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SOC.SUPPORT.YOUTH.GAY-LESBIAN-BI FAQ


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TABLE OF CONTENTS

1 About this FAQ
1.1 Administrivia
1.2 Credits
2 About the Newsgroup
2.1 What is the purpose of the newsgroup?
2.2 How do I post?
2.2.1 My post hasn't shown up yet!
2.2.2 What languages can I post in?
+2.2.3 Can I post anonymously?
2.3 Who can participate?
2.4 What is the moderation policy?
2.4.1 I'd like to do research/post a survey about glb youth...
2.5 Can I access the group via a mailing list?
2.6 Is the group archived?
3 Resources for sexual minority youth
3.1 I want to get in contact with other gay youth
+3.1.1 On the Net
3.1.2 Penpal services
3.2 I live in "SomeCity" -- where can I go to find support?
3.2.1 Britain
3.2.2 Canada
3.2.3 France
3.2.4 USA
+3.2.5 Australia
3.3 What about books?
3.3.1 Pointers to other lists of books
3.3.2 Recommended Fiction
3.3.3 Recommended Non-fiction
3.3.4 How do I procure these books?
3.4 What about my parents?
3.5 Organizations specifically dedicated to glb youth
4 Other resources for sexual minorities
4.1 Usenet
4.2 Religious Resources
+4.2.1 Christian
4.2.2 Jewish
4.2.3 Unitarian Universalist



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SECTION 1: ABOUT THIS FAQ


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This FAQ serves as an introduction and resource guide for the
newsgroup soc.support.youth.gay-lesbian-bi. Please read this document
before posting to the newsgroup.

1.1 Administrivia

The most current copy of this FAQ can always be found at
http://www.youth.org/ssyglb/ssyglb-faq.html. It is also archived in
the official FAQ archives at rtfm.mit.edu. If you have comments,
corrections, additions, or things you would like to see in this FAQ,
e-mail us (glb-yout...@ucsd.edu) and I would be happy to
change/fix things.

There are quite a few references in this document that have URLs
pointing to the Queer Resource Directory (QRD). To quote from the
soc.motss FAQ, maintained by David Casti:

"All files are accessible via email, FTP, gopher, WAIS, and the
world wide web. To receive a copy of the current QRD FAQ file, which
includes instructions for using all of the QRD's many access
methods, send mail to in...@qrd.org. An autoreply will be generated
and mailed back to you immediately."



This FAQ is Copyright 1995 by Jane Patterson, and is made available as
a service to the Internet community. It may not be sold in any medium,
including electronic, CD-ROM, or database, packaged with any
commercial product, or published in print, without the explicit,
written permission of the author.

1.2 Credits

I would like to thank the following people for their assistance and
contributions to this FAQ:

Joe Reilly (the original author of this FAQ), Harry Rezzemini, the
staff of the QRD, DeaconMac, John David Moss, Reid Fishler,
FREE...@maths.bham.ac.uk, glby...@aol.com, David Casti, Greg Harma,
Matt Black, Andrew Zolli and the wonderful people at Youth Assistance
Organization
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SECTION 2: ABOUT THE NEWSGROUP


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2.1 What is the purpose of the newsgroup?

Soc.support.youth.gay-lesbian-bi is specifically a support group for
young lesbians, gay men, bisexuals or transgendered persons. It's
purpose is to provide a safe and regulated forum where such persons
and their friends can help each other with support and advice drawn
from their own experiences in coming to terms with their variant
sexuality or gender identification. The charter of the group is
available on the group's home page at http://www.youth.org/ssyglb/

2.2 How do I post?

At most sites, simply posting a message in the normal manner will
result in your post being sent to one of the moderators. If this does
not work, you can e-mail directory to glb-...@ucsd.edu. If you have
a question about posting, or want to know if your post ever got to a
moderator, e-mail the group at glb-yout...@ucsd.edu.

