60.6% of committed relationships made more compatible

[David Dalton]

60.6% of committed relationships have been made more (usually
optimally) compatible by adjustment of the sexual harmonic(s)
of one or both partners, as of 0317 UTC May 8, 2022.

Most of these were cases that were incompatible or partially
(less than optimally, and less likely to stick) compatible
and (1) had been together continuously for at least the last
15 years, and/or (2) were parents of at least one child under
16, including adoptive or fetus.

This includes many now formerly incompatible couples who
had been sticking together for religious reasons.

I say usually optimally since in e.g. cases of gay--lesbian
platonic parenting couples where each has at least one
same sex partner, they (if they meet one or both of (1), (2) )
have become bim--bif, who are partially compatible. Two
such couples are CBC Radio's Odario Williams and Amanda Parris
and now former White House Press Secretary Jen Psaki
and her partner.

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"I gave my love a golden feather/I gave my love a heart of stone/When you
find a golden feather/It means you'll never lose your way back home"(R.R.)

[Queer Senior]

You are correct about compatibility. I have been involved in two long term relationships in my life, the first one was with an absolutely gorgeous guy I met, in all places, in the bookstore of the college I was attending in 1973. I was 18-years-old, but would turn 19 some 2-½-months later, while he was 6-months older. I swear we fell in love the moment we first laid our eyes on each other. After years of struggling with my sexuality, it was at that moment I was finally able to come to terms with the fact that I was Gay, Four days later, we both surrendered our virginity to each other. Our relationship began when we literally crashed into each other and it lasted for 14-years. Too, we both felt the same way about each other, which is why we were so dedicated to each other. That was why it was so heartbreaking when, in July of 1987, he was the innocent victim in a car accident that claimed his life (he was a passenger in a taxi that was hit hard in the rear end by a pickup truck that was driven by an impaired driver). I was devastated, and felt I would never meet someone like that again.

It took me quite a while to recover from his death. After about five years, in 1992, I entered into several brief relationships, but nothing worked. There just wasn't the connection my boyfriend and I had.

Then, after three years of relationships that just didn't have that connection, as I was coming to the realization that there would never be that person whom I really connected with, I met someone in 1995. We met, in of all places, a Gay and Lesbian bookstore. He was several years younger, but we hit it off. It was 1973 all over again. How much of a connection did we have? In 2000, well before same-sex marriages were legal (in Canada), friends arranged for us to have a marriage ceremony, and we even had a non-denominational minister officiate! We got married! It was THE most casual wedding ever! It was held on the beach at a restaurant, and our matching wedding outfits consisted of white t-shirts, white shorts, and white running shoes. Everyone else was in t-shirts and shorts too, including the minister!

Sadly, about two years ago, my husband had developed esophageal cancer. He had been complaining of extreme heartburn for several years, and the heartburn caused irreparable and irreversible damage to his esophagus. At his wish, he didn't want to be hospitalized, as COVID was running rampant, and he wanted to die at home. On July 12th, 2020 at the age of 58, he died! I held his hand as he died!

So now, I've lost my second soulmate. What will happen in the future? I doubt anything. I was fortunate twice to meet that one person I could connect with, the one person who I loved with all my heart and whom love me the same. It's only been two years since "David" died, and now that I'm in my late 60s, I think I'll just take things easy for a while.

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