Coming out

[Timize]

I'm bisexual and I'm having problems coming out to my friends. Only my
close friends know that I'm bi right now, but I want to let everyone
know just so they don't suspect anything of me. I've been trying to
think of situations on how/when to tell them, but I just freeze when
hat situation arises.

For instance, last week I was hanging out with a bunch of people (some
are my friends) painting a room. it just turns out that a guy that was
helping us is gay (it came up in conversation). I knew it was a perfect
time to tell them but I just sat there and said nothing.

Any advice, please?

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[Alan Young]

In article <E1Gfgzi-...@richmond.servershost.net>, Timize
<tim...@gmail.com> wrote:

> I'm bisexual and I'm having problems coming out to my friends. Only my
> close friends know that I'm bi right now, but I want to let everyone
> know just so they don't suspect anything of me. I've been trying to
> think of situations on how/when to tell them, but I just freeze when

> that situation arises.

You could try rehearsing in front of a mirror--coming out to yourself,
so to speak. Make eye contact with your reflection and say *aloud*,
"yes, I'm bisexual.... I find both men and women sexually
attractive..." etc. Continue practicing until it sounds like a
perfectly normal thing to say.

Or, if you really want to let "everyone" know, you could just wear a
"Bi" sign on your jacket. That cuts through the uncertainty pretty
fast, and saves you the trouble of trying to decide how to start the
conversation. Of course, you'd still have to deal with what to say
next, when someone asks you about it.

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alan

You cannot reason a person out of a position that he did not reason
himself into to begin with.
--Jonathan Swift

[Benjamin P.]

Yes Alan haves a good ideal. Also remember that coming out should be
totally up to you. You do not awe anyone anything.

[theboxmobile]

I know how dreadfully scary coming out can be. I recently came out last
year to people. I went the more indirect approach, by putting it as my
myspace orientation and letting some people find out on their own but
this is my advice.

You already told some close friends, that's great. The first person I
told was my best friend... through a letter, so I don't have much room
to talk. After that, the acceptance I got from her, I was a ton more
confident. In this day and age, not too many people 'hate' gay's/bi's.
If they do, then you really shouldn't be friends with them anyways. I
know that sounds corny but it's true. The fact that someone can be good
friends with you one second, and then a little detail makes them
despise you, are those the people you want to hang with?

It'll take time to come out. Friends are easiest. It took me a good
year to tell my sister. But look at it this way, straight people don't
go around declaring their orientation. "Hi my name is john doe and I'm
straight", NO. So why should you have to? I hope things go well for you!