2.2.1 MY POST HASN'T SHOWN UP YET!

If your post is rejected, you will receive an e-mail with the text of
your post, and the reason it was rejected. (Unless the reason it was
rejected was because your e-mail address was malformed). Because this
is a moderated newsgroup, it can take several days for your post to
travel to the moderator, where it may take a day or two to be
processed, and then back out into the stream of Usenet, where it may
take several days to reach your site.

2.2.2 WHAT LANGUAGE CAN I POST IN?

Though the predominant language on ssyglb is English, we welcome
submissions in German and Spanish as well. Foreign-language
submissions will be judged by the same standards as all other
submissions.

+2.2.3 CAN I POST ANONYMOUSLY?

Yes. The moderators will accept submissions sent through anonymous
remailers, such as an...@anon.penet.fi and rema...@csua.berkeley.edu.
Also, if you put a statement at the top of your message, in BIG,
PROMINENT TYPE asking for your letter to be anonymized, we will post
it without any identifying information. (We can't forward e-mail to
you if you do this, however, so all of your replies will have to be
posted to the newsgroup.)

However, all submissions MUST contain a valid e-mail address that the
moderators can use. If there is not, your message will not only be
rejected, but the moderators will not be able to inform you when and
why it was rejected.

2.3 Who can participate?

SSYGLB is, as the name implies, a safe space for sexual minority
youth. We invite and encourage people of all ages and orientations to
participate if you feel you have something helpful or constructive to
contribute.

2.4 What is the moderation policy?

SSYGLB is moderated in order to make it a safe, high-signal forum. To
that end, the moderators will reject:
* Ad hominem personal attacks, unnecessary profanity or any other
sort of flaming behavior. Strongly worded disagreements or
rebuttals will not be rejected where they don't cross the line
into gratuitous abuse or four letter diatribes.
* As a support group, soc.support.youth.gay-lesbian-bi does not
operate under the principle of "equal time". Consequently, under
no circumstances will the moderators approve any messages
containing homophobic abuse, declarations of the supposed
immorality, condemnation or blanket judgement of homosexuality
derived from any religious or secular source, or any other
submission which the moderators consider contrary to the mutually
supportive and friendly atmosphere of the group.
* Off-topic posts: S.s.y.g-l-b is a group for gay, lesbian,
bisexual, transgendered and exploring young people and their
friends to exchange information and support relevant to their
youth and sexuality. Any submission which is not of specific
relevance to lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgendered youth -
whether to specific people or in the abstract - is off-topic for
this newsgroup.
* Posts without a valid e-mail address attached. The moderators are
willing to anonymize messages, or approve posts from anonymous
remailers, but the moderators must be able to contact the person
who sent the post.
* Cross-posted articles
* Binaries or uuencoded files. All binaries should be posted in the
binary groups.
* Personal ads are not approved under any circumstances. Requests
for email which do not contain any other content of relevance or
interest to the other readers of the group may be approved in
exceptional circumstances at moderator's discretion, but in
practice are rarely approved at all. Any request for email should
be:
+ Non-sexual in nature. Sexual requests are always rejected
whatever form they take.
+ Tagged on to an introduction to the other readers of the
group, (a "demuffining") of sufficient length and detail to
make interesting reading and add to the group atmosphere and
dynamic. "Hi, My name's Peter and I'm 19. Does anyone else
live in North Carolina? Email me if you do." is a
(fictitious) example of the sort of submission the moderators
receive all the time and reject. It add nothing to the group
and says nothing that anyone would want to read.
* Requests for information that is in the FAQ.
* General discussions of gay politics/issues that aren't
specifically youth related. (soc.motss, soc.bi,
alt.politics.homosexuality, and other forums are more appropriate)



The moderators reserve the right to edit approved posts. All personal
snail mail addresses or telephone numbers will be removed from
submissions.

