The worst thing to say: "We still can be friends"

[Eric Chen]

On 7 Dec 1996, thom95 wrote:

> unfortunately on a "deep frienship" level not a boyfriend/girlfriend
> chemistry level.... however that may be more satisfying especially if
> you can forego the physical aspect of a relationship....

The way I always envisioned a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, as quoted
from Alanis Morrissette, is 'best friends with benefits'.

Eric

[thom95]

In <32A744...@bham.ac.uk> "A.Boodoo" <axb...@bham.ac.uk> writes:
>
>Eric Chen wrote:
>>
>> On Tue, 3 Dec 1996, Matthew Twomey wrote:
>>
>> > In article <57tumv$6...@gnd0.rmc.edu>, spic...@newt.rmc.edu (Shawn
Pickrell) wrote:
>> >
>> > >Sometimes they do, though ... although it takes a really open or
really
>> > >secure person to be totally at ease with an ex-lover after the
break-up. :)
>> >
>> > It takes a really long time is what it takes...
>>
>> Gotta shut the doors, rebuild the walls, and regain that
self-control.
>>
>> I suppose if you had done all of that before the break-up, then you
can
>> slip right into friendship. If she's still got a hold on your heart,
then
>> it's mighty tough.
>>
>> Eric
>
>I've don it though. I was after her, she didn't want it, but we are
now
>much closer friends than we were before. Sometimes she can tell me the

>sorts of things she would only tell her CLOSEST friends, and I am
happy
>with that, because I can relate to her, and I feel I am getting
practice
>in relating to women...
>
>A.Boodoo

unfortunately on a "deep frienship" level not a boyfriend/girlfriend

chemistry level.....however that may be more satisfying especially if

you can forego the physical aspect of a relationship....

regards,

Thom

[Kaos Precarious]

The fair and lovely thom...@ix.netcom.com (thom95 ) wrote:

<something so embedded in multiple quotings and weird line-breaks that
I can't really attribute it>

>Sometimes they do, though ... although it takes a really open or really
>secure person to be totally at ease with an ex-lover after the break-up. :)

And that, friends, is why one of the BIG things I look for in a
potential sweeties is whether zie numbers at least one "ex" among zir
good friends (and the feeling appears mutual). Excellent sign of
maturity and of knowing how to relate to MOTAS outside the whole
Relationship(tm) thing. Plus - gossip is so handy...

Kaos