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The Eldar wedded once only in life, and for love or at the least by free will upon either part. [...] Those who would afterwards become wedded might choose one another early in youth, even as children (and indeed this happened often in days of peace); but unless they desired soon to be married and were of fitting age, the betrothal awaited the judgement of the parents of either party. [...] The right of revoking [the betrothal] was seldom used, for the Eldar do not err lightly in such choice. They are not easily deceived by their own kind; and their spirits being masters of their bodies, they are seldom swayed by the desires of the body only, but are by nature continent and steadfast. [...] In happy days and times of peace it was held ungracious and contemptuous of kin to forgo the ceremonies, but it was at all times lawful for any of the Eldar, both being unwed, to marry thus of free consent one to another without ceremony or witness (save blessings exchanged and the naming of the Name); and the union so joined was alike indissoluble.
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Keeping all this in mind, it seems plain that Elven arranged marriages don't happen all that often - but at the same time, they're not unheard of: "The Eldar wedded [...] for love or at the least by free will upon either part." If not for love, then why? Maybe because your family - whose approval you hold very much in importance - is asking you to?
(If I'm allowed to hazard a guess, I'd say it's at least possible that the marriage between Finarfin and Eärwen was arranged; you know, him a prince of the Noldor, her a princess of the Teleri, they're both unengaged, let's strengthen our bonds, that kind of thing.)
Well, that's that, I guess. With so many Dwarves remaining unmarried, and with them being unwilling to marry someone they do not already desire, it doesn't seem like arranged marriages would be much in vogue; maybe once in a very long while, but it cannot possibly be a common occurrence.
Not much to say here: while we don't have many information on the matter, I simply don't think that Hobbits have arranged marriages. Sure, your family may gently try to persuade you to marry someone they like but that doesn't really tickle your fancy, they may resent you a bit if you decide to do otherwise, and people in general may look a bit askance at you if they find your particular choice of a spouse "queer"...
It's not spelled out, but it seems fairly clear that this was an arranged marriage with the purpose of strengthening the newly forged alliance between the Realms in Exile; then there's this, from Of the Ruin of Beleriand and the Fall of Fingolfin:
A son and a daughter of the leader of the Haladin both just so happen to fall in love with a son and a daughter of the founder of the House of Hador? A bit too convenient, if you ask me. Other marriages I tend to consider arranged are those of Húrin and Huor with Morwen and Rían (to strengthen the bond between the Houses of Hador and Bëor), the one of Éomer with Lothíriel, daughter of Imrahil (to further strengthen the alliance between Rohan and Gondor) and of course the loveless one between King Tarannon of Gondor and his Queen Berúthiel.
There's also the real world to consider: for most of history arranged marriages were a simple fact of life - still are in a lot of places - and it would be strange for them to be wholly absent from Middle-earth's human realms; nevertheless, it's hard to say how common they would have been, for example, in the Third Age compared to the First, or in Dale compared to Númenor. Still and all, I think the real world rule of "the higher you are in the social hierarchy, the more likely it is for your marriage to be arranged" probably applies.
So I'm looking for books which have a realistic depiction (well a little more interesting than just plain realistic for interest sake, but you get me "believable") of arranged marriages and some form of polygamy. And basically what I mean by that is I don't want an idealization (historically arranged marriages that ended up being more than just tolerable were rare enough, more than three people being thrust in a semiforced relationship ending up in love seems kinda hard to believe) but I also don't want an exercise in misery where everyone is constantly miserable and just wants to kill themselves or something like that. Also a plus if it doesn't have the trope of people being super dramatic about the arranged marriage (like if it's common enough that no one else seems to be remarking anything seems pretty ridiculous that every single protagonist throws a tantrum whenever the prospect appears on the horizon).
Data on the prevalence of polygamous households was part of a Pew Research Center report on household composition by religion around the world. Not all people who practice polygamy live in polygamous households. Sometimes two or more wives of the same man each have their own homes. See the methodology for details on household type categories. Details on polygamy laws around the world can be found through the OECD Development Centre and the United Nations Human Rights office.
