Inpopular culture, the friend zone (or friendzone) is a relational concept, describing a situation in which one person in a mutual friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship with the other person, while the other does not.[1] The person whose romantic advances were rejected is then said to have "entered" (or to have been "put in") the friend zone, with the sense that they are stuck there. The friendzone has a strong presence on the Internet; for example, on Facebook, dating sites, and other social media platforms. However, over time the term has expanded into middle schools, high schools, and colleges where young people are discovering their identities when it comes to dating and romance.[2]
The concept of the friend zone has been criticized by some as misogynistic, because of a belief that the concept implies an expectation that women should be romantically involved with men in whom they have no interest, simply because the men were nice to them,[3][4] though the term refers to all forms of unrequited affection, not necessarily a man liking a woman. It is also closely associated with so-called "nice guy syndrome".[5]
The term was originally popularized in the American sitcom television series Friends (1994). In the seventh episode of the first season, "The One with the Blackout", Ross Geller is lovesick for Rachel Green, but Joey Tribbiani informs him that, when two people meet, there is a short period in which there is potential for a romantic relationship that Ross has gone beyond. After this time, if they continue to see each other, they are in the "friend zone" and so a romantic relationship is effectively impossible, even if one of the parties wants to be the other's lover.[6]
The term friendzone can be verbified, as in the sentence "So, she's friend-zoned you."[7] It is described as "[a] situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom has an unreciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other."[8] Although the term is apparently gender-neutral, the friend zone is often used to describe a situation in a male-female relationship in which the male is in the friend zone and the female is the object of his unrequited desire, or vice versa, where the female is being friend-zoned by the male, although less common.[9][10] The person who does the friend-zoning is referred to as the friend-zoner, whereas the person who gets friend-zoned is called the friend-zonee.
Binghamton University did a study on undergraduates from a midsize university in the northeastern United States. There were 562 participants with 305 identified as female and 257 as male. Of the 562 participants, 427 were exclusively heterosexual while 113 were not exclusively heterosexual. The participants were asked "Have you ever friend-zoned someone else?" and "Have you ever been friend-zoned?" The study found that 65.7% of exclusively heterosexual males have friend-zoned someone while 92.6% of exclusively heterosexual females have friend-zoned someone. The study also found that 75.2% of exclusively heterosexual males have been friend-zoned before while only 41.2% of exclusively heterosexual females have been friend-zoned before.[11]
Writer Jeremy Nicholson in Psychology Today suggested that a romantic pursuer, in order to avoid being rejected upfront, uses a ploy of acting friendly as a "back door" way into a hoped-for relationship. When this method does not work, the pursuer consequently is placed in the friend zone.[12]
According to some psychologists, the man in a cross-gender friendship is more likely to be attracted to his woman friend than she is to him, and he is more likely to overestimate her interest in a romantic or sexual relationship.[13][14]
Feminist writers such as Rivu Dasgupta and Amanda Marcotte have argued that the friend zone concept is misogynistic.[15][4][16][3] Dasgupta sees the friend zone as being rooted in male narcissism.[15] The nice guy concept has been criticized as a gender trope with an underlying message that kind acts demand a sexual or romantic reward.[15] Dasgupta and Marcotte say that the concept implies that if a woman and a man have a platonic friendship and the man becomes romantically attracted to the woman, then the woman has an obligation to return his affection.[15] A woman who does not return her "nice guy" male friend's affection is viewed negatively or seen to be at fault.[15] Ryan Milner of the College of Charleston argued that the friend zone concept is a nuanced and harmful aspect of patriarchal authority and male domination.[17]
TheGuardian.com contributor Ally Fogg argues that while the friend zone does not exist in a literal sense, men who use the term "friend zone" are not necessarily misogynists who feel entitled to sex. He states the term's usage reflects a genuine emotional experience for straight men with low self-esteem and self-confidence. He places blame on ingrained gender roles.[13] Being rejected by a potential partner does not mean a person has been friend-zoned; it means that potential partner does not want to pursue a romantic relationship.[18]
The term was popularized by a 1994 episode of the American sitcom Friends entitled "The One with the Blackout", where the character Ross Geller, who was lovesick for Rachel Green, was described by character Joey Tribbiani as being the "mayor of the friend zone".[19]
The 2005 romantic comedy film Just Friends main plot device is that the protagonist Chris Brander (played by Ryan Reynolds) is "friend-zoned" by his best friend (and secret love interest since school) Jamie Palamino (played by Amy Smart).
Chris Rock mentions the term in his 1996 "Bring the Pain" skit. He says that women have male friends but these men are friends with women they "haven't fucked yet". Then claims that men who have platonic friends is because of an accident and ending up in the friend zone is because of a "wrong turn somewhere".[20]
The Cartoon Network series Regular Show brings up and shows the friend zone on a regular basis, as one of the show's main characters, Mordecai, and his friend Margaret experience shifts in their relationship.
