A tipping point. A turning point. A line in the sand.
Whatever it was, something happened last Sunday when 14 young teenagers
opened up about their lives � the violence they see, the fear they feel as
they move about their neighborhoods, the friends they've lost to
shootings, the dreams they so fiercely hold � in a story The Enquirer
called, "Being 14 in the city."
What happened is we finally heard them.
They stopped being the nameless kids caught on the edge of a crime-scene
photograph, laying flowers and teddy bears at the site of a friend's
shooting.
Turning 14 in Cincinnati: 'I worry about surviving'
They stopped being "14-year-old arrested for robbery at DeSales Market."
They became Alexis, Armanie, Grady, Jalen, Jamir, Jazonee, Kimera, Lamon,
Malek G., Malik N., Nayla, Savannah, Terri and Tony � real kids caught in
the complexities of neighborhoods that are safe one minute and fatal the
next, of social dynamics that send you out on the street because you can't
sit in the house forever, but make you suspicious of everyone around you,
even your friends.
They became kids who deserve to live and breathe and hang out and have fun
as much as kids in better circumstances do.
That realization set off a conversation that caught fire all week on
Facebook and Twitter, through church groups and community councils, in
judges' chambers and at family dinner tables. We've included some of the
very thoughtful responses we received below; we suspect you heard others.
The basic thread of those conversations was something like this: If, in
their short 14 years of life, these kids have faced poverty, hunger,
academic failure, the incarceration of a parent, the death of a friend,
bullying and multiple family moves � and they're still standing � then
what can our community do to step up and help them?
An opportunity: Here's how you can help
And step up in a fresh, practical new way, without getting stalled in
budgets and initiatives, in placing blame and "studying the issue?"
What if � for example � we helped them find safe ways home from the bus
stop? What if we made sure in every neighborhood there was an easy place
for kids to go and say, "There's no food in my house" or "My mom cries
every night?"
What if we decided to fight actively, rather than passively abide, a
street culture that makes it hard to be smart and easy to be cruel, that
glorifies aggression and normalizes violence?
What if we found a mentor for every kid who wants one, a safe after-school
place for every kid who needs one, a part-time job for every kid who's
ready for one, a second chance for every kid who deserves one?
What if we stopped viewing these kids as threats or tragedies and started
viewing them as survivors � even heroes?
And what if we decided that this is the time to become theirs?
Reaction to '14'
Jack M. Jose, principal, Gamble Montessori High School: I appreciate your
efforts to show what these students' lives are like, and to take the time
to get them in a position where they felt comfortable opening up to you.
Revealing the lives of people who are strangers to us � and adolescents
fit that description even when they come from within our own house � is
the compassionate and revealing side of meaningful reporting. I hope that
it triggers dialogue in homes across Cincinnati � not just in the
neighborhoods mentioned, but in the entire readership of the Enquirer. I
think the first step toward solutions is understanding, and you helped
Cincinnati take that step today.
Hamilton County Municipal Court Judge Fanon A. Rucker: As the father of
two teens and having grown up in almost the same, if not worse,
environment in Gary, Ind., almost 30 years ago, this article reminds me of
how difficult life is for some, and to be mindful that your reality is not
everybody else's. I talk to "successful" folks every day who believe we
all begin this race at the same starting line. Not true.
Ann Boyle, Evendale: I teach at St. Francis de Sales and each day I see
the faces of those same 14-year-olds that you wrote about. For eight hours
we keep them safe and hopefully provide them with life lessons that help
them when they leave our building each night. Thank you for shedding light
on what these children (and they are children) deal with that sometimes is
beyond their control. They have to make choices that are so hard to make.
Hopefully your article will bring more mentors and support to their world.
Kelly Leon, director for strategic communications, Xavier University: I
noticed that one of the young women profiled in your story on
14-year-olds, Savannah Howard, mentioned that she could see herself
attending Xavier University. I have reached out to Savannah's mother to
see if Savannah might need a mentor or big sister in her life and if so,
I'd like to find one of our students, faculty or staff members to fill
that role. Perhaps spending some time on our campus will further reinforce
that she can be a student here someday. We would love to have her and help
her fulfill her dreams.
Kent Wellington, mentor and chair, Cincinnati Youth Collaborative Board of
Trustees: Thanks for the "14" stories. Sadly, they are representative of
many of the vulnerable kids our CYC mentors see. On the bright side, 96%
of CYC-mentored vulnerable kids get back on track and graduate from high
school. The other 4% are positively and forever impacted by strangers who
decide to stop their own personal races to help them. If your readers have
been waiting for the right time to become a mentor, your "14" stories
poignantly illustrate (that) NOW is the time.
Jody McOsker, Loveland: Thank you for writing this story. I am a teacher
at Withrow High School. Sadly, the stories of these children are not
unique. I think most of my students have been directly impacted by
violence that we in the suburbs cannot even imagine. I have students
sporting tattoos or wearing T-shirts declaring RIP for cousins and
brothers and good friends, even parents. If I ask my own kids whether they
know anyone killed by gunfire they look at me as if I were nuts. But I ask
the same question at school and almost all the kids will raise their
hands.
Once, in my first year there seven years ago, I asked a student why he was
fighting after school. He was a really bright kid and had so much
potential. He said he had to fight because if he just tried to walk away
they would come after him even harder; he would be a target. It didn't
really matter, he said. He was actually surprised he was still alive.
There was no point in his mind for planning or working toward anything in
his future.
It is amazing that in this environment, so many kids have the resilience
to overcome the trauma they may have experienced and come out doing well.
When my new grandson was born last week, the nurse was a former student.
I've run into students working in stores, at the zoo, had them visit and
share their success in college. Many of them work their butts off and do
manage to reach their goals. We as a community need to come together and
find a way so that they all have the opportunity to do just that.