On the other hand, traditionally a man experiences less social and family pressure to conform. In the case of marriage, he has more freedom in seeking and choosing a spouse. A man is compared to a diamond; any transgressions can be corrected. Premarital and extramarital sex is considered acceptable although the modern constitution forbids polygamy. The growth of the sex industry in Cambodia may have long term consequences because of the spread of AIDS throughout the country. Having partners and children outside of marriage may be causing social and economic disruption.
In times past, although Cambodian marriages were arranged, married life was good and love gradually grew between the couple after they married. Spousal loyalty was strong; it is a religious duty for husband and wife to be loyal to each other. Divorce was low. Domestic violence was rare; usually the couple lived with parents and a large extended family that provided strong family support. A couple could turn to family in case of any marriage problems, and family would often keep an eye on the couple.
The modern constitution forbids polygamy; some say it is commonly practiced more often when family economics permit. The effect of wars and the indiscriminate killing of men during the Khmer Rouge reign have created a population imbalance between men and women. Social, financial and emotional pressures force widows as well as single women and girls to accept partners, even married ones. Many children are born out of wedlock. Jealous rage and fighting among women for one man is frequent.
The existence of brideprice, brideservice, or both is the most likely ancestral state for humans according to all 3 reconstruction methodologies. Some type of exchange of goods or labor between the families of marital partners, not including token brideprice, is found in 80% of Apostolou's [11] full sample. Brideprice/service is recorded for most hunter-gatherers in the reduced sample with the exception of the Mikea (brideprice is token only), Batek, and Andaman Islanders (Table 2). Given that brideservice and brideprice are often crucial economic components of regulated mate exchange, a deep history of these practices may in and of itself indicate a deep history of regulated marriage.
The evolution of courtship versus arranged marriages in early humans is more difficult to reconstruct. Because 3 of 4 African hunter-gatherers in the phylogeny are coded as having courtship marriages, maximum parsimony reconstructs the ancestral proto-human root as having courtship and makes the maximum likelihood and Bayesian reconstructions equivocal (Figure 1). Put simply we do not yet know whether or not mitochondrial Eve's marriage was arranged. In Apostolou's [11] full sample, 3 of 8 African hunter-gatherers have courtship marriages (all 3 are included in the phylogenetic analysis). This may imply that African hunter-gatherers with courtship have switched from arranged to courtship marriages since the last common ancestor, perhaps under pressure from recent Bantu expansions. All 3 reconstruction methods support arranged marriages for proto-out-of-Africa (proto-non-African). Therefore, regardless of the ancestral state of early humans, arranged marriages probably have an evolutionary history going back at least 50,000 years.
Marriage practices may be expected to be labile traits changing rapidly with ecological conditions, but our reconstructions actually suggest that these traits may change slowly over time, at least for hunter-gatherers in the absence of pressure from neighboring agriculturalists. Case in point is Australia where Aborigines across the continent heavily regulated marriage probably over many millennia and had no traditional exposure to agriculture. Conservatism in marriage practices, which is the justification for using phylogenetic methods in the first place, is tentatively supported by the universality of marriage around the world, the 85% prevalence of arranged marriages across hunter-gatherer societies, and the lack of relationship between arrangement of marriage and environmental variables. Social exigencies driven by the importance of alliances/coalitions and norms of reciprocity are what have likely consistently favored the regulation of marriage and mate exchange networks in human societies over considerable time and space. The cultural phylogenies presented here are probably not driven simply by high-fidelity transmission of arbitrary marriage practices in some type of blind process of copying previous generations. Instead, common marriage practices are likely adaptations to common social circumstances of hunter-gatherers demonstrating deep evolutionary roots of core human cultural traits.
In contrast to polygamy, monogamy is marriage consisting of only two parties. Like "monogamy", the term "polygamy" is often used in a de facto sense, applied regardless of whether a state recognizes the relationship.[note 1] In many countries, the law only recognises monogamous marriages (a person can only have one spouse, and bigamy is illegal), but adultery is not illegal, leading to a situation of de facto polygamy being allowed without legal recognition for non-official "spouses".
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