Re: Golf Over It
Rapheal Charlton
Are there any ladies out there that are going through something similar? I could really use some advice on how to save my marriage. I love that my husband has his hobbies but it's gotten to a point where I totally feel left out, he golfs at 3-4 times weekly, including every Saturday, not to mention he works nights but still has the energy to go play golf. I feel like we live separate lives. We went to dinner for the first time in months and it did not go very well, as there was such a disconnect between us.. I'm not trying to stop him from playing, I just, idk. He plays with his employees or his boss a lot of times. And other friends of his, they all see my husband more than I do. No told him I would like to learn to play but that didn't go over very well. I just want time for US too. Help!
Are there any ladies out there that are going through something similar? I could really use some advice on how to save my marriage. I love that my husband has his hobbies but it's gotten to a point where I totally feel left out, he golfs at 3-4 times weekly, including every Saturday, not to mention he works nights but still has the energy to go play golf. I feel like we live separate lives. We went to dinner for the first time in months and it did not go very well, as there was such a disconnect between us.. I'm not trying to stop him from playing, I just, idk. Help!
Yes, I discussed it several times, including at dinner last night but he took it the wrong way or something to where we argued. I feel if he was to put as much time in our marriage like he does golf then we would be in a better place, I just want my husband back. I mean as much money he spends to play golf that much to where I have to initiate communications, etc is out of control. I took my wedding rings off, I no longer feel like we are married, just strangers in passing
I went through something similar recently. I hope it's not too forward of me to suggest, but I think the best course of action here is to seek out a marriage counselor. These situations are delicate and it's probably not something that's fixable by strangers on the internet.
One, serve the guy with divorce papers. Wedding ring have been removed, right? Best case scenario is, once served, the husband will see the error of being too preoccupied with his golf game, and will seek forgiveness. If not, then divorce him. Take the guy for all he is worth...monetarily speaking. Get the car, his golf clubs, and the home.
Two, would be for the OP to find her own hobby, and wait for the husband to come around, and remember why he got married in the first place. Maybe take up her own golf game, and get involved with a local ladies golf league. If not golf, start taking trips, go sight seeing. Take a cruise. Take up camping, and hiking. Basically the OP should start doing her own thing(s) and get on with her own life.
It's not an "either/or" situation. He can play golf (which doesn't mean he's not thinking of you) and you can learn a bit about the game and engage him in discussions when you have dinner together or at other times. He will love you (more) for it. But to be fair, he needs to react the same for any hobbies you take up... allowing you to fulfill yourself. He needs to gain an appreciation for any endeavors you chose to follow. Things evolve through life. If everything stayed the same it would be boring.
On a serious note, look back to your dating/early marriage days. Try to re-create some of those situations. We gravitate towards the things that give us the most enjoyment. And if he's serious about saving his marriage he needs to do the same. And put the rings back on to show him you are trying.
I just want say Thank you all very much for your advice, I greatly appreciate it. He's at golf as we speak, I had tears in my eyes when I expressed my feelings to him at dinner but I just don't think he gets it, he straight up told me that he's not going to stop playing- nor do I want him to, I know golf is a relaxing sport for men, I get it. However my husband plays so much, that I was desperate enough to create an account on this website to try and get advice. I guess I could try and see if there is a local women's league or something to try and learn more. I watch golf with him on tv, etc.. Marriage counseling is also a great idea, thank you all again very much!!
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is squaring the club face. I like to call it swinging over the top from the inside. There is no conscious twisting or chain pulling or side arm throwing. Its simply getting to a backswing position where the club is in sync with the body and on a neutral plane to slightly underneath . From there its simply rotating what feels like over the top. The pieces of the puzzle fall in place the club drops behind the player slighty which shallows out the swing path and the shoulders have more then enough room to rotate freely .
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Typically a really good fade pattern.
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I was hitting some pretty powerful push draws with ease, almost automatic . I think it all stems from your original tip to me of the karate chop move.
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Awesome mate. The karate chop move (iteach taught it to me) is great for people who are overly connected. Helps get lead arm off the chest coming down. For you, your backswing might have gotten a bit too deep, so the shift out helped get you back on plane.
Overall you are right, most of the WRX crowd hates seeing any downswing that's steeper than the backswing.
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2 more great examples
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Manassero is a good example of what I'm talking about. He gets his arms a bit deep in the backswing (pause when left arm is parallel to ground and then again at same spot in downswing) and thus has to kick out on the downswing.
With Lee, I'd argue that was pretty much inline. Hands maybe kicked out an inch at most. Camera angle wasn't the best.
So, if I am following correctly, you are defining "over the top" as simply coming in steeper than where you started, correct? So would Kuchar be another example of this, or is he simply going underplane in the backswing then back on plane at impact?
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So, if I am following correctly, you are defining "over the top" as simply coming in steeper than where you started, correct? So would Kuchar be another example of this, or is he simply going underplane in the backswing then back on plane at impact?
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Kuchar is more "standard" over the top, IMO.
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How are you hitting push draws with a leftward path
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How do you know his path was leftward? You can still come over the top of your BS plane and hit it from the inside, which is what I think he's advocating