2.4.1 I'D LIKE TO POST A SURVEY/DO RESEARCH ON GAY YOUTH

Articles submitted from researchers, authors, etc. requesting
infomation for their projects will be approved provided they:
* Exclude questionnaires -- requests for participants are
acceptable.
* Introduce themselves to the readership, outlining the significance
of their work to the group.
* Agree to share the relevant findings with the group upon
completion of their projects.
* Agree to respect the rights and privacy of the responses taken
from the group. (Receiving permission from posters for reprints of
their comments)

2.5 Can I get this via a mailing list?

Yes. A mailing list that mirrors this newsgroup has been set up,
courtesy of Eric Walker. Warning: it is very high-traffic, and there
is no digest function. To subscribe, send the message "subscribe
glb-youth-l Your.email.address" to list...@netcom.com. You will be
automatically added, and sent information about the list and how to
unsubscribe should you want to. (I recommend that you save that
message!)

2.6 Is there an archive of the group anwhere?

Not really. Individual moderators may keep archives of the msesages
they approve and reject, but there are no easily accessible archives
at this point.
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SECTION 3: RESOURCES FOR SEXUAL MINORITY YOUTH


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3.1 I want to get in contact with other gay youth.

As you will have noted in the moderation policy, we don't accept posts
that are just requests for contact. But there are lots of ways to get
in contact with other gay youth.

3.1.1 ON THE NET

The newsgroup is, of course, a great place to meet people. Get
involved in the discussions, and you should find some new friends
fairly quickly.

On Internet Relay Chat, visit the #gayteen channel.

[Contributed by Andrew Zolli, PARADOX owner and admin]
PARADOX, an online G/L/B/T/A/O Community. PARADOX is a MUD, or online
virtual space, where you can meet others, chat online (in real time),
check out a Queer newsfeed, and become, if you wish, a "resident,"
with your own password, your own virtual rooms to decorate, and access
to PARADOX email. PARADOX is designed to be a free queer-safe space on
the net. To access PARADOX, telnet to VASSUN.VASSAR.EDU 4040, or see
the web pages at HTTP://WWW.CS.VASSAR.EDU/~anzolli/paradox.html

There are a large number of gay-related mailing lists, ranging from
Gay Catholics to Bisexual Theory Discussion. The best list is
available from the QRD at
http://www.qrd.org/QRD/electronic/email/lgbt-list-of-lists.html

+There is a new list for young women:

from eao...@ea.oac.uci.edu
GIRL, a list for and about girls, grrrls, young women, lesbian and
feminist youth, "babydykes", "young and angrys"... (female and
approximately 25 and younger).
This list is private and unmoderated: to subscribe, it's mandatory
that you send a brief bio (100 words or more) including your age,
interest in the list, anything about your background, work,
experiences or commitments, and anything else you want the
listmembers to know (bios are posted when your subscription is
accepted- you must request otherwise or this will be done
automatically). The list is available in digest form, request this
in your bio if you want this option. To subscribe, send a bio to:
gi...@uci.edu

3.1.2 PENPAL SERVICES

IGYLO

[Contributed by IGLYO chair Thomas Tichelmann, ay...@torfree.net]
International Lesbian and Gay Youth Organization (IGLYO) has an
international penpal service for anyone under 27.
"Write to:
IGLYO Main Secretariat
PO Box 542
NL-1000 AM Amsterdam
the Netherlands

Please include a copy of any ID (so we can verify your age and that
your are eligible, the data is protected by the European Data
Protection Act), write a little bit about yourself and what you are
looking for. IGLYO will then get back to you with other participants
of the Penpal service. THIS SERVICE IS FREE OF CHARGE (However
donations are welcome)"

Orion

Orion Services operates a glb penpal service, including a special
youth service. Send an SASE to POBox 139, Hagaman, NY, 12086

Alyson Publications

I know that Alyson publications used to have a youth penpal service,
but I can't find any information about it. I would appreciate the
details, if anyone has them

3.2 I live in SomeCity. Where can I go to find support?

The following are ways of getting information via the Internet about
"real life" resources.

