doing fantasy
Elizabeth
hitched up with a man who wanted everything for himself, without
recognizing that sex is a two (or more) way process. I wasn't prepared
to give him everything, including full on sex nor oral (because I'm
not into such things anymore), and fantasies where I would have to
say I "loved" his penis to make my boyfriend jealous. I told him my
boyfriend (actually my long term extra-curricular lover) isn't a
jealous type, that we'd come to the club for just this kind of fun
(!!), and that I didn't "love" his penis. The guy continued this line
of talk and started calling me "Anne". I realized was a complete
wanker he was, lost every ounce of interest in the enterprise, and
got up and left the room. "But, Anne....," he wimpered.... [Sorry,
I'm writing this as if it were a bad novel.]
What is it about people who are exclusively interested in their own
pleasure, and quite uninterested in pleasuring the other person for
mutual enjoyment? It was all about me fulfilling his fantasy. I have
no time at all for that.
Do some of you other ssg-ers do sex stuff entirely to fulfill someone
else's story? Or do you, like me, expect some reciprocity?
Serene Vannoy
> Do some of you other ssg-ers do sex stuff entirely to fulfill someone
> else's story? Or do you, like me, expect some reciprocity?
For people I care about, I have no problem at all subsuming myself to
someone else's fantasy from time to time, and they'd do the same for me.
Someone new, especially a stranger, hasn't earned that level of
consideration from me, and there's no reason for me to have sex with
them if what *they're* offering *me* doesn't at least match what they
want from me.
Serene
Tom Allen
> What is it about people who are exclusively interested in their own
> pleasure, and quite uninterested in pleasuring the other person for
> mutual enjoyment? It was all about me fulfilling his fantasy. I have
> no time at all for that.
Wait a minute - you're a woman, right? Why would you even ask that
question? Women were put on this Earth to be our playthings.
Sheesh, some people...
--
Tom Allen
http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com
"I don't have multiple orgasms, myself... I am, however, known to be a
carrier."
Eddy
> Elizabeth wrote:
> > What is it about people who are exclusively interested in their own
> > pleasure, and quite uninterested in pleasuring the other person for
> > mutual enjoyment? It was all about me fulfilling his fantasy. I have
> > no time at all for that.
>
> Wait a minute - you're a woman, right? Why would you even ask that
> question? Women were put on this Earth to be our playthings.
>
> Sheesh, some people...
>
> --
>
> "I don't have multiple orgasms, myself... I am, however, known to be a
> carrier."
That's the problem with some people, you assume that "your partner" is
only there for your own enjoyment.
Well it's not. For a fantasy to be fullfilled, it should be
reciprocated by ones partner so that you can take it to the next
level.
Ed2000
Mark
> On Nov 17, 10:48 pm, Tom Allen <taom...@gmail.com> wrote:
>
>
>
> > Elizabeth wrote:
> > > What is it about people who are exclusively interested in their own
> > > pleasure, and quite uninterested in pleasuring the other person for
> > > mutual enjoyment? It was all about me fulfilling his fantasy. I have
> > > no time at all for that.
>
> > Wait a minute - you're a woman, right? Why would you even ask that
> > question? Women were put on this Earth to be our playthings.
>
> > Sheesh, some people...
>
> only there for your own enjoyment.
> Well it's not. For a fantasy to be fullfilled, it should be
> reciprocated by ones partner so that you can take it to the next
> level.
...and that whooshing noise you just heard was ...
Isn't it a shame that the irony and sarcasm emoticons are both
invisible?
Elizabeth
Where's the irony in that? Fantasy should be reciprocal, not a demand
by one of the other - surely.
suzee
The irony in Tom's post. He was being Tom again....
sue
Elizabeth
Ah, Tom's post. I thought he was referring to Eddie's.
Tom Allen
Well, I was being more sarcastic than ironic, but it appears that
somebody missed the point. Ergo, the comment about the invisibility of
sarcasm emoticons.
More to the point, I think that it's fine that some people expect
another to fulfill a fantasy without *immediate* reciprocation. However,
one would expect that in a relationship, the promise of "Next time it's
your turn" is what keeps things going along well.
That said, there are people - men and women - who kink on the idea of
non-reciprocated service; they enjoy feeling "used". I can imagine how
it might be fun to give one's self over in certain situations; however,
in this situation, the person asking couldn't have known that.
--
Tom Allen