How to Accept That You Are Gay
If you feel attracted to members of the same sex but cannot find a way to tell the world, then here is a guide to help you out. You have found out your sexual orientation, and you are perfectly normal. Accepting who you are - and being proud of who you are - is the first step on the road to coming out of the closet, and eventually to have a successful gay or lesbian relationship.
�A man waving the Rainbow Flag with Pride at the Christopher Street Parade in Berlin
A man waving the Rainbow Flag with Pride at the Christopher Street Parade in Berlin
Tell yourself that this needs to be done for people to understand you; if you can't accept your sexuality, then other people find it harder to accept you fully. It's your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise. Tell yourself: I am (me). I love myself, and accept myself, and those who judge my exterior will find it harder to know my interior. I am the one and only (me) - there's nobody I'd rather be, and no one can take that away from me.
Realise that you're making a brave choice, and you will be much happier in the long run than if you tried to hide it.
Remember that you didn't choose to be gay; it's impossible to try to think of an explanation or an excuse for loving members of the same sex to a heterosexual person. It is simply a fact of your life.
Know that you are not alone. There are many, many gay people in all sorts of communities, and there are many people there for you when you need support.
Understand that gays and lesbians are no different from any other person. Like everyone else, they have dreams and goals, and want to be happy and lead productive lives.
Show people who you are, if they don't like it, then who cares? Coming out doesn't mean you have to change who you are or what you like. Don't go trying to change yourself because a few people disapprove - there are over 6 billion of us, and you can't please everyone.
Develop and express your individuality. If your preferred way of doing something strays from the mainstream, then be proud of it - you are the one and only you.