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Maya
Nov 18, 2002, 12:39:50 PM11/18/02
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I was adopted and my adoptive parents were/are mostly wonderful.
There was always openness about my adoption and everything has been
'peachy' (concerning the adoption 'thing', being an adoptee etc) until
recently. I'm in my mid thirties and have just given birth to my
gorgeous baby daughter. All of a sudden I have 'issues' with my
parents and my birth parents. It's damned annoying! I don't have time
for it right now and I don't want to upset the people involved (who
are aged and don't need it either - I'm sure) by offloading my
baggage. One thought of these 'issues' leads to a seemingly vast
catacomb of 'hidden' and unresolved feelings. I know that the birth of
my daughter - the pregnancy, the process, the emotions - has been a
catalyst for this but I'm surprised at the intensity of these
feelings, these feelings that something is and has always been missing
- amiss. Has anyone had similar experiences? Any insightful ideas? Ta.
There was always openness about my adoption and everything has been
'peachy' (concerning the adoption 'thing', being an adoptee etc) until
recently. I'm in my mid thirties and have just given birth to my
gorgeous baby daughter. All of a sudden I have 'issues' with my
parents and my birth parents. It's damned annoying! I don't have time
for it right now and I don't want to upset the people involved (who
are aged and don't need it either - I'm sure) by offloading my
baggage. One thought of these 'issues' leads to a seemingly vast
catacomb of 'hidden' and unresolved feelings. I know that the birth of
my daughter - the pregnancy, the process, the emotions - has been a
catalyst for this but I'm surprised at the intensity of these
feelings, these feelings that something is and has always been missing
- amiss. Has anyone had similar experiences? Any insightful ideas? Ta.
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Kathy
Nov 27, 2002, 5:35:32 PM11/27/02
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Hi Maya,
I have an almost identical background, but I searched for my mother in my
early thirties and although she rejected me again it gave me some closure, I
say only some because I am finding out that there seems to be lifelong
emotional issues to deal with regardless. Here is a link that might give you
some information about it http://www.adopting.org/adltcope.html I hope
this helps you a little.
Kathy
I have an almost identical background, but I searched for my mother in my
early thirties and although she rejected me again it gave me some closure, I
say only some because I am finding out that there seems to be lifelong
emotional issues to deal with regardless. Here is a link that might give you
some information about it http://www.adopting.org/adltcope.html I hope
this helps you a little.
Kathy
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Maya
Dec 16, 2002, 2:16:52 PM12/16/02
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Thanx Kathy, that's really nice of you. I haven't had a chance to have
a real good read of the article yet but I will. I almost gave up on a
reply and just thought I'd take a peak today and yay! I suspect (after
a quick look) that the information you've directed me to will help me
understand alot of things. Again, thank you so much for taking the
time.
I'll get back to you after I have a good read. Cheers.
a real good read of the article yet but I will. I almost gave up on a
reply and just thought I'd take a peak today and yay! I suspect (after
a quick look) that the information you've directed me to will help me
understand alot of things. Again, thank you so much for taking the
time.
I'll get back to you after I have a good read. Cheers.
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