Well, other than the fact that we are 67 and 60, ditto to everything.
It just keeps getting better.....oh, god did I say that *again*?
JustGB
Well, I'm in my longest relationships right now, at 5.5 years, so I'll
let you know. :-)
My libido seems to have decreased a little over the past few years, but
I'm not sure how much of that is hormones, how much is age, and how much
is that I have enough sex on a regular basis that I don't get frustrated
any more.
Serene
--
"I am an agnostic only to the extent that I am agnostic about fairies at
the bottom of the garden." -- Richard Dawkins
Serene, Having really good sex on a regular basis makes for wanting
more of it as far as I am concerned and frustration comes quickly
after no sex for a couple of days! Maybe your libido has decreased a
little because sex is becoming too predictable, so perhaps you should
try masturbating, say twice a day, in between times to feed your
fantasies and to make you hunger for the real thing.
Pony
We're 65 and 62 with 43+ yr on the odometer. We're still getting it
on, tho not as often. Perhaps once a week, but we've both learned a
lot. We get more satisfaction from a once a week horizontal mambo,
than when it was more like 3 or 4 times a week.
W Gaius
> Serene, Having really good sex on a regular basis makes for wanting
> more of it as far as I am concerned
People are different. Part of my makeup seems to be that the lovely,
comfortable feeling of long-term relationships ratchets my libido down a
little. I don't look at that as a bad thing.
> and frustration comes quickly
> after no sex for a couple of days! Maybe your libido has decreased a
> little because sex is becoming too predictable, so perhaps you should
> try masturbating, say twice a day, in between times to feed your
> fantasies and to make you hunger for the real thing.
Why? First of all, I think masturbation is plenty real. Second, I'm
happy with my sex life as it is. I have very good relationships with
both my partners, with as much sex as we can manage without scaring the
horses.
Good for you!
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--- Norton
>Well, I'm in my longest relationships right now, at 5.5 years, so I'll
>let you know. :-)
>My libido seems to have decreased a little over the past few years, but
>I'm not sure how much of that is hormones, how much is age, and how much
>is that I have enough sex on a regular basis that I don't get frustrated
>any more.
It is also true that for many of us, a longer term relationship
becomes, well -- let me put this another way: you know that
new relationship energy? After a number of years it isn't there
any more.
That does NOT mean that the relationship is doomed or even in
any way endangered. It just means that it has entered a new
phase of comfort and depth.
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--- Norton
You have sex with horses in the room?
WOW!!!!!
;-)
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--- Norton
>> Why? First of all, I think masturbation is plenty real. Second, I'm
>> happy with my sex life as it is. I have very good relationships with
>> both my partners, with as much sex as we can manage without scaring the
>> horses.
>
> You have sex with horses in the room?
>
> WOW!!!!!
You don't? Huh. Weird.
It is nice to see that some people keep it up (pun intended). I'm 69
and my wife is 62 and married 11 years. Once or twice a week would
seem like heaven compared to the reality of every 2 or 3 months. Have
done couples therapy and the answer seems to be libido, so/so verses
no/no. :-(
Dave
Right. We call what we have now "ORE", old relationship energy, and
while it doesn't carbonate our hormones in the way it once did, we have
this sweet, steady, and yes, still horny for each other feeling, just
without that crazy brain chemistry that makes it hard to leave the house
or hold down a job. :-)
>
> That does NOT mean that the relationship is doomed or even in
> any way endangered. It just means that it has entered a new
> phase of comfort and depth.
Right. Exactly. I wouldn't want to give up NRE forever, but it can
really give way to something equally delicious and beautiful.
Scaring the horses? - wow, you're scaring me now Serene. Glad you're
happy and getting enough to keep you at home!
Pony
I hate to say this, and it will completely destroy my reputation
around here, but sometimes -- *every now and again* -- I don't really
feel like it. I'd rather answer emails or finish unloading the
dishwasher.
But I almost always go with DH's desires, and 10 times out of 10, I
really get into it. It's like with any inertia. Once you gather up
the necessary energy to get past that initial dead stop, you pick up
speed and catch up quickly. It's all about NOT saying, naw, I don't
feel like it right now, but about smiling and and saying, why the heck
not!
For me, anyway.
JustGB
> I hate to say this, and it will completely destroy my reputation
> around here, but sometimes -- *every now and again* -- I don't really
> feel like it.
*klunk*
:Tom falls out of chair:
> I'd rather answer emails or finish unloading the
> dishwasher.
Well, as long as it's an email to me, I could understand that.
> But I almost always go with DH's desires, and 10 times out of 10, I
> really get into it. It's like with any inertia. Once you gather up
> the necessary energy to get past that initial dead stop, you pick up
> speed and catch up quickly. It's all about NOT saying, naw, I don't
> feel like it right now, but about smiling and and saying, why the heck
> not!
Ah, now I'm with ya.
I once had a partner who used to say "I may not always be in the mood,
but I can usually be _convinced_."
--
Tom Allen
http://vanillaedge.wordpress.com
"I don't have multiple orgasms, myself... I am, however, known to be a
carrier."
>
> I once had a partner who used to say "I may not always be in the mood,
> but I can usually be _convinced_."
Precisely.
JustGB
>>> Why? First of all, I think masturbation is plenty real. Second, I'm
>>> happy with my sex life as it is. I have very good relationships with
>>> both my partners, with as much sex as we can manage without scaring the
>>> horses.
>>
>> You have sex with horses in the room?
>>
>> WOW!!!!!
>You don't? Huh. Weird.
Yeah. Folks is all different!... ;-)
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--- Norton