3.2.1 BRITAIN

[Contributed by FREELORN (FREE...@maths.bham.ac.uk)]
I've set up some Resource pages for L/G/B people which include details
of youth groups, safer sex advice, advice/help phone lines, coming out
stories, a shops/pubs/clubs guide and information and links to other
organisations on theinternet. It covers all of Great Britain and
Northern Ireland and more information is always being added.

It is accessible at http://phymat.bham.ac.uk/LGB/ and any articles for
submission can be sent to L...@bham.ac.uk (please specify how anonymous
you want the article to be). I do reserve the right to edit the
articles for length and suitability (arcane British Laws and
University restrictions).

I'm really looking for British contributors or contributors that know
the British scene. If you have any questions about submitting then do
contact either L...@bham.ac.uk or free...@maths.bham.ac.uk.

3.2.2 CANADA

The Canadian QRD is on the WWW at
http://pmax.dymaxion.ns.ca/~kc/iglbrd/canada/Welcome.html.

3.2.3 FRANCE

The French QRD is at http://www.casti.com/FQRD/fqrd.html and
http://acacia.ens.fr:8080/home/delmas/fqrd/fqrd.html

3.2.4 USA

The QueerAmerica database exists to find glbo resources in the U.S. If
you have WWW access, you can search the database at
http://www.youth.org/outproud/. If you don't have WWW access, you
can send e-mail to glby...@aol.com including your city, state,
zipcode, area coda, age and gender, and the volunteers at !OutProud!
will e-mail you a list of resources in your area appropriate to your
age and gender.

+3.2.5 AUSTRALIA

The Australian QRD can be found at http://www.biz.usyd.edu.au/QRD

3.3 What about Books?

Books are wonderful resources. They don't talk back, or react in ways
you weren't expecting, and they contain lots and lots of information.

3.3.1 OTHER LISTS OF RELEVANT FICTION

Before we get into the recommendations of ssyglb readers, I would like
to recommend the "Alternative Sexualities in Fantasy and SF" list
maintained by M.A. Mohanraj. It is posted occasionally and available
on the WWW at http://mud.bsd.uchicago.edu/~mohanraj/balist.html. At
the QRD, try http://www.qrd.org/QRD/media/books/, and another list,
compiled by Lambda Rising Bookstore, is at
http://plains.uwyo.edu/~lasaga/lists.html, and yet another at
http://www.armory.com/~web/gaybooks.html

3.3.2 RECOMMENDED FICTION

The following books have been recommended by readers of ssyglb or
soc.motss. (and I am still taking recommendations :) Most of them are
novels about coming out. Spelling has been cut and pasted from the
messages, and is not guaranteed. Starred entries are endorsed by at
least one of the moderators.
* "Ambidextrous: a memoir in the form of a Novel" (Felice Picano)
* "Landscape: Memory" (Matthew Stadler)
* "White People" (a collection of short stories by Alan Garaganus)
* "Funny Boy" (Shyam Selvadurai)
* "Magic's Pawn","Magic's Price", "Magic's Promise" (Mercedes
Lackey) *
* "Pagan Babies" (Greg Johnson)
* "Rubyfruit Jungle" (Rita Mae Brown) *
* "Growing Up Gay/Growing Up Lesbian, A Literary Anthology" (edited
by Bennett L. Singer)
* "Tales of the City" (Armistead Maupin) *
* +"Half Way Home", "Becoming A Man"[autobiography] (Paul Monette)
* "Surprising Myself" (Christopher Bram)
* "A Home at the End of the World" (Michael Cunningham)
* "River Road" (C. F. Borgman)
* "The Boys on the Rock" (John Fox)
* "The Aerodynamics of Pork" (Patrick Gale)
* "Maurice" (E. M. Forster)
* "A Boy's Own Story" and its sequel "The Beautiful Room is Empty"
(Edmund White)
* +"The Best Little Boy in the World" (John Reid)
* +"Annie on my Mind" (Nancy Garden)
* +"Entries From A Hot Pink Notebook" (Todd D. Brown)
* +"Living Upstairs" (Joseph Hansen)

