its true sense, should magnify life of both involved. Unfortunately, more often than not, marriage becomes the end of many possibilities especially for woman and especially in our culture. It is like she has already climbed a few rungs in a ladder. And now after marriage, she has to completely shift to another ladder and start from the first rung all over again. Why?
Don’t you think you are betraying your potential? Don’t you think you are betraying your inner expressions? Don’t you think you are trading the possibilities of your life just for the sake of a well educated well placed man from a reputed family? Don’t you have even this belief that in this ocean of humanity that there should be a man for you who will not expect you to live a lesser life as an exchange to marriage? Why scream male exploitation if you don’t have the conviction to stand for a life worthy of your potential?
Wake up. Marriage need not be the end of an individual. Marriage can be and should be a continuity of life magnifying possibilities. If even you don’t stand for yourself, no one else will.
There is a wrong connotation that women need not earn and a man can take care of her. We don’t work to earn – earning is a by-product. We work to express our inner talents. We work to challenge our inner potential. We work to remain mentally and intellectually agile. We work to have exposure. We work because we too can. Most importantly, we work because running a family, in this new world, is no more a full time occupation. There is a lot of time a disposal and let them be invested in creative pursuits – work is an avenue for it. Money is just an incidental by-product.
Never resign to a life where you may feel you betrayed your own possibilities. Stand up for yourself. This is your fight.
: Taken from ‘Clarity is power’ column of FROZEN THOUGHTS.
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