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How "nice guys" and promiscuous women are alike
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Ilya Shambat
Jan 26, 2012, 8:49:43 AM1/26/12
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"Nice guys" and promiscuous women are a lot a like, and for a simple
reason. They feel closer to the other gender than they do to their
own. Out of this, they both start out wanting to fulfil the other
gender - the "nice guys" by befriending and counseling women; the
promiscuous women by fulfilling men's sexual desires.
As they proceed along that path, coming as they do from the position
of goodwill to the other gender, after a while the goodwill
evaporates. The reason is that they are giving in an uneven exchange
and fulfil the other gender's needs without fulfilling their own. The
"nice guys" give of themselves emotionally and personally, but are not
rewarded with a sexual relationship. The promiscuous women give of
themselves sexually, but are not rewarded with intimacy or love.
Pretty soon both run dry; in many cases pretty soon both turn mean.
When a male keeps supporting and nourishing young women only to see
them keep going back to brutes or scoundrels while doing nothing for
him - or when a woman keeps giving of herself physically only to see
men treat her cruelly and brutally and then go for marital
relationships with virgins - pretty soon the view of the other gender
dims, as does the promise and goodness that was originally seen in the
other gender. At which point women frequently turn misandrist and men
misogynistic.
When this happens, it frequently is a tragic and unnecessary outcome.
A man who is willing to extend himself emotionally to support or
nurture a woman, like a woman who is willing to give men beautiful
sexual experiences, is someone possessing of mindset and skills that
can be wonderful in a relationship. If these in turn get inverted,
what we see is a huge waste. The real solution to this is for the
aforementioned men and women to find someone who has the presence of
mind to appreciate what they have to offer, preferably before they
develop misandrist or misogynistic convictions.
And it is for others likewise to realize that both such men and such
women have great things to offer and to create relationships stemming
from that awareness.
reason. They feel closer to the other gender than they do to their
own. Out of this, they both start out wanting to fulfil the other
gender - the "nice guys" by befriending and counseling women; the
promiscuous women by fulfilling men's sexual desires.
As they proceed along that path, coming as they do from the position
of goodwill to the other gender, after a while the goodwill
evaporates. The reason is that they are giving in an uneven exchange
and fulfil the other gender's needs without fulfilling their own. The
"nice guys" give of themselves emotionally and personally, but are not
rewarded with a sexual relationship. The promiscuous women give of
themselves sexually, but are not rewarded with intimacy or love.
Pretty soon both run dry; in many cases pretty soon both turn mean.
When a male keeps supporting and nourishing young women only to see
them keep going back to brutes or scoundrels while doing nothing for
him - or when a woman keeps giving of herself physically only to see
men treat her cruelly and brutally and then go for marital
relationships with virgins - pretty soon the view of the other gender
dims, as does the promise and goodness that was originally seen in the
other gender. At which point women frequently turn misandrist and men
misogynistic.
When this happens, it frequently is a tragic and unnecessary outcome.
A man who is willing to extend himself emotionally to support or
nurture a woman, like a woman who is willing to give men beautiful
sexual experiences, is someone possessing of mindset and skills that
can be wonderful in a relationship. If these in turn get inverted,
what we see is a huge waste. The real solution to this is for the
aforementioned men and women to find someone who has the presence of
mind to appreciate what they have to offer, preferably before they
develop misandrist or misogynistic convictions.
And it is for others likewise to realize that both such men and such
women have great things to offer and to create relationships stemming
from that awareness.
Gama Goat
Mar 20, 2012, 2:42:40 PM3/20/12
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