Muslims in Christian Weddings

Celcius

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Jul 23, 2003, 8:35:04 AM7/23/03

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Hello,

I have a convert friend who is in a mild dilemma. He is a convert with
a Roman Catholic family. One of his sisters is getting married and the
sister wishes for him and his wife to be an usher and bridesmaid. On
top of that the sister also wishes their daughter to be a flower girl.
I told him that in Islamic Spain Jews, Christians and Muslims were
able to participate in each others marriage ceremonies legally. But to
what extent of the participation I did not know.
I feel that as long as no tenets of his faith are challenged then he
is fine.
Which brings us to another dilemma this Roman Catholic reception is
going to have alcohol should he attend or not? Would the insult to the
family be worse than being in the presence of active alcohol
consumption?

Dr. Azeem

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Jul 24, 2003, 10:45:19 AM7/24/03

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There should be no problem as long as you do not do anything that is against
Islam.I was the best man for my friend who is a Christian,I actively
participated in the church wedding but I knew what the limits were.To top it
off he was maried during ramadhan and i was fasting. When I attended the
rehersal, many were surprised to see a Muslim as the best man but were happy
that I was there. So go ahead and attend the wedding ,it will not make you
any less a Muslim .

EAC

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Jul 24, 2003, 12:56:10 PM7/24/03

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So far of faith, I see no reason on why he shouldn't attend his sister
wedding, even with him being the usher and his daughter being the
flower girl.

And also contrary to what some people think, the Qur'an NEVER banned
alcohol, it just told to becareful with it.

Of course, if he feels uneasy of attending the

As for insult to the family being worse than being in the presence of
active alcohol consumption.

Yes. It's very correct. Never broke up the relationship of love
between family and relatives.

Now for 'legality', I don't know, you got to check with the local
goverment first.

Surayya

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Jul 27, 2003, 10:40:09 PM7/27/03

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Celcius <celc...@hotmail.com> writes

>I have a convert friend who is in a mild dilemma.

That is truly pathetic. Look at the state of this, a so-called muslim
MAN who doesn't even know what his obligation is towards his own sister.
I'm sickened. MAKES ME SICK!

> He is a convert with
>a Roman Catholic family. One of his sisters is getting married and the
>sister wishes for him and his wife to be an usher and bridesmaid. On
>top of that the sister also wishes their daughter to be a flower girl.
>I told him that in Islamic Spain Jews, Christians and Muslims were
>able to participate in each others marriage ceremonies legally. But to
>what extent of the participation I did not know.
>I feel that as long as no tenets of his faith are challenged then he
>is fine.

His obligation is towards his family, that is his religious obligation,
especially towards his sister, he is her mahram. To abandon your own
sister on her wedding day is a disgrace.

I was a bridesmaid for my friend, its no different than going to work
each day, you just take what is halal and leave what is haram.

There is a difference between culture & religion, much of weddings is
cultural, a cultural expression of the act of getting married. We
muslims face the same dilemma with muslim marriages, & what to avoid.

>Which brings us to another dilemma this Roman Catholic reception is
>going to have alcohol should he attend or not? Would the insult to the
>family be worse than being in the presence of active alcohol
>consumption?

Many muslims have relatives who sin, we are not allowed to cut family
ties unless they are physically dangerous to us.

Sounds to me as if he is ashamed of being muslim, in front of all those
people. Typical convert.

Aaliyah Olson-Ahmed

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Aug 1, 2003, 3:30:25 PM8/1/03

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Hello/Salaam?

My little sister was married during Ramadan. She and her husband are both
Lutherans in the Christian faith. There were various reasons why I chose
not to attend but I must say that the main reason why is because she wanted
me to be a bridesmaid and the dresses were revealing. My family is not
"islam friendly" and so I knew that if I showed up in my scarf and altered
dress I would upset them. Foremost I felt that I would upset my sister on
the most important day of her life. I made an excuse that I couldn't attend
her wedding (it was 1500 miles away) and I sent a gift. Of course I was sad
because I wanted to go so desperately but I didn't want to risk embarrassing
her, hurting her, or upsetting my family (especially my mother). The second
reason why I chose not to go was because I knew there would be alcohol at
the reception and lots of great songs that I love dancing to. I just didn't
want to place myself in that environment at all even though I knew I could
control myself. So I made those two sacrifices - the first was for her and
my family, and the second was selfishly for myself.

Aaliyah

Surayya

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Sep 19, 2003, 9:15:05 PM9/19/03

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Aaliyah Olson-Ahmed <aaliya...@worldnet.att.net> writes

>The second
>reason why I chose not to go was because I knew there would be alcohol at
>the reception and lots of great songs that I love dancing to. I just didn't
>want to place myself in that environment

Then you should never leave the house at all, if that's your excuse.
Alcohol & dancing is everywhere, even on Eid.

I was a bridesmaid for my born-again christian childhood friend, & I am
more muslim than you! I've been saheli to hindus & sikhs.

You were ashamed to be muslim, & it has nothing to do with any religious
sentiments. The religion doesn't require you to abstain from ceremony.

Even shaykhs go to such functions out of obligation.

Converts are a disgrace, muslims have all kinds of relatives & don't
buck their family obligations.