Christmas Party Kiss
Mireille Duhon
Have worked with the company for a long time and have always gotten on well with him but recently attended the office christmas party where we both got drunk (not so drunk that we didnt know what was happening) and flirted with each other. He kept touching me, then we kissed -not sure if my colleagues saw or not.
I've always sensed that he likes me by the way he watches me in the office and always keeps eye contact and talks to me differently. We
He is much older than me and is a ltr. I am married with kids.
I dont know whether to msg him before i go back to work and apologise or just to go in to work and pretend nothing happened.
Should i hand my notice -although don't really want to do this as its a great place to work.
What would you do??
Thanks in advance xx
Eeeek! This is a sticky situation as you said he is your boss and you're married.
In terms of kissing him I would pretend it never happened and if it is mentioned brush it off as a silly drunken moment of madness. Do you think he is interested in more? Or was it just a silly drunken flirtation that went too far?
Can I ask about whether you'd want to take it further? You don't seem to have mentioned the effect on your husband (as in that you kissed another man) is that okay for you two? Or would he see that as cheating? Are you thinking as much about your husband as you are about your boss's reaction?
Xx
Not ideal but brush it off as a silly drunken decision.
Carry on as normal and ig he says anything just be calm and friendly. Sort of 'oh yeah. Talk about a silly thing to do when drunk. Anyway i'd rather not talk about it if you don't mind'
He as the manager has abused his position and compromised your working situation by kissing you, his subordinate. He ought to be worried right about now.
Your apology should be towards your partner rather than him.
Thanks for your replies... I am worried about my husband reaction as he would most def see it as cheating. I have never done this before. I think i will keep quiet from my husband.. am so worried about him finding out.
I did stop the kiss as was worried about my husband and his partner. I would def have gone further if I was single as he makes me laugh and smile... he's a gorgeous guy.
Some of the things we spoke about last night (prior to the kiss)- he told me he wanted more so think he would have gone further if i didnt stop the kiss.
The reason your husband would see it as cheating, is because it is cheating.
Yep.
You have two separate problems to tackle here
1 - how do you deal with this at work?
2 - how do you feel about your marriage?
I think uou need to think about if your collegues saw or not. This is going to make a big difference potentially. You could be the subject of gossip and people might be watching for any preferential treatment if they know. Do your colleagues know your husband?
I do think you need to speak to your boss privately . Just say you were pissed. Ask if you have to if he knows if others saw because it needs to be handled.
I wouldn't tell my husband either, it was a drunken mistake and would serve no purpose. But if there is a risk he will find out anyway you need to know.
My marriage is in a really good place at the moment so really dont want to spoil that. I have never cheated before and think this is why i stopped kissing him.
Work - i'm so worried that things are going to be awkward.. we're a small office and he is the owner of the company. I really hope my colleagues didnt see... although he was very touchy at the dinner table, so they may have seen something ?
I feel dreadful as i do like him but not enough that i would leave my husband if you know what i mean
I think my main worry is that i might have to leave... i get on with everyone so well and there is always such a great vibe at work.. not like some offices i have worked in previously.
Dont get me wrong.. i am still worried about husband etc
Do you seriously think you're the first young female staff member that he's done this with, OP? He sounds like a creepy fucker that has taken advantage of your stupid crush. Have some self respect and concentrate on your own marriage.
I think as first line I would go in and act like nothing happened. If anyonesays anything brush it off as a drunken mishap. If HE hints at a repeat performance be very very clear it was a drunken mistake. I wouldn't leave unless it is obviously an issue or he's pressuring you for more etc. You are not the first or the last to do it
I did this (about15 years ago) and carried on normally, it blew over
That's the long and short of it. Carry on as normal. Don't tell your husband, don't behave awkwardly at work. Just get on with things and put it behind you.
Whattodonow "My marriage is in a really good place at the moment" what would you be doing if your marriage was not in a good place?
Your main concern seems to be you will need to leave your job or that your work will be awkward. Is that right?
If that is the case I would go in bright and breezy, pretend nothing happened. If anyone mentioned it, I'd pretend not to remember.
But whatever you do I'd be processional with my boss and not be alone with him unless necessary.
I do think you need to think about how little your dh factors in your thinking here. It may be that for the long term benefit of your marriage you do need to find a new job. but that's your call.
I totally understand how this kind of thing can happen. But I do feel sorry for your husband, he seems to be the last concern on your list of concerns.
You can certainly prepare the this fun cocktails in the pitcher a few hours in advance of your party and keep it in the fridge until your guests arrive. Just be sure to add the club soda to the glasses as you serve these drinks!
This will ensure the Mistletoe Kisses are super cold and it will majorly simplify your life during the holiday party when you would prefer to be mingling and eating rather than pouring individual drinks.
Another easy cocktail that works just as well for decorating the tree as it does on Christmas morning (either before or after your morning coffee) is a simple glass of eggnog with a little pour of Baileys Irish cream and sprinkle of cinnamon on top.
This is a holiday drink for the ages with vodka, lemon juice, and a special and insanely easy simple syrup that ties the whole drink together. Large batch recipe is included below for your holiday parties!
To make the rosemary simple syrup: Combine the water and sugar in a small saucepan set over medium-high heat. Bring to a boil while stirring occasionally to dissolve the sugar. Allow the mixture to boil for 5 minutes then remove from the heat and drop in the sprig of rosemary. Allow the rosemary to steep for about 15 minutes and then discard the rosemary. Pour the simple syrup into a glass jar or bottle, cool to room temperature, cover, and refrigerate.
To make a small batch: Pour vodka, lemon juice, and simple syrup into a drink shaker filled with ice. Cover and shake well to blend. Divide drink mix between 2 rocks glasses filled with ice, straining the ice from the shaker as you pour. You'll only want to fill the glasses -full. Top with club soda and a few cranberries for garnish. Add a sprig of rosemary to use as a stirrer.
When ready to serve, pour the drink mix into an ice-filled rocks glass to -full. Top each drink with club soda and a few cranberries for garnish. Add a sprig of rosemary to each drink as they are served to use as a stirrer.
I have a party this evening. I have assembled the mistletoe kiss and was wondering for ease of assembling at the time of the party, can the club soda can just be added to the other ingredients in the pitcher? Sometimes people are mingling and not reading directions :).
This was so great! We enjoyed them as mocktails over the weekend, leaving out the vodka and adding more sparkling water to compensate. Making them again tonight with your original recipe. I never knew rosemary infused simple syrup was missing in my life, until now!
I chose this cocktail to serve for the Christmas Eve family get-together. What a total hit! Everyone loved it, from its holiday looking presentation to its delightfully fresh taste. The recipe was asked for by several family members. I myself saved it to my personal favorites, and will be serving this enjoyable and festive drink again next Christmas. Thank you for such a wonderful recipe!
Hello! Planning to make this for Christmas Eve tomorrow. If you make a large batch ahead of time, can you just chill the whole pitcher of vodka/lemon juice/simple syrup in the refrigerator or do you need to add ice for dilution? I plan to top each individual drink with club soda at the time of serving. Thank you.
We made the small batch mistletoe kiss cocktail and love it but the pictures of your cocktail look to beautifully white in color while ours was yellowish. I use a natural sugar, which is a tanish shade. Could this be the difference?
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