Reduce Emotional Stress With Five Coping Strategies

[qropbh...@hotmail.com]

- You should have...- I didn't know...- You could have told me...- Why
didn't you...- They could have...
When things move along nicely, we rarely rush in and ask - "Who's
responsible for this?" Only when things are not quite right do we look
for someone to blame. Many people seem to think that an ok explanation
can excuse a poor result. Have you ever thought of how much time you
use on explanations and justifying bad, or poor results with "she
should..", "They did it..", They wouldn't listen to me anyway" etc.?
These kinds of answers put us immediately in a victim position;
something outside our control is causing pain and stress on us. We
feel powerless, and with time we lose the interest in what we're
doing. Adding to the accountability lapses is behaviour like the
passive, almost in-visible yes/no nodding during meetings, gossiping
at the coffee machine, venting with other colleagues behind closed
doors... Just fill in the list.
Whether you're a team leader, CEO, or a secretary, YOU have the
capacity to affect the culture for better and for worse, by YOUR
capacity for full and complete accountability. When you start to take
responsibility for the results in your life, you will be a full time
player in the middle of the champion league.
Following are 5 guaranteed shifts that immediately will move you into
a feeling of empowerment, and bring clear space into any kind of
struggle, conflict or dispute you may encounter:
1. FeelingsWhen you find yourself feeling angry, upset, sad,
fearful... Ask yourself; "How can I choose ease and confidence
instead?"
2. StressWhen you feel your buttons being pushed constantly... Ask
yourself; "How do I keep making choices that keep this pattern going?"
3. Lack of energyWhen you feel flat, no energy, no drive... Ask
yourself; "What feelings and emotions have I ignored and not let
myself feel?"
4. Having bad resultsWhen you experience a stream of bad luck, poor
and negative results... Ask yourself; "Do I have an unconscious
intention for things to turn out like this?
5. Seeking solitude because others irritate or upset youWhen you avoid
certain people, being distant, or aloof... Ask yourself; "What
agreements have I broken?" "What unspoken communications do I have?"
To communicate your lapses with your team, boss, spouse, kids, or
whoever it is you feel is the right person to address, simply describe
what you are feeling and what your perception was of the things you
did to add on to the situation. Then invite each person to ask the
question "What did I do to produce this result?"
It sounds so simple, but most people look for what the other person
did or did not do in the first place. Share, communicate and make new
agreements on how to handle this kind of situation in the future.
Keep track of yourself catching your accountability lapses, and
celebrate each time you've stepped up and acknowledged them. You're on
your way to becoming a Master!

This is an excerpt from the course program "Eliminate Burnout and
Ignite Your Career". If you are looking for more strategies and
techniques for stress management and career success, go to www.IgniteYourCareer.com
and join the Tele seminar series "Eliminate Burnout and Ignite Your
Career".