3.3.3 RECOMMENDED NON-FICTION

* "Twice Blessed: On Being Lesbian, Gay, and Jewish." (editors,
Christie Balka and Andy Rose) Boston: Beacon Press, 1989. ISBN #
0807079081.
* "Coming Out to Parents: a two-way survival guide for lesbians and
gay men and their parents" (M.V. Borhek) Pilgrim Press,
Cleveland,1993.
* "Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out" (Edited by L.
Hutchins & L. Kaahumanu) Alyson Publications, Boston, 1991.
* "Reflections of a Rock Lobster" (Aaron Fricke) [autobiography]
* "Taking A Chance on God" (John J McNeil) [for Catholics]

3.3.4 HOW DO I PROCURE THESE BOOKS?

A gay bookstore, if you can find one, is usually a wonderful place,
where you can find information about support resources in your
community as well as books. If you can't find one or are not ready to
go to one yet:

Answer 1: Go to the library.
[Contributed by harry.r...@library.gatech.edu (Harry Rezzemini)]
"An "ISBN" is an International Standard Book Number, by which any
bookstore worthy of that name would be able to order the title for
you.

Also, for those inquiring minds...like me...who have little cash to
back up book-buying sprees, I encouage you to use libraries. That's
not only because I work in one--but because I do, I can attempt to
reassure you that by and large, libraries TRY and most often SUCCEED
to be safe places to...explore. One early post to s.s.y.glb mentioned
fears about checking out books on sexuality...well, okay. It's
uncomfortable to and that person across the counter your
selections--but know this: libraries have iron-clad rules (backed up
by legal precedent) against telling ANYONE what you've checked out.
That's why when Bozo checks out the only copy of the book EVERYONE
needs for a class...the folks at the front desk CAN'T tell you who has
it. It's against the law. So go check out those uncomfortable
books--consider it practice for BUYING CONDOMS!

Also know that the American Library Association is one of the
staunchest opponents of censorship or book-banning or limiting the
unrestricted access of everyone to information, in any way. That's not
to say that policies may not be in place in your local library which
might be different."

Answer 2: Mail order
[Contributed by DeaconMac (deac...@aol.com)]
Virtually every gay and lesbian book in print can be ordered from
Lambda Rising Bookstores. For ordering information, send e-mail to:
lambda...@his.com.

3.4 What about my parents?

Coming out to your parents is probably one of the harder things most
of us do in our coming-out process. There is no one easy answer for
the "proper" way to do it -- if you have questions about coming out to
your parents, please ask them on the group, where there is frequently
lively discussion on that very topic. And yes, we'd love to hear your
coming out stories. :)

+PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) has support groups
for parents of gay children. You can call 202-638-4200 in the U.S. to
find a chapter near your parents. They also have excellent pamphlets
about coming out. You can get more information from Emily Rizzo, a
PFLAG member on the 'net. Her e-mail address is
Riz...@fasecon.econ.nyu.edu, and she can send you more information.
(Thank you, Emily!) Please note that the 1-800 number is no longer
available.

3.5 ORGANIZATIONS SPECIFICALLY DEDICATED TO GLB YOUTH

Youth Assistance Organization

[Contributed by ro...@youth.org (Reid Fishler) aka red...@liii.com]
The Youth Assistance Organization (YAO) can be found on-line, at
youth.org. See their web pages at http://www.youth.org/

" As always, if you or a friend need help, mail to he...@youth.org, and
your peers will be happy to help you. We are here for you because no
one was here for us...don't repeat this misjustice."

Kaleidoscope Youth Coalition, Inc.

[Contributed by Greg Harma (greg...@aol.com)]
Kaleidoscope Youth Coalition is a growing organization whose Mission
is to enrich and foster the positive growht and development of gay,
lesbian, and bisexual youth and transgender youth through education,
information, advocacy, self-empowerment, resource development,
collaboration, coalition building, and community.

