Someone to Talk to

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Who is someone to talk to;the someone to whom one talks and loneliness
and
silence are over?That person may well not say a word.They are not a
counsellor,for sure.Yet one is probably talking to them about
loneliness,about talking and not talking,about communication.If they
sympathise they probably are not that someone to talk to;but if they
also
have your problem,maybe they are.Or if they understand your problem e.g.
as
self perpetuating,maybe they are;if they continue to listen without
signs of
strain for a long time maybe they are;if they are not isolated too,and
talk
to many people about many things,they probably aren't that someone.If
they
are there for you many times maybe they are that someone .But that
someone
performs a miracle which is probably two way.There is an ancient film
"Marty" (Ernest Borgnine,with Betsy Blair as the "someone" who does it
just
right and breaks the spell of a lifetime of effective silence)
Now I could put myself forward as a "someone",who is that "someone to
talk
to" about talking and not talking;although actually I need a "someone"
myself.How about you?Could you put yourself forward?

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[jssnzn88]

I know how you feel. I have no family or friends who live close to
me, and those I talk to on the phone cost me major bucks. My husband
works all day. I have 4 young children under the age of 7. I have no
friends to talk to, no one to hang out with, and my days are full of
resentment towards my husband for being able to have a life, and
living a life that I am not happy with. I love my children dearly,
but I want to be able to go out and have someone to talk to. Please
feel free to contact me at any time.

Jill

[H. Charles]

jssnzn88 wrote:

> I know how you feel. I have no family or friends who live close to
> me, and those I talk to on the phone cost me major bucks. My husband
> works all day. I have 4 young children under the age of 7. I have no
> friends to talk to, no one to hang out with, and my days are full of
> resentment towards my husband for being able to have a life, and
> living a life that I am not happy with. I love my children dearly,
> but I want to be able to go out and have someone to talk to. Please
> feel free to contact me at any time.
>
> Jill

This may be an unpopular response, but there is a consideration that you
could immerse yourself in the moments that you and your husband do have
together. Don't let resentment be a bridge that seperates the two of you
rather, risk and tell him how you really feel. I submit that if the two
of you really and truly love one another, there is the very real chance
that this, or any other challenge, can be overcome; TOGETHER.

I do not mean to sound as if I am preaching, but I, as a husband love my
wife dearly but alas, there are times when she must let me know that I
have forgotten to keep her as the center of my universe.

Tell him...

Love him...

Worth a try?

Respectfully,
H. Charles