Kamu penggemar film Thailand? Ada kabar gembira, film romantis komedi Friend Zone tayang di bioskop Indonesia. Film yang menjadi box office di negara asalnya ini dibintangi oleh Naphat Siangsomboon (A Gift), Pimchanok Luevisadpaibul (A Crazy Little Thing Called Love) dan Jason Young.
10 tahun sudah mereka bersahabat, Palm dengan setia mendengar keluh kesan Gink dengan pacaranya, Ted. Ted merupakan seorang produser musik yang sedang menggarap lagu dengan beragam bahasa. Gink mencurigai Ted berselingkuh dengan salah satu penyanyi-penyanyi yang bekerja sama dengannya.
Suatu hari Gink membututi Ted hingga ke Myanmar, Malaysia, dan Hongkong. Tentunya meminta bantuan Palm, tanpa ragu ia selalu menuruti semua permintaan Gink. Apakah Palm akan jujur kepada Gink? Siapa kah yang akan Gink pilih, Ted atau Palm?
Kamu akan dibuat tertawa oleh komedi khas Thailand, tingkah konyol dan diikuti dengan efek suara jenaka. Beragam adegan akan membuat terpingkal-pingkal, seperti Palm dan Gink yang dikejar-kejar monyet hingga Gink yang meloncat dari bus tingkat ke papan iklan.
Tak melulu tertawa kita dibuat hanyut dengan kesetiaan Palm kepada Gink. Di saat Gink benar-benar terluka, Palm selalu ada untuk Gink. Belum lagi kita akan geregetan dengan Palm kenapa tidak segera menyatakan perasaan selagi ada kesempatan. Nah di situ lah perasaan kita akan teraduk-aduk saat menonton mereka.
Penampilan Naphat Siangsomboon sebagai Palm dan Pimchanok Luevisadpaibul sebagai Gink pun cukup mencuri perhatian. Chemistry mereka sangat klop dan berhasil tampil emosional. Penonton pria dan wanita pun masing-masing dimanjakan dengan paras tampan Naphat dan cantik Pimchanok.
Sang sutradara tak membiarkan Palm menderita sendirian. Dalam film ada geng friend zone, alias ada 3 orang yang bernasib sama seperti dia. Di sana mereka saling mencurahkan perhatian dan tentunya mengundang tawa bagi penonton.
Film Friend Zone pun bekerja sama dengan beberapa negara, selain menampilkan kota Bangkok, Chiang Mai dan Pulai Krabi yang indah. Kita diajak berkeliling negara tetangga seperti Hong Kong, Malaysia dan Myanmar.
Di awal film kamu akan menyaksikan video musik Kid Mak yang menjadi lagu soundtrack film Friend Zone. Ada yang berbeda dari lagu ini, penyanyinya ada 10 orang yang berasal dari beragam negara. Liriknya pun disesuaikan dari negara masing-masing.
Penyanyi dari Laos ada Namfon Indee, dari Filipina ada Claudia Barretto, dari Vietnam ada Chi Pu, dari Cina ada Meng Jia, dari Malaysia ada Joyce Chu , dari Kamboja ada Laura Mam, dari Myanmar ada Phyu Phyu Kyaw Thein , dari Thailand ada Palmy, dan perwakilan dari Indonesia ada Audrey Tapiheru and Cantika Abigail.
Friend Zone berhasil mengaduk-aduk perasaan lewat kisah cinta yang relate bagi beberapa orang. Canda dan komedi khas Thailand tidak pernah gagal membuat kita tertawa. Friend Zone menjadi salah satu film rom-com Thailand wajib tonton di tahun ini.
Eits, jangan dulu berekspektasi tinggi meski selama ini berhasil pedekate sama gebetan! Selama kalian belum lanjut ke tahap hubungan yang serius, kemungkinan terjebak friend zone akan selalu ada, lho! Well, friend zone adalah situasi ketika salah satu pihak hanya ingin berteman, sedangkan pihak lain mengharapkan lebih. Duh, sedih banget ya? Jangan sampai, kesedihanmu makin bertambah karena sakit gigi! Karena itu, kamu harus tahu cara menjaga kesehatan gigi yang benar.
Mungkin, chat zone nggak terlalu menyedihkan dibanding jenis friend zone lain. Di zona ini, kamu dan gebetan intens banget ngobrol lewat chat atau media sosial. Mulai dari obrolan kegiatan kampus, aktivitas di kantor, film yang lagi hits, hobi, sampai gosip selebriti di Instagram. Pokoknya, super seru deh, kalau ngobrol dengan gebetan via chat!
Nah, ini mungkin jenis friend zone yang paling sering dialami! Secara nggak sadar, kamu terjebak jadi supir pribadinya gebetan, dan nggak berhasil jadian. Well, you better think twice. Kamu rela bensin terus menipis tanpa hasil? Daripada terus berlanjut di-PHP-in, next time saat dia minta antar-jemput, tolak aja dengan senyum manismu! Supaya makin pede senyum lebar dengan gigi yang putih, kamu mesti lebih rajin menyikat gigi dua kali sehari sebagai cara menjaga kesehatan gigi.
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