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R V Rao

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Sep 6, 2025, 9:29:23 PM (3 days ago) Sep 6
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1. Is empathy inborn or cultivated?

Inborn element:

Human beings are wired with a basic capacity for empathy. Even infants cry when they hear another baby crying—this is called emotional contagion.

Neuroscience has identified “mirror neurons,” which help us feel what others feel to some degree.


Cultivated element:

How deeply empathy develops depends on upbringing, culture, life experiences, and conscious effort.

For example, children raised in nurturing, emotionally responsive families tend to show stronger empathetic behavior.

Spiritual practices, literature, and even hardships in life can deepen empathy.
So, empathy has both genetic roots and environmental shaping.
2. Does empathy change over time?

Yes, it does:

Childhood → Adolescence: It grows as the brain matures and social experiences broaden.

Adulthood: Often empathy deepens as one faces personal struggles, responsibility, or exposure to diverse people.

Old age: Some studies suggest that emotional empathy may remain strong or even increase, but cognitive empathy (understanding others’ perspectives) may decline slightly with age-related brain changes.

Life circumstances: Trauma, illness, or social isolation can reduce empathy. On the other hand, reflection, spiritual growth, and caregiving roles often strengthen it.

3. Can empathy be consciously cultivated?

Definitely. Practices that enhance empathy include:

Active listening (hearing others without judgment).

Reading stories / literature that immerse you in others’ lives.

Meditation or prayer—many traditions emphasize compassion as a discipline.

Community service / caregiving—direct contact with others’ struggles makes empathy more real.
👉 So in short: Empathy is both inborn and cultivated. It evolves with age and experience, and we can actively nurture it throughout life.

Surendra Varma

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Sep 7, 2025, 11:33:04 PM (2 days ago) Sep 7
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My understanding of empathy is that it is a virtue found only in some of the affluent western countries, not in India.

In India, about 85% of the population struggles just to make the two ends meet. Even after becoming a food-secure country and exporting food…thanks to the advances in agricultural research, lakhs of Indians even today go to bed hungry. Why?

If someone asked them if they understood the meaning of empathy, they might say it is the lack of sympathy from the rich to the poor!

And some of the cunning Maharishis running their Ashramas and even NGOs in our Bharat (thank me for not naming some of them here) use empathy as a lever to attract charity and donations.

I believe that empathy in India means "It is not my business to pay for your lack of managing your life within your means and resources; get lost”.

Suren

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Rajaram Krishnamurthy

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Empathy Is Dying and So Are We

Look up the definition of “human” in the Oxford Dictionary. You'll get “a human being, especially a person as distinguished from an animal or (in science fiction) an alien”. This definition does not reveal much about the qualities we humans possess, so let's turn the word into an adjective and define “humane”: “having or showing compassion or benevolence.”

Empathy, the ability to understand and share the feelings of another, is often considered an essential characteristic of humanity, and its absence is often compared to a lack of humanity.

However, there appears to be a decline in human empathy over the years throughout the world, and not only in India . For example, one psychology study surveyed American university students and reported a 48% decrease in levels of empathy between 1979 and 2009. Imagine that: this sample portrayed half the level of empathy they once had 30 years ago. Overall, scientists are reporting a generational decrease in empathy and a rise in narcissism around the world, particularly in the West.

At the same time, we see an unprecedented and alarming rise in xenophobia, racism, and misogyny around the world that has even generated the concerned attention of the United Nations. The Intergovernmental organisation whose purpose is to maintain international peace, security, and friendly relations among nations, must now intervene in relations among people. One must wonder: what is going on with the world? The answer is simple after considering the worrying global decline in empathy. Empathy is dying, and we are dying with it.

As our empathy decreases, we pay less attention to others around the globe who are suffering, provide less support, and carry on with our lives while millions die.

There is no denying that technology is fantastic. Nevertheless, we need not be repeatedly lectured on the dangers of overuse. In the last decade, there has been an increase in social media, phone, and television entertainment. According to Canadian social psychologist Sarah Konrath, spending so much time "interacting with others online rather than in reality, interpersonal dynamics such as empathy might certainly be altered." Extensive technological use leads to a decline in empathy not only because of the fewer opportunities for empathetic interactions but also because of the immense time it consumes, leaving little room for authentic human connection. Social media, in particular, isolates its users by being addictive and constricting them to the platform. Though this effect does not manifest in all social media users, it still occurs threateningly. Because social media thrives on people sharing their personal experiences and selves online, people become increasingly concerned with themselves and their portrayals, with little room to sympathise and empathise with others.

This past year has been the perfect example of how overwhelming and devastating global news can desensitize viewers. There's no need to look further than Rescuer’s Emergency Watchlists to learn about the world's tragic crises. Among the biggest of the latter include the Ukraine War that caused the largest displacement crisis in decades (UNHCR), Haiti gang violence, Afghan populations being pushed to poverty, Ethiopian droughts, Somalian hunger, and Myanmar political conflicts. Let's not forget Occupied Palestine's new title of "deadliest place for civilians in the world."

Unfortunately, these tragedies come with never-ending news stories, articles, political commentaries, and debates. There is only so much tragedy we can handle as human beings, so the constant bombardment with news reports of wars, conflicts, violence, and death leads to desensitization. In a 2011 study, researchers reported strong desensitization effects only to violent media content. As humans, we innately react to violence with fear. With repeated exposure to violence, the fear reaction decreases in strength due to habituation to the violence. In turn, we lose the adverse reactions and become desensitized, meaning we don't respond with anxious arousal in response to media violence. Another study found that desensitization to violence in the news led to reduced emotional reactivity and diminished empathy. When you respond less emotionally, it's hard to understand other people's emotions and imagine what they are experiencing.

As previously mentioned, there is a rise in narcissism and entitlement; concern with the self is more prominent than concern for others. With that said, changes in family structures are also seen in looser social ties, smaller family units, and more significant time constraints that limit human connection. Additionally, with smaller families, children are less likely to learn about and practice empathy-based interactions.

Parenting strategies have also contributed to the decline in empathy. A parenting style characterized by high control and low warmth and responsiveness does not effectively teach compassion and empathy in children. Instead, it fosters intolerant and aggressive behaviour with poor emotional expression. Narcissists are those who are most likely to use the aforementioned parenting style. In other words, a rise in narcissism sees a depletion in empathy. According to Jennifer Rubin, a writer for the Washington Post, the global lack of empathy has been manifested in "an erosion of civility, decency and compassion in our society," that we can see in political polarization, "us versus them" thinking styles, hate crimes, and demonizing of immigrants and refugees. Ultimately, research has established an apparent decline in global levels of empathy. Whether that is due to our technology use, media desensitization, or the way we were brought up, something has to change.

We cannot sit by and ignore what is happening in other parts of the world simply because we were lucky enough to be born or to exist on the "right" continent. We owe it to ourselves and humanity to pay attention to victims of violence, famine, and natural disasters and to offer as much support as possible. Regardless of our capabilities to provide financial or material support, we must once again learn, as a civilization, to empathize. We will be met with dire consequences if we continue down this road. It will become more challenging for us to deal with important issues like climate change, inequality, displacement, war, famine, and so on. If we don't revive our empathy, this critical human characteristic will wither away and die as we sit back and witness the deaths of multiple people across the world.

On the contrary, India is far better in my mind; Covid medicines were sent from India which was acclaimed by the whole world. Narayana Murthy company shares its profit for public utilities. Temples contribute a lot for hospitals and education.  On the contrary world is in war where empathy is absent from USA, Europe etc    K Rajaram IRS   8925


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