Kaleidoscope Youth Coalition is working with a local child-serving
agency to create and implement a 24-hour hotline for young people who
are experiencing issues around sexual orientation or gender
orientation. RAINBOW PRIDE HOTLINE (1-800-291-9190) began July 1, 1994
and is available for support/crisis intervention and
information/referral.

To receive more information or to speak with someone about the ways in
which you or your organization may become involved, please contact us
at 614/447-7199 or write to us:
Kaleidoscope Youth Coalition, Inc.
PO Box 8104
Columbus, OH 43201

International Lesbian and Gay Youth Organization

IGLYO's objectives are:
* to improve the lives of young lesbians, gays and bisexuals
worldwide
* to bring an end to discrimination
* to support the emancipation of young lesbians, gays and bisexuals
worldwide
* to create equal opportunities for all young people

More information is available from:
IGLYO Main Secretariat
PO Box 542
NL-1000 AM Amsterdam
the Netherlands



IGLYO America
PO Box 42463
Washington DC 20016-0463
USA



IGLYO is a registered non-profit organization in the European Union
(based in Amsterdam) and the USA
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SECTION 4: OTHER RESOURCES FOR SEXUAL MINORITIES


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Disclaimer: I am not going to attempt to cover everything, as that has
been done before, and duplicating the effort would be silly. So what
follows is mostly pointers to large collections of resources.

4.1 Usenet

There are several other Usenet groups for sexual minorities. The FAQs
for soc.motss,soc.bi, and soc.support.transgendered are all excellent
sources of information, and can be found in the FAQ archives at
rtfm.mit.edu, as well as in their groups of origin and news.answers.

4.2 Religious resources

Many of us face apparent contradiction or lack of support in our
communities of faith. We can be surprised and relieved to find support
within our religious groups. Please be aware that the following are
Seattle-centric. Please feel free to email me additions in any
category or additions of categories. Many faiths are omitted because I
am lacking information. If you don't see something that addresses you,
please post to the newsgroup to find out where your support is in your
community of faith.

+4.2.1 CHRISTIAN

Many communities house a Metropolitan Community Church, which is a
Christian Church specifically dedicated to serving the sexual minority
Christian Community. Information about MCC can be found in the QRD at
http://www.qrd.org/qrd/religion/orgs/MCC/

The Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement can be reached on the WWW at
http://www.dur.ac.uk/~dth2mnv/lgcm.html, and by snail mail at
The Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement (LGCM)
Oxford House
Derbyshire Street
London
E2 6HG U.K.



Dignity is a faith community of lesbian, gay, bisexual Catholics, &
their families & friends. We celebrate our inherent dignity with pride
in liturgy, mutual support, seeking justice, common action, & social
activities. Information, including contact information, for Dignity is
available from the QRD at
http://www.qrd.org/qrd/religion/orgs/DIGNITY/. A Dignity listserv
(dig...@american.edu) can be subscribed to via list...@american.edu.


Affirmation is a support and social network for L.D.S. (Mormon) gays &
lesbians, their families, & friends. Monthly meetings & social
activities. Outstanding newsletter; nationally affiliated.
(Affirmation/Seattle can be contacted at P.O. Box 23223, Seattle, WA
98102)

Presbyterians for Lesbian and Gay Concerns have their newsletters
available from the QRD at http://www.qrd.org/qrd/religion/orgs/PLGC/

There is a gay Christian mailing list - contact
LUTI-...@vector.casti.com for details.

4.2.2 JEWISH

Beth El Binah, a gay Jewish congregation in Texas, has a home page on
the WWW at http://www.global.org/beth.el.binah/

4.2.3 UNITARIAN UNIVERSALIST

Unitarian Universalism is a liberal, non-dogmatic church that
officially confirmed (in the 1970s) its acceptance of gay and lesbian
people. Most UU ministers will perform committment ceremonies for
same-sex couples. A plethora of information about UUs and queer
concerns can be found at http://www.qrd.org/qrd/www/uua/
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