Every part of our society seems to work against these kids. Thank you for
giving them a voice. Please continue to do so.
John Pepper: The stories are gut-wrenching. I've heard we are the
second-worst major city in the nation for percentages of children living
in poverty. We celebrate progress on the Banks, we root for the Reds, we
seek political conventions. Yet our attention to this issue is altogether
inadequate, lacking in urgency and united community action.
Thomas A. Dutton, director, Miami University Center for Community
Engagement in Over-the-Rhine: A terrific portrayal of city life through
the lives of 14-year olds! I read every word. That your piece came out
today is an intriguing coincidence in that a piece I've written was just
published this morning on Truth-out.org, titled "Econocide
Over-the-Rhine."
Econocide is not my term, but I do inflect it with certain meanings, some
of which overlap nicely with what you found in those youngsters � it is
extremely difficult sometimes to maintain hope and not slide into a kind
of nothingness. My quick definition of econocide would be to say that the
relation of the "have and have-nots" is really not the primary one today.
No, the dominant relation is now the one between the "haves and
those-not-needed-nor-wanted." That's my fear, and the internalization of
that kind of consciousness is what I fear has happened with many of the
youth you present to us."
Judith Van Ginkel, president, Every Child Succeeds: Thank you for a
humbling but inspiring piece. I am stunned every day by the resilience and
strength of these incredible young people.
Chris Lemmon, Milford: "We invite you to enter the world of 14" has one
common thread � most are lacking a father.
The Rev. Sharon Dittmar, First Unitarian Church, Cincinnati: This is one
of the most important series I have ever seen. Thank you so much. My
congregation is discussing this in some small groups and I will be using
it somehow � blog, Google, something.
Here is where I hope we can leverage some meaningful change. This summer
the I-71 interchange begins at MLK. Will this interchange (going through
Avondale) be used to spur development and support local residents or will
we repeat some Cincinnati history (rip out a neighborhood and move our
poor, local residents out of the development and its benefits). I have
looked and looked and so far I have seen little that speaks to me of real
inclusion and creation of a vibrant mixed neighborhood. We need a new
interchange for everyone, not just for the "haves" speeding to work and
school, but everyone.
It is not about being a bleeding heart. It is looking into the eyes of
these children, residents of our city, and human beings and asking
ourselves if their quality of life is really the best we have to offer as
adults with power, residents of our city and human beings?
Do we want children to grow up afraid to play outside, attending their
best friend's funeral at age 13, dying while waiting for a manicure? Many
of these children will grow up challenged to finish high school, exposed
to criminal activity and violence and without the skills to fuel the
economy and employment situation we want.
To say any less admits our defeat and that I am not willing to do. We are
the ones to make a difference. They are counting on us.
Jared Kamrass, Blue Ash: "Though I've lived in Cincinnati my entire life,
I felt like I was reading about a different city. You successfully changed
the lens through which so many of us view the city that we love."
Tracy Cook, executive director, ProKids: Age 14 is a pivotal moment, where
these often awkward creatures � full of potential � start to leave
childhood behind forever. And what propels them toward their future is the
childhood they experience. Do they have the loving embrace of family,
friends and their community? Are they fearful in their neighborhoods? Do
they experience neglect and abuse at the hands of those they should be
able to trust most?
At 14, the question is their response to their childhoods. Will they
internalize those experiences and become a lifelong victim? Will they lash
out at others? Or can they find the power in themselves to break the
cycle?
What we know at ProKids is that every child is worthy of investment and
that the world needs their gifts. Most of all, we need to not only invest
in our own children but invest in those who have no one else. And we need
to do that today. At ProKids, our staff and volunteers know that with each
abused and neglected child we support, we have a chance to change the arc
of their story. We welcome volunteers who are looking for a way to give a
voice to children of all ages who need an advocate.
Mary Jo Alexander, Green Township: They should be able to be just 14 and
not afraid to leave their homes, walk their streets, be with their
friends. I won't forget these children. Thank you.
Jeff Martin, Finneytown: Great read and very good project. My wife and I
have been fostering and adopting children for the last decade. I couldn't
help but think about the suggestions at the end on ways to help and feel
that there needs to be so much more involvement. What I wish is that folks
get really involved in the lives on these kids and their families. Develop
relationships that last years and years. It's messy. It's hard, but it is
so important. Adoption and foster care are ways to help.
How to help
We hope that reading "Being 14 in the city" inspired you to want to help
young people in our city. As a post on the story said, "Hashtags are very
pretty on Twitter. I love them. I will hashtag myself into next week. But
a hashtag is not a movement. Volunteer some hours."
Here are four life-changing things you can do:
Become a mentor with the Cincinnati Youth Collaborative. Nearly 1,000 kids
are waiting for you. Or sign up to speak about your career, invite a teen
to shadow you at work or make a financial donation. For information or to
find out how to donate:
www.cycyouth.org or
513-363-5203.
Help with summer learning programs, service projects or everyday
recreation at Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Cincinnati, or help fund their
programs. To volunteer,
513-421-8909, ext. 19, or
www.bgcgc.org. To give,
make checks payable to Boys & Girls Clubs of Greater Cincinnati, 600
Dalton Ave., Cincinnati, OH 45203.
The YMCA of Greater Cincinnati always has a critical need for mentors.
Free training is available, and both mentors and mentees receive
complimentary YMCA memberships. To volunteer, call
513-246-3233. To give,
send checks to YMCA of Greater Cincinnati (Attn: Youth Development), 1105
Elm St., Cincinnati, OH 45202.
Tutor, help with projects or donate to the Avondale Youth Council.
Information:
513-281-0599. Give to Avondale Youth Council, 3618 Reading
Road, Cincinnati, OH 45229.
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