Etiquette of social media
Surendra Varma
I am taking the liberty to name just a few distilled from my own
experience:
--Do not comment on each and every post unless your comment adds value
to the post. You are not a human version of Encyclopedia Britannica,
or an extraterritorial genius. The more you do this, the more you tell
others who you really are.
--If you are new to a group, wait, watch and understand the group
composition and culture before commenting on the posts of other
members and pulling them down or placing your own posts, to gain
visibility quickly (fatafat!).
--Do not slap each and every member with an essay created by Chat GPT
on their posts. Feeding excessive information can cause nausea and
indigestion, let alone ridicule.
--If you disagree with a member, there are two ways to express this.
One, “no, no, no, you are wrong”. Two, “I beg to disagree with you”,
and present your information with the source. The impact of a message
depends on how it is said.
Suren
Rajaram Krishnamurthy
Social media etiquette not by law but as self -proclamations
Within groups, members are often reluctant to write in addition to or against the group's established text due to several social and psychological factors. These dynamics prioritize group harmony and identity over individual expression and can suppress dissent or extra effort.
Psychological and social reasons
Groupthink: Highly cohesive groups can develop a tendency to conform and arrive at a consensus without critical evaluation of alternative viewpoints. Members suppress their own doubts and refrain from challenging the group's position to avoid creating disharmony.
Fear of criticism or rejection: The anxiety of having one's ideas judged or rejected by peers is a powerful inhibitor. In a group setting, this fear is compounded by the risk of being ostracized for disagreeing with or outperforming others.
Desire for acceptance: Individuals have a fundamental need to belong and be accepted by their group. Introducing a different or supplementary viewpoint can threaten that social standing.
Social loafing: When working in a group, individuals may exert less effort because they feel their contribution is not as essential to the outcome. In the context of writing, this can manifest as a reluctance to do extra work, such as adding more to the text than is expected.
Dominant member influence: If a group has a particularly assertive or respected member, their ideas may sway the rest of the group, a phenomenon known as "groupthink". Other members may fear contradicting this individual and simply conform.
Lack of confidence: A member may lack confidence in their own writing ability or feel their ideas are not as good as those already put forward by the group. This can cause anxiety and lead them to avoid contributing new text.
Attachment to existing work: When a group has already invested time and energy into a particular text or viewpoint, its members can become attached to it. Challenging or changing the existing work can be perceived as an attack on the group's effort and progress.
Practical and organizational reasons
Unclear goals: A lack of clear, specific, and measurable goals for the writing can make it difficult for members to determine what, if anything, needs to be added or changed. Ambiguity fosters stagnation.
Undefined roles: If the roles and responsibilities within a group are not clearly assigned, members may hesitate to write or edit new text for fear of overstepping their bounds or duplicating work.
Time constraints: In groups with tight deadlines, members may feel there is not enough time to explore additional or alternative ideas. The priority becomes completing the task, not improving it.
Bad feedback culture: If previous attempts to offer constructive criticism or new ideas were met with a negative or defensive response, members will learn to avoid providing further input.
Insufficient expertise: In some cases, a group is composed of individuals with varying levels of knowledge on a topic. A less-experienced member may not feel qualified to write in addition to or against the work of more knowledgeable members.
The above is a psychological note derived in Psychology today which Chat GPT might adopt; and one without believing whether the other man could write ably, out of depressions, remark as ChatGPT etc behooves one’s confidence and levels of thinking.
Of course, I do not have freedom to peep into another home and see what is happening. However, once, the product is marketed, casting the opinion about the product shall not be denied since, the competitive nature is being blocked, in order to attribute the failure to sell is only on account the etiquette.
AS LONG AS IN PUBLIC FORUM A JOKE OR TRUE INCIDENT ARE RELATED EVEN THERE, MORE INFORMATIONS OF OTHERS MIGHT BE ADDED. However, where the opinions are concluded as the right thinking, the other roads of approaches, shall be opened as a getaway, as views could differ. Also it shall be not only the criticism or complaint against but shall render the solutions to remedy all of them or else it becomes a hoarse cry only and napkins are needed to wipe out the tears. So such napkins are need of the hour.
Apart from these factors, when someone outpours the thoughts and avenues are opened up, from other directions, had the thoughts were based rightfully, continuation and in defense of thoughts can flow back; on the contrary, criticism of thoughts from the other roads, would tantamount to , end of the road only and thus does not evolve a right etiquette as calling shut up is never an etiquette sir.
As one outpours others to read, so too others do write for you to read and express the pros and cons relevant. Absence of materials may not be end of the road but end of the dried pond. Nothing wrong about the ponds being dries as next rain may fill it up too.
Different writing groups operate in different ways. Different people want different things out of them. It’s unfair to dismiss them all based on one or two that you’ve been a part of (or worse, that someone you know has been a part of). If you want to be a part of a writing group—or start one up—here’s some things to consider:
What do you want to get out of it?
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Some writing groups are purely there to go ‘Yep, that’s great’ and stroke your ego.AVOID THESE KINDS OF GROUPS.
They are not useful, nor will they help you to grow.
Having your ego stroked is nice, but it’s not productive, and that’s not how you become a better writing.
There is always, always room for improvement. In everything. Even published work. Don’t let anyone ever tell you that your work is perfect. Even if they love something, there will still be things they’d changed.
Other groups will be more in-depth about what they like and dislike.
They’ll give you reasons why a piece is good and bad.
These are generally what most people expect from writing groups.
When one of us doesn’t like something, we don’t just say we don’t like it. We offer up ways to fix things, too. The final version has a balance of drama, character development, and conflict. It shows how Fayth is better than Trinity, and how what she says affects Trinity but Trinity’s mask remains in place. Poetry is a very different discipline to fiction, and not every fiction writer is also a poet. Make sure the people in your group know what they’re talking about, and aren’t just all talk. It helps if they specialise in different areas, too. For instance, plot, character development, or writing style. It helps even more if the people in your group are more intelligent than you. How else are you going to learn?
Thank you Calling a spade a spade
K Rajaram IRS 301025
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R V Rao
Compliments to you.,Sri VermajiNone can express the mental agony on a daily basis created by regulars or new comers with out proper thinking better than you. Well done
. When I start my day I open our forum with lot of trepedition .What is the secret of your energy? Iwas waiting.Not Sachin Tendulkar but one of our members who can write thesis in responding to any simple subject. They don't even go to either Dermatologist to treat their thick skin or a brain specialist if they have sound mind.I could not get the correct meaning of some words like - upstart, self righteousness, stubborn , one up the sleeves and Arrogant. Now slowly getting the proper answers.I can't imagine the trails and tribulations of those associated with such members during service or home frontGod also can't help.
Suryanarayana Ambadipudi
Rajaram Krishnamurthy
Simple tasker Simpleton
Things are much simpler now
and simplicity is bliss
I can shout to the world now
because I know you're not listening
and your ears were the only ones that mattered
they were the only ones I censored
I can even scream your name
so loud
that my larynx catches fire
and I start choking and hacking
but you would hear neither
your name
nor the choking and hacking
or the hoping and sapping
or the slapping of my heart on the pavement
That slap was so simple
and simplicity is bliss
but it's the confusion
and complexity that I miss
I wish my heart wouldn't just slap on the pavement
lifeless
I wish it would put up a fight
and die with some pride
but it just got smacked out of my chest
by your hand
for cars to run over
like road ****.
K Rajaram IRS 301025