Oneterm in the next 2 years I'll be doing a directed study of genocide - Holocaust, Cambodia, Rwanda .... it is important but I think you need to tread so carefully because I want my kids to come out of it with hope and determination to make things better, not stuck in a pit of despair. My grandfather died in a concentration camp in Poland so this is personal for our family too....
I would pick The Hiding Place, Anne Frank, or The Boy in the Striped Pajamas instead. All of them are disturbing, but Schindler's list does have some very sexually oriented scenes that I don't want my 14yo to see yet.
If my child was especially sensitive, I don't think I would encourage it, but I would be unlikely to refuse if it was THEIR request. I would certainly watch with them and help them process it. For other 14 year olds it would be very appropriate and a meaningful experience.
I let my 11 and 12 year old daughters see it. I told them in advance it would be a harsh film, but they have to know these things. We've been talking about the holocaust, reading books about it, and watching some documentaries/films. That's a part of their heritage I can't and won't hide from them, and the younger they learn to live with it (and with antisemitism in general), the better, in my opinion.
I think they're too young to fully understand a lot of these things, but I don't think the early exposure is bad. They'll go back to that and understand it better later, but I'm not delaying giving them the first encounters with it. Of course, we talk it through later and they can ask questions and talk about what disturbed them.
I remember sitting in a theater by myself watching it. It was me and a group of older women. I was undergoing cancer treatment at the time. There was something about having an illness that could have killed me which made the movie more real to me. We all walked out of the theater in tears and I wanted to hug these women I didn't know. So yes, will we watch it for school.
I don't think that having your child wait to see it is "sheltering" him in the negative sense. There is a lot of material that we as parents wait to show a child until they are old enough to deal with it.
Given how much people went on about the movie, I think it must be a Hollywood "emotional manipulation" movie, and unless kiddo is doing it on his own time and own money, I would not show it to him. I don't watch such stuff, why would I want him to? There is plenty of documentary stuff like
Dh & I were travelling in Poland at the time it was being filmed there & it was being discussed widely. There was a huge effort to make sure there was accuracy and that things were portrayed right. The finished product was very well received as well.
That's the first holocaust-themed film we showed to our daughters (also because it's Italian and they can relate to it more personally), though when they were young (8-9 I think). I think it's a good one to start with.
It's rated R which means no one under 16 can watch w/o parental permission. I would probably trust the people in Hollywood about that. I feel that Hollywood is pretty liberal, so if THEY even agree it's too much for someone under 16, then...it's too much.
The red coat alone put it on the barf list for me. But there is no accounting for tastes, yours or mine. Since I tend to really dislike (or fall asleep in) the movies that are box office hits, I really don't have time to watch every one and then "decide". One has to divvy up ones time. I remember being dragged to....oh that film that was Travolta's comeback film with Uma someone. Pulp Fiction. I stretched out over hubby's and friend's lap and slept. Other people saw it multiple times and were ready to open a vein over it. People still break into discussions on how the French discuss Big Macs. Sigh.
I recall being the stimulus for a "break up fight". I declined to go see Forrest Gump. I had the feeling I was going to be unhappy with the significant political events of my youth made so dross-like. An aquiantance called me a "pre-judger" and some other harsh words. I interrupted by asking if she'd ever been to a male prostitute. She stood up straighter and said NO! I told her if she'd never done that, she must be pre-judging the experience, and don't we all do that? About nearly everything? We go to a chain restaurant because we pre-judge we will get a meal acceptable to us, but if we went to the local joint, we may not get what we want, having never been there. I asked if she saw every single movie that came out? How did she pick which to see? Pre-judgement. Etc. I was calm, but I admit a bit ruthless, for I felt she'd been rude. After we parted ways, her BF, who knew me better, declined to side with her, and said I had a point. Knock down drag out ensued and they broke up.
I do know to generally not discuss film. People get overly emotional about them and feel hurt and unhappy if you really don't like their fav film. Just yesterday someone asked me if I'd seen Fried Green Tomatoes. I said no, that I don't really like movies (more tactful than saying I don't like THOSE kind of movies). She proceeded to tell me, in lengthy detail, all the clips that were in the trailer (the "best parts"). Uh, pass the bean dip.
A realted FG funny: my husband had a young boy named Forrest on his baseball team last year. The boy was new to the sport and required a lot of extra instruction. The best part? My husband often got to yell out, "Run, Forrest, run!"
No, I was in a video store about a year later, looking for something when I kept becoming slightly aware that there was really obnoxious dialogue in the background (they had movie on). Finally the "sound" of the movie was so irritating, I looked up. There was Tom whoever running right across a field into the camera howling. I was reflexively out the door. I literally turned and ran away.
Does he want to see it? We recently watched Defiance. I thought dd 14 might like to watch it. I told her about some of the more graphic parts so that she could consider what her comfort level might be with the movie. After discussing it a bit though, she decided that she's not ready for it. She said she has a list of movies that she's saving to watch when she's a little older and this would be one of them. Since you're considering it, I would ask him and let him decide.
No. I am sensitive and it really, really bothered me when I saw it in my 20s. My 13 y/o daughter is EXTREMELY sensitive, so there's no way I'd let her near that. She would take it seriously enough by reading about it, no need to give her images of the horrors. I don't remember "Life is Beautiful" being so graphic and I may be more likely to agree to that.
The film told the story of Oskar Schindler, a Czech-born German industrialist and member of the Nazi party who came to Poland to make his fortune during the war. A man with no initial interest in anything but profit, who socialized and did business with leading Nazis, Schindler eventually had a change of heart.
On Saturday, thanks to a showing at the Weitzman National Museum of American Jewish History to mark its 30th anniversary, I had a chance to see Steven Spielberg\u2019s Schindler\u2019s List on the big screen, for I believe the first time since its initial theatrical run. I have seen the film on television and otherwise in the years since, but never in a theater since 1993.
When Schindler\u2019s List first came out, I was 15 years old. I don\u2019t think I was too young to see it, but I do think I was certainly too young to fully understand it, especially the human complexities. I should also note that the very first thing I ever had published in newsprint, as a high school sophomore in 1994, was a brief article in my school newspaper\u2019s cub issue, in which I invoked Schindler\u2019s List to argue against Holocaust denial.
Upon this new viewing of the film, though, I have no reason to question my initial assessment: Schindler\u2019s List is a great film, a powerful film, and even if it\u2019s not the definitive American Holocaust film, it remains on the very short list of the most important ones.
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