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Now, this might lead you to think that I have always been athletically inclined and been a sportsperson in my younger days and have continued pursuing my passion along with my career. Nothing could be further from truth. As a child, I was not particularly healthy and kept falling sick to various ailments. So much so, that my mother once gave me a nickname, which meant rotten in Bengali. We still laugh about that!
When I was 7, I started having epileptic attacks - I would feel sleepy and my body temperature would fall to 94 degrees. My parents took me to many doctors and finally to a renowned neurologist in Kolkata. He told me three things:
So, there went my chance of playing football, hockey, cricket or for that matter any outdoor games. Though I was cured by the time I was 14, but I was advised caution nevertheless. And so, I was forbidden from playing any kind of sports.
I grew up as an underweight and clumsy kid who would be the last to be picked for any team whether in school or in my neighborhood. However, growing up as a nerd was not quite as bad in Bengal, because an inordinately more emphasis is put on studies and intellectual prowess than - and often at the cost of - sports and physical prowess. There is an old wives' tale that too much exercise makes a person dumb as his brain gets stiff!
Life followed it's usual path and I went on to become an engineer in the new (in 1996) world of IT, with its promise of travel and social status. Now, life of an IT worker consisted predominantly of deadlines, night-outs, client conferences and long hours of sitting at a desk and typing on a computer. Surviving on fast food and non-stop TV over the weekends. It changed a bit after marriage and kids, with new chores like bottle-feeding, putting kids to sleep and helping them with their homework coming up to crowd out any personal time. And that is what we understand by work life balance.
Now, I have always been prone to thinking about the purpose of life in general. I spent hours debating the same with my friends in college, lamenting the lack of purpose in daily routine. I now started feeling that my life could be summed up in just that - eat, sleep, work and raise a kid.
On January 1, 2010 while contemplating what my new year resolution should be, it just hit me. I had always been fascinated by martial arts. As a kid, I practiced moves at home as these moves helped me defend myself against bigger, stronger and yes, more athletically inclined kids. I now decided to start training in martial arts.
I went up to my son's Karate coach and told him I wanted to join. The oldest of his students at that time was 10 years old! So he told me that I would have to come to a special class early in the morning. I would be taken up on a trial basis and if I could handle the regimen, he would train me.
At 6 A.M. the next morning - a typically cold and foggy January morning - I went to the community park to begin my training. By the time the initial warm-up exercises were over, my head was spinning and I felt like throwing up. But since I persisted, my coach said that I could be trained after all and I could start. Since then, three days a week I would drag myself from the bed while it was still dark and push my body to do things it had never done before. And then after two hours of torture, I would rush home, take a bath, grab a bite to eat and rush off to face the challenges of a consulting career with one of the biggest IT companies in the world.
As I moved up in the belt rankings, my teacher's confidence in me grew and I became the star student. I was again put in a special class but this time it was for the most promising students. The other students of course were close to a third of my age. My life changed completely. I was forced to eat healthier and stick to a healthy routine. Any deviation would have an immediate impact on my strength and stamina. Three agonizing and exhilarating years later, my coach told me that I was ready to put my practice to test, play in the championships. Did I say play? I meant fight. And since the senior-most age group in martial arts championships is 19 and above, I would be fighting with men half my age!
I started practicing harder, and longer. I would push myself to test my limits, break them and find new limits. The fights of course were a different story. The rush of adrenaline during a fight makes you oblivious to everything else. And the trick of the trade is to not be oblivious - control your feelings, analyze the situation and decide on the best move, offence or defense. In split seconds you will see a kick or a chop coming your way and you would not only have to decide how to block it but also how to counterattack. And this can be learnt only through practice.
I went on to win the district and state championships. At every stage, I would think this is as far as I could go but my coach kept on pushing me. Apart from the fear of losing, there was also the prospect of getting hurt. In fact, my supervisor refused to grant me leave to participate in the national championship. He told me "You can take a vacation, but I cannot encourage you to risk breaking bones".
Finally I traveled to Pune for the nationals. In fact, I was so convinced that I would lose, I forbade my family from accompanying me! 1300 kickboxers from 24 states and 2 army units (Assam Rifles and 512 Army) participated in the event. I lost at the semifinal stage of my event and won the bronze.
Today, as I look back, I can only wonder at how this experience has changed my life. It has given me a sense of accomplishment, a sense of pride. I have taken control of life - at least in this aspect - and not just dealt with whatever life has thrown at me.
Dennis Munson Jr., 24, died after an unregulated amateur bout at the Eagles Club on March 28, 2014. It was Munson's first fight. The event was promoted by Roufusport, the Milwaukee-area gym where Munson trained.
All the parties except Feliciano settled with the family for an undisclosed amount of money in August 2018. Last month, the family decided to drop the case against Feliciano, because of damage limits under Wisconsin's malpractice law.
A Milwaukee Journal Sentinel investigation uncovered a series of errors by the officials responsible for safety during the three-round bout. They failed to stop the fight despite what a dozen independent experts who reviewed a video of the bout said were obvious signs of distress in Munson.
"From A to Z, I can't tell you what was done right here," Michael Schwartz, a veteran ringside doctor from Connecticut, said in 2014. "People have to recognize you can't take shortcuts on this. People die."
The video showed the ringside doctor, Feliciano, looking at his cellphone during the fight; referee Wichgers failing to evaluate Munson as his condition deteriorated; and corner coach Cushman propping up Munson between rounds.
Munson crumpled to the mat after the final bell, but medical treatment was delayed amid questions over his care and hang-ups exiting the 1920s-era Eagles Club. Munson died at Aurora Sinai Medical Center hours later from what the medical examiner would rule were complications as a result of head trauma.
Munson's family sued in 2017 and a little more than a year later the promoter, referee, coach and other defendants settled their part of the lawsuit with Munson's family. Both sides agreed not to disclose how much money was paid as part of the August 2018 settlement. The defendants admitted no wrongdoing, standard in settlements.
Last month, Munson's parents decided to drop the case against Feliciano rather than continuing toward a possible trial. Munson was single without children, so only his parents could sue and there are sharp limits on damages under Wisconsin's medical malpractice law, the family's attorneys said.
"I was just tired of it and decided to put it behind me," Dennis Munson Sr. said. "They could have kept their money if it could have brought my son back. I just hope this helps some other kids who get in this sport."
Gee was even approached by an older woman at a grocery store who thanked her, saying "you saved my grandson." The woman was referring to the new law that Gee and others successfully pushed for after the Journal Sentinel investigation, through which Wisconsin now regulates kickboxing. Gov. Scott Walker signed the bipartisan bill in March 2016, two years after Munson's death.
The lawsuit alleged those responsible for Munson's safety failed to protect him by not requiring fighters to wear protective headgear and failing to stop the fight as Munson staggered around the ring.
During the third round, Munson staggers about the ring, having trouble keeping his hands up. The experts who reviewed the video for the Journal Sentinel all said the fight should have been stopped in the third round if not before. Munson's opponent also thought the fight should have been stopped.
The defendants said the ringside doctor could not stop the fight, only the referee, corner coach and fighter could do that. The doctor, however, could be asked to evaluate a fighter. Feliciano was not asked to evaluate Munson during the fight.
Shortly after the fight, Wichgers told police the three most important things for him as the referee were fighter safety, fairness and entertainment of the audience, according to a police report. In his deposition, Wichgers revised his views saying audience entertainment was not important to him as a referee.
In his deposition, Feliciano said he was not required to watch the entire fight and could look at his phone. He said he was on his phone for "a matter of seconds" and that the Journal Sentinel had "doctored" the video to make it look longer.
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