Hey,
json sent to callback looks like:
{"updates": {}, "owner_id": [owner_id], "object_id": [activity_jd], "event_time": 1619083593, "aspect_type": "create", "object_type": "activity", "subscription_id": [id]}
So you must connect in db owner_id with your user_id and save event for that user_id
for example:
user_id(from your app) = 1234
and if that json have field owner_id == 12345678 then you can save in column user_id value 1234 then you know that this event was for that user.
*Also when you receive callback set user_id to null then using cron/async event update user_id that receiving